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Want a good, therapeutic cry pick up 'you've reached sam'.

Alethea Kontis

Here we are, almost at the end of 2021. It's been a tough couple of years, for everyone. We've all lost so much.

It is said that the physical act of crying can help the healing process ... which is the main reason why I chose to pick up Dustin Thao's beautiful debut novel You've Reached Sam . I knew full well that I was signing up for a tragic love story, and that's exactly what I got. So now I am here to warn you: This book will absolutely make you cry. Make sure you've got a box of tissues handy, and I mean a full box. But if you are anything like me, you will not regret the time spent with this gorgeous story.

The heartbreak starts in Chapter One: Sam Obayashi is dead, his young life cut short by a tragic automobile accident. His girlfriend — 17-year-old Julie — is having an incredibly hard time coming to terms. Sam was on his way to pick her up that night, so of course she blames herself. As do others. She honestly doesn't know how to function at school or in her life without him. Because she shouldn't have had to.

Julie pushes away beloved friends and family, without ever considering how much they might be going through. She rids herself of everything that reminds her of Sam, including deleting his texts, voicemails, and contact information off her phone. It doesn't take her long to regret that move. Frantically, she dials Sam's number one last time, hoping she remembers it correctly, just to hear his voice on the away message.

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Only ... Sam answers.

Yes, Sam is still very much dead, but somehow he is able to communicate with Julie. He can't give her specifics; he knows that their ability to talk like this won't last forever, but he will always pick up when she calls. And this time, he won't leave before they are able to say good-bye.

Dustin Thao presents Sam and Julie's tale in an enchanting non-chronological collage of cherry blossoms and scenes from their love story: the meet-cute, the first kiss, the awkward moments, the misunderstandings, the promises made and left unfulfilled. Woven through the dreams and memories is Julie's painful life as the sun continues to rise and set and graduation approaches. She knows that eventually she has to find her way without Sam, but she just can't bring herself to say the words that will sever the link between them.

Unlike the grief we've all been experiencing, Julie's grief — or her understanding of it, anyway — is resolved by the end of the book. I recognized this kindness as the small blessing it was. Sam and Julie's love story allowed me to have a good, therapeutic cry, as well as the ability to shut the cover and walk away at the end. I would recommend not staying up late to finish, though, as much as you might want to. I wept hardest before falling asleep, and my sinuses were extremely angry with me the next morning.

I will also add that with regard to the experience of grief and the expression of feelings, I can only speak to my experience. Teens who have lost loved ones and who might relate to Julie and Sam on a more personal level would be advised to approach You've Reached Sam with caution.

Much love and many hugs to all of you, always!

Alethea Kontis is a voice actress and award-winning author of over 20 books for children and teens.

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You've reached sam, common sense media reviewers.

Heartbreaking tale deals with love, loss, second chances.

A Lot or a Little?

What you will—and won't—find in this book.

Meant to entertain rather than educate.

Family, friendship, gratitude, compassion, empathy

These are strong, kind, thoughtful, and sensitive

Diverse representations include Japanese and Japan

Characters blame Julie for Sam's death. A girl pun

Characters kiss, make out, and go skinny dipping.

Characters use variations of "s--t," "asshole," "g

Sam's favorite band was the Screaming Trees. Other

Some underage drinking and mentions of adults drin

Educational Value

Positive messages.

Family, friendship, gratitude, compassion, empathy, and communication are important things. Find ways to balance remembering your loved ones with living your life and remember that you don't have to grieve alone.

Positive Role Models

These are strong, kind, thoughtful, and sensitive characters. They find ways to support one another and help one another grieve.

Diverse Representations

Diverse representations include Japanese and Japanese American characters. Julie and Sam are an interracial couple (he's Japanese American and she cues as White.) One character reveals he's gay.

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Characters blame Julie for Sam's death. A girl punches a drunk college student in a bar. She also gets into a fight at school. A White character makes anti-Asian comments.

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Sam's favorite band was the Screaming Trees. Other brands and pop culture mentions include Radiohead, Fleetwood Mac, Carole King, The Hitchhiker's Guide to the Galaxy , Facebook, Twitter, and more.

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Some underage drinking and mentions of adults drinking champagne.

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Parents Need to Know

Parents need to know that Dustin Thao's You've Reached Sam is a heartbreaking tale about love, loss, regret, and second chances. Seventeen-year-old Julie Clarke gets a second chance to say goodbye to her boyfriend when he unexpectedly answers her phone call after dying in a car accident. Characters blame Julie for Sam's death. Throughout the novel, she and other characters try to process their grief. A girl punches a drunk college student in a bar. She also gets into a fight at school. A White character makes anti-Asian comments. Characters kiss, make out, and go skinny dipping. Strong language includes variations of "s--t," "asshole," and "god's sake." There are brief mentions of underage drinking, beer, and adults drinking champagne.

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What's the Story?

In YOU'VE REACHED SAM, 17-year-old Julie Clarke's life is drastically changed when her boyfriend, Sam, dies and she isn't given a chance to say goodbye. Heartbroken and unable to process her grief, Julie does everything to erase Sam from her life. She skips his funeral, gets rid of all his things, and deletes every text message and voicemail she has from Sam. But what happens when Julie calls Sam's phone and he picks up? How will Julie use her second chance to say goodbye, and will she be able to let him go?

Is It Any Good?

Dustin Thao's heartbreaking novel tackles love, loss, regret, and second chances while reminding teens that they'd don't have to grieve alone. At times, Julie is so consumed by her grief that she fails to see how deeply others are hurting. And while readers never find out why she and Sam can communicate, they'll appreciate the way Julie sacrifices her connection with Sam to help his family and friends heal. As You've Reached Sam progresses and Julie finds a way to say goodbye to Sam, teens will understand the importance of gratitude, compassion, empathy, and communication.

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Book Details

Author : Dustin Thao
Genre : Contemporary Fiction
Topics : Friendship , Great Boy Role Models , Great Girl Role Models , High School
Book type : Fiction
Publisher : Wednesday Books
Publication date : November 9, 2021
Publisher's recommended age(s) : 12 - 18
Number of pages : 304
Available on : Nook, Audiobook (unabridged), Hardback, iBooks, Kindle
Last updated : January 4, 2022

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Book Review

You’ve reached sam.

Dustin Thao
Romance , Science Fiction , Young Adult Fiction

Readability Age Range

12 to 18 years old
Wednesday Books
New York Times bestseller; Cosmo.com Best YA Book Of 2021; 2021 Kids' Indie Next List Selection

Year Published

Julie is distraught. It’s hard for her to move , much less talk to others. In fact, after losing her boyfriend, Sam, in a tragic car accident, her whole life seems to be tipped sideways. All she can think of is his sweet smile, his gentle touch, his voice. Julie even goes so far as to call Sam’s phone, just for the chance to hear his voice on the voicemail message. But then … Sam answers.

Plot Summary

How do you deal with something impossible?

After all, “impossible” things do happen. Getting that A on a test that you didn’t study hard enough for, for example, or finding a totally unexpected friendship in the midst of a group of people you’ve never been able to stand. Both are kind of impossible, but they happened for Julie.

For Julie, just meeting and falling in love with Sam Obayashi was impossible. All the pieces had to fall together perfectly for it to happen. But it happened.

And in each of those impossible cases—the test, the friendship, Sam—Julie had to decide what to do next.

With the lucky test, it drove her to study harder next time and keep the streak going. The friendship? She invested time and saw it grow. With Sam, their connection led to something of a total life-goal transformation. Because let’s face it, there are so many new possibilities in the face of impossible teen love.

Then Sam died in a car accident.

And that was the most impossible and completely horrible thing Julie could never imagine. All their plans for college, for getting out of town together, for taking a trip to Japan together, for spending forever together; it was all blipped out of existence in a heartbeat when that speeding truck crossed a double highway line. Impossible.

Since that day, Julie’s life has pretty much stopped, too. The heartbreak and grief consume her. She hasn’t been able to move, much less talk to others. She couldn’t even attend Sam’s funeral. She’s a hollow shell of a 17-year-old girl. Sitting on her bed day after day. Staring at the wall.

All she can do is remember his sweet smile, his gentle hand wrapped in hers, his voice—all tumbling over and over in her head. It’s like having an unquenchable thirst for the impossible. Julie can’t and never will have Sam back again.

The only thing she can hope for is to maybe hear his voice one more time before his parents shut his phone down. She reaches for her phone and calls his voicemail, just to hear him say Hello, this is Sam one last time. Or maybe two times. Three?

But when Julie calls the number, something unexpected happens: someone answers.

Julie … Are you there?

That voice, it’s faint and raspy like the murmur of the ocean in a seashell, but Julie knows that voice like her own. She’s heard it a thousand times on this very phone. But it couldn’t be … Sam?

Can you hear me? he says. Julie?

It’s not a recording or a message. It’s not a trick. That’s Sam. Her Sam. And in one instant all the feelings and unsaid things that Julie has had bottled up for the last torment-filled week splash out like an ice-cold, salty wave on a sunbaked beach. It’s Sam!

Of course, it’s also completely and utterly impossible !

So, how does Julie deal with that?

Christian Beliefs

Other belief systems.

At first, Julie wonders if her calls with Sam are all in her head. Could she be having some kind of mental breakdown? But eventually it becomes clear that Julie and Sam’s connection is something else. “Maybe this is a gift or a glitch in the universe,” Julie reasons.

Later we find out that it’s possible for others to hear Sam, too. How it all works is never fully defined. There is, however, a certain set of rules about their calls—calls that become less clear and spaced further apart with time.

Sam suggests the connection is simply an emotional force that “gives them a chance to say goodbye.” Goodbye isn’t something, though, that Julie can easily say. She stretches the string of calls out as long as possible.

Nor is it explained where Sam is. He’s unable to define his location or surrounding other than seeing a view of endless skies or endless fields.

In addition to the secret calls to her dead boyfriend, Julie is also plagued with uncomfortable dreams about Sam and difficult situations. A foreign exchange student friend named Yuki gives Julie a moon crystal that she says will “ward away negative energy.” Julie carries the crystal with her, and it appears to help.

Yuki also suggests they gather friends and launch some memory lanterns on Sam’s behalf. It’s explained that when they release the paper lanterns (that use a small candle to heat the lantern’s internal air and cause it to float skyward), it will help a spirit move on. “The lanterns will guide them to where they need to go,” Yuki notes. She also says that the lanterns will carry any last “whispered messages” to the deceased. The friends gather and send the lanterns skyward in a memorial-like service.

Authority Roles

Julie’s dad left the family. She flashes back to a memory of her parents arguing and her mother throwing her dad’s clothes out into the yard. We never see Julie’s father other than that glimpse. As for her mother, she’s a teacher at the local college who espouses undefined but controversial ideas. In fact, her perspectives end up causing trouble when she spurs students into protesting.

We don’t see a lot of heartfelt moments between Julie and her mom, despite Julie’s obvious emotional pain. But she’s not totally oblivious, either. Mom does reach out and remark about their distance since Sam’s death.

Mr. Lee, the owner of the local bookstore where Julie works, is a caring individual. Again, we don’t see him often, but when we do, he is kind and very sensitive to Julie’s loss, reaching out to comfort her.

Once Julie begins to open up to people again, we see that she and Sam’s family once had a close relationship. They invite her to join them for dinner when she’s able.

Profanity & Violence

There are several misuses of God’s name and a few of “dang it.” Julie flashes back to going to a party with Sam and his cousin where high school kids drink beer. Sam gets a little tipsy. An after-party for a local film festival features a champagne fountain (though only adults drink from it).

We hear about Sam’s accident. And though it’s not graphically described, we are told of Sam pulling himself out of the wreck and then walking off before collapsing and dying from internal injuries. In a flashback memory, Julie, Sam and Sam’s cousin, Mika, (all underage) sneak into a bar to watch a music group playing there. While there, a drunk patron grabs Julie roughly around the waist, then he and Sam get into a shoving match. It’s Mika, however, who ends the altercation by using her martial arts skills to break the drunk’s wrist. Mika also stands up to some other school bullies and ends up with a bruise on her face after being hit with a purse.

Sexual Content

In the course of flashbacks, Sam and Julie kiss several times. We also discover that Sam’s best friend, Oliver, had feelings for Sam that went beyond friendship. Oliver never acted on those secret feelings, but it’s made clear that Julie “and Oliver loved Sam in the same way.” It’s implied that Oliver and another guy later develop feelings for each other when “sparks” fly between them.

Discussion Topics

You’ve Reached Sam talks of dealing with the painful loss of a loved one. But does it encourage you to say or do things with the living people around you? And if you know of someone who’s lost someone dear, how do you think you should approach or help them? Has this book given you some new insights in that area?

Psalm 34:18 says: “The Lord is near to the brokenhearted and saves the crushed in spirit.” How do you think God does that? And Matthew 5:4 says: “Blessed are they that mourn: for they shall be comforted.” How do you think that promise works?

Where do you turn when painful things happen in your life? What’s one thing you can take from this book that might be helpful on that front?

Get free discussion questions for books at focusonthefamily.com/magazine/thriving-family-book-discussion-questions .

Additional Comments

You’ve Reached Sam has an appealing Twilight Zone -like premise. It clearly speaks to the debilitating grief someone can feel when losing a loved one, asking the question: “What would you say if you had one more chance to say goodbye?” And the story also suggests that personal healing from a great loss can be aided by friends and family connections.

That said, this book can definitely feel emotionally overwrought at times, as well as being very slowly paced. And though it’s designed to help readers work through their emotional responses to death, story scenes could be triggering for some.

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Review by Bob Hoose

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YOU'VE REACHED SAM

by Dustin Thao ‧ RELEASE DATE: Nov. 2, 2021

A rambling tale about grief that will appeal to patient, sentimental readers.

Technology prevails over death, giving a teenage couple a second chance at goodbye.

High school senior Julie is paralyzed with grief over her boyfriend Sam’s death in a car accident. She avoids his funeral and throws away every reminder of him. They had planned to leave their small Pacific Northwest town together, and she now faces an uncertain and empty future. But one night she impulsively dials his cell, and, inexplicably, Sam answers. This is the first of many long conversations they have, neither understanding how or why this is happening but relishing the chance to say goodbye as they could not in life. However, Julie faces a difficult choice: whether or not to alleviate the pain of Sam’s loved ones by allowing them to talk to him, though it could put their own connection at risk. Yet, letting go and moving on might be just what she needs. The emotional tenor of the book is even throughout, making the characters feel remote at times and flattening the impact of momentous events—such as Julie and Sam’s first conversation—that are often buried in minor, day-in-the-life details. The time skips can also be difficult to follow. But the concept is a smart one and is sure to intrigue readers, especially those grappling with separation, loss, and mortality. Sam is cued as Japanese American; Julie defaults to White.

Pub Date: Nov. 2, 2021

ISBN: 978-1-250-76203-0

Page Count: 304

Publisher: Wednesday Books

Review Posted Online: Aug. 15, 2021

Kirkus Reviews Issue: Sept. 1, 2021

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by Laura Nowlin ‧ RELEASE DATE: April 1, 2013

There’s not much plot here, but readers will relish the opportunity to climb inside Autumn’s head.

The finely drawn characters capture readers’ attention in this debut.

Autumn and Phineas, nicknamed Finny, were born a week apart; their mothers are still best friends. Growing up, Autumn and Finny were like peas in a pod despite their differences: Autumn is “quirky and odd,” while Finny is “sweet and shy and everyone like[s] him.” But in eighth grade, Autumn and Finny stop being friends due to an unexpected kiss. They drift apart and find new friends, but their friendship keeps asserting itself at parties, shared holiday gatherings and random encounters. In the summer after graduation, Autumn and Finny reconnect and are finally ready to be more than friends. But on August 8, everything changes, and Autumn has to rely on all her strength to move on. Autumn’s coming-of-age is sensitively chronicled, with a wide range of experiences and events shaping her character. Even secondary characters are well-rounded, with their own histories and motivations.

Pub Date: April 1, 2013

ISBN: 978-1-4022-7782-5

Page Count: 336

Publisher: Sourcebooks Fire

Review Posted Online: Feb. 12, 2013

Kirkus Reviews Issue: March 1, 2013

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The Plague has left a population divided between Elites and Ordinaries—those who have powers and those who don’t; now, an Ordinary teen fights for her life.

Paedyn Gray witnessed the king kill her father five years ago, and she’s been thieving and sleeping rough ever since, all while faking Psychic abilities. When she inadvertently saves the life of Prince Kai, she becomes embroiled in the Purging Trials, a competition to commemorate the sickness that killed most of the kingdom’s Ordinaries. Kai’s duties as the future Enforcer include eradicating any remaining Ordinaries, and these Trials are his chance to prove that he’s internalized his brutal training. But Kai can’t help but find Pae’s blue eyes, silver hair, and unabashed attitude enchanting. She likewise struggles to resist his stormy gray eyes, dark hair, and rakish behavior, even as they’re pitted against each other in the Trials and by the king himself. Scenes and concepts that are strongly reminiscent of the Hunger Games fall flat: They aren’t bolstered by the original’s heart or worldbuilding logic that would have justified a few extreme story elements. Illogical leaps and inconsistent characterizations abound, with lighthearted romantic interludes juxtaposed against genocide, child abuse, and sadism. These elements, which are not sufficiently addressed, combined with the use of ableist language, cannot be erased by any amount of romantic banter. Main characters are cued white; the supporting cast has some brown-skinned characters.

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Book Review: You’ve Reached Sam by Dustin Thao

In Dustin Thao’s debut novel You’ve Reached Sam , seventeen-year-old Julie struggles to readjust to life following the sudden loss of her boyfriend Sam. In a desperate moment of wanting to hear his voice again, Julie dials Sam’s number and is shocked yet delighted when he picks up the phone.

It is a well-documented fact within every form of storytelling that there is nothing like the destructive feeling of your first heartbreak. For most teenagers, a bad breakup is the end of the world. You’ve Reached Sam takes this crushing idea a step further: what if your first heartbreak is because your boyfriend dies? What could be worse than the end of the world?

Julie truly seems to be at the end of her world. She and Sam had made plans to move interstate after high school graduation and start the next phase of their life together. Now all of this has disappeared in an instant. She was never a social butterfly, but Sam was one part of her steady social life. Now she has isolated herself, barely even speaking to her mother despite living under the same roof. Sam was on his way to pick her up from the bus stop when a truck slammed into his car. Some of his friends blame Julie for his death. Worrying that they may be right, Julie further suffocates from her grief.

The greatest triumph of You’ve Reached Sam is how it explores grief. While Julie may think that her love story is continuing, given that she has a magical chance to reconnect with Sam and revisit all the ways they fell in love, You’ve Reached Sam is really a story of loss and memory. It is an effort to answer the impossible question: how do we move on after the death of a loved one? How do we deal with being the one left behind? How are we possibly expected to keep living?

The novel’s publication after the beginning of the COVID-19 pandemic means that You’ve Reached Sam exists in a world where the themes of the novel have been brought to the front of everyone’s mind more so than before: the presence of death, loss and memory is more felt now in the midst of such a frightening climate.

You’ve Reached Sam is far from the first story to tackle the impossible question of how to move on after the death of a loved one. It joins a vast canon of YA novels that have tried to answer this question, like If I Stay by Gayle Forman and Looking for Alaska by John Green. But a more recent example of a story like You’ve Reached Sam in our new COVID-world is less expected: WandaVision. On the surface, a young adult novel about a high school teenager and a Marvel Cinematic Universe TV series about a superhero may not appear to have that much in common. But they both follow the same story: the main character suddenly loses their romantic partner only to discover a magical solution to bring them back into their life. Everything seems rosy at first and we are happy that they have reunited with their love, but as the story progresses, we realise that the magical presence of their loved one is holding them back from being able to face reality and move on. At the climax of WandaVision when Wanda finally opens herself up to the grieving process, she revisits a memory where Vision delivers the standout line of the series: ‘But what is grief, if not love persevering?’

Julie is plagued by love persevering. By clinging to the feeling of being in love with Sam, she is unable to properly deal with his death, developing a strong pattern of avoidance when it comes to anything to do with Sam’s death: attending his funeral, visiting his family, holding vigils with his friends. Vision’s words are meant as a comfort to Wanda—your negative emotion of grief comes only because you felt the positive emotion of love—but Julie’s story shows how that comfort can be harmful if it cements into true denial of reality. You’ve Reached Sam reveals how we should remember our loved ones but not at the cost of living.

One of the strengths of Thao’s writing is the realism with which Julie’s emotions constantly swing back and forth like a pendulum. This is revealed in the opening sentence of the book: ‘The second I close my eyes, the memories play, and I find myself back at the beginning.’ However, Thao’s realistic depiction of grief does clash with the traditional structure of the novel at times. Grief is often a non-linear and illogical experience. It does not lend itself to a neat three-act arc with specific milestones and story beats. It comes and goes in bursts and slams until one day you realise that you have been alright for the past few months—not happy, but alright. And that at some point you had begun the long journey of moving on. Readers look for sense and order in stories but, understandably, there is currently no sense and order in Julie’s life. The book does float back and forth in time between the present day and Julie’s three years of memories with Sam. This achieves an accurate depiction of how we remember but is not enough to steady Julie’s wild range of emotions.

You’ve Reached Sam also challenges the idea of a socially acceptable performance of grief. Julie is quickly criticised for her actions immediately after Sam’s death: she missed the funeral, she forgot to send his family flowers, she didn’t finish her homework even though she already had an extension. The problem, of course, lies in the idea that the funeral is a chance for the living to acknowledge Sam’s life and move on, while Julie is still mentally stuck with Sam in the world of the dead. But she is ostracised for taking longer than others to come to terms with his death.

You’ve Reached Sam is a heartbreaking and enlightening read that willingly embraces the full extent of grief felt by its teenage protagonist.

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Seventeen-year-old Julie has her future all planned out—move out of her small town with her boyfriend Sam, attend college in the city, spend a summer in Japan. But then Sam dies. And everything changes.

Heartbroken, Julie skips his funeral, throws out his things, and tries everything to forget him and the tragic way he died. But a message Sam left behind in her yearbook forces back memories. Desperate to hear his voice one more time, Julie calls Sam’s cellphone just to listen to his voicemail.

And Sam picks up the phone.

In a miraculous turn of events, Julie’s been given a second chance at goodbye. The connection is temporary. But hearing Sam’s voice makes her fall for him all over again, and with each call it becomes harder to let him go. However, keeping her otherworldly calls with Sam a secret isn’t easy, especially when Julie witnesses the suffering Sam’s family is going through. Unable to stand by the sidelines and watch their shared loved ones in pain, Julie is torn between spilling the truth about her calls with Sam and risking their connection and losing him forever.

I love how out of the box this story is. The phone calls between Julie and Sam allow us to see parts of their relationship that often get lost during grief– like just the normal types of conversations or the way they kind of pick at each other, the way couples sometimes do when they’ve been together a long time.

The loss of Sam impacts Julie’s whole community, and she doesn’t realize until she begins talking to him again that she’s withdrawn not only from his family but from her other friends and even her own family. At first the calls seem to help her regain her feet and process her emotions. Eventually, they morph into something else, though. And it becomes more and more clear that the calls can’t continue forever or be an alternative to saying goodbye.

I loved the way music was present in the story. One of the songs that’s really special to Julie and Sam is a song called “Fields of Gold,” which I had to go listen to as soon as I finished reading the book. I’d heard it before, and listening to it again I felt like it fit the story so perfectly.

There are a couple places that I thought the story got a little bit choppy or seemed like it was summarizing things in a hurry to get to the next big moment. Other than that, though, I felt like YOU’VE REACHED SAM tells a beautiful story about loss that’s rich with emotions and celebrates the connections we make with the people in our lives. Readers who enjoyed WE CAN BE HEROES by Kyrie McCauley will want to check this one out, too.

Content Notes for You’ve Reached Sam

Recommended for Ages 13 up.

Representation Julie’s boyfriend Sam is Japanese American. A minor character is gay. Other minor characters are Asian.

Profanity/Crude Language Content Strong profanity used very infrequently.

Romance/Sexual Content References to kissing. Sam and Julie go skinny dipping together in a lake.

Spiritual Content Julie is able to speak with Sam through the phone, even though he’s dead.

Violent Content A couple of fistfights.

Drug Content Julie goes to a party where teens are drinking. She accepts a beer but plans to dump it out and refill the bottle with cranberry juice, a trick she learned from her mom.

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I loved this book! I can’t wait to see what Dustin writes next.

Yes! I definitely want to read more by him. I thought there was a lot to love in this one, too. ?

I’ve been wanting to read this book! It was recommended to me a while back and has been near the top of my TBR list ever since. I’m not a big romance reader, but this book seems different from the “usual” romances.

It IS really different. Definitely about love but I’d say really more about grief than romance. I hope you enjoy it when you get a chance to read it! ?

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Review | You’ve Reached Sam – Dustin Thao

I’ve realized I’m really good at reading books and sometimes just forgetting to review. That is what happened with You’ve Reached Sam. I had an e-arc and read it in April 2021. When I did this I figured I’d review around release day, but that totally slipped my mind. So today I’m finally here to tell you about this book and what I thought!

And Sam picks up the phone.

When I first saw You’ve Reached Sam it was being pitched for fans of Your Name. I saw that movie with my boyfriend a while back and it such an emotional, but beautiful story. With that recommendation and the synopsis I knew I had to read this book. You’ve Reached Sam was a book I couldn’t put down once I started. This book was definitely an emotional roller coaster.

Our main character Julie loses the love of her life Sam in a tragic accident. They had their whole future planned out and then it’s just all gone. She shuts herself off from the world, doesn’t go to his funeral, throws out his stuff and hopes by doing this that the pain will go away. When things get bad she decides to call him one last time to hear his voice on his voicemail. She never expects him to pick up. Afraid of losing him again if she tells anyone about these phone calls she keeps it to herself.

When Julie talks to Sam their conversations bring Julie to different places and has her do different things. There were many emotional moments that definitely had me in tears. I can’t imagine losing the love of my life and hope to never experience it. Especially not in such a tragic way. The moments between them are beautiful, but also sad.

You’ve Reached Sam didn’t get a full five stars from me, because there were a certain things that just didn’t work for me. While I loved the whole journey of Sam talking to Julie the ending of the book seemed to go a bit fast for me. Julie shuts herself off from the world and also the others who loved Sam. Some of this gets resolved before the end of the book, but I felt this was also kind of rushed through. I know the story is more Julie and Sam, but I think in the matter of losing someone and grieving that I needed to see more of the people in her life.

All in all You’ve Reached Sam is a story about love, grief, moving on, and learning how to do that. It’s not something that just goes away and we all do this in our own way. This story definitely tugged on my heartstrings.

You’ve Reached Sam is definitely an emotional read and I can’t wait to see what this author gives us next! What was the last emotional book you read? I’m always looking for books that hit me in all the feels, so let me know in the comments!

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I really enjoyed this book too! Definitely an interesting read. I never thought about it as a pitch for Your Name fans ? I can kinda see the enticement

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Julie and Sam have planned everything. Where they will live, where they will go to college, and all the little details that go into building a future. But the night Sam dies in a car accident, Julie gives up all hope for any future without Sam. Drowning in grief, Julie refuses to attend his funeral and sets herself on a path to forget everything. Until one night Julie calls Sam, desperate to hear his voice once more. And he picks up.

You’ve Reached Sam has the potential to be a powerful story about overcoming the loss of a loved one. And at the start of the novel, I loved the concept of Sam and Julie maintaining their connection beyond the grave. But the emotional connection wasn’t always present for me. Julie’s relationship with Sam is shown through flashbacks and moments where Sam and Julie reminisce over the phone. I wish there had been more of a foundation for their relationship. Watching the slow build-up of love and the sudden loss of it would have made a heavier impact.

However, the repercussions of Julie missing Sam’s funeral and the subsequent memorials for him made a huge impact on the story. Every character who had a connection to the couple shared their various opinions on Julie’s actions. And many in their own grief mistook her suffering as negligence. Witnessing Julie navigate through her various relationships and struggle to come to terms with her impact on them was complex and well done.

Sam’s phone calls showed firsthand how Julie was in denial over his death. How she wanted so desperately to never lose him. But the magical realism of the phone calls didn’t follow the flow of the story. It wasn’t just Julie’s progression through grief influencing them. Sharing her secret seemed to have the greater impact. Each time she gave a piece of her secret conversation away, it became harder to reach out to Sam. And yet Julie wasn’t moving forward to closure as quickly as the phone calls were. The ending left me wanting for more, and wishing for a tidier closure.

If you are looking to see if this type of fiction is right for you, pick up You’ve Reached Sam . It does not go as deeply into the stages of grief as some other YA novels, and you’ll be able to see if it is something you’d like to continue reading.

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An Instant New York Times Bestseller! If I Stay meets Your Name in Dustin Thao's You've Reached Sam , a heartfelt novel about love and loss and what it means to say goodbye. Seventeen-year-old Julie Clarke has her future all planned out―move out of her small town with her boyfriend Sam, attend college in the city; spend a summer in Japan. But then Sam dies. And everything changes. Heartbroken, Julie skips his funeral, throws out his belongings, and tries everything to forget him. But a message Sam left behind in her yearbook forces memories to return. Desperate to hear him one more time, Julie calls Sam's cell phone just to listen to his voice mail recording. And Sam picks up the phone. The connection is temporary. But hearing Sam's voice makes Julie fall for him all over again and with each call, it becomes harder to let him go. What would you do if you had a second chance at goodbye? A 2021 Kids' Indie Next List Selection A Cosmo.com Best YA Book Of 2021 A Buzzfeed Best Book Of November A Goodreads Most Anticipated Book

Reading age 12 - 18 years
Print length 304 pages
Language English
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"I knew full well that I was signing up for a tragic love story, and that's exactly what I got. So now I am here to warn you: This book will absolutely make you cry. Make sure you've got a box of tissues handy, and I mean a full box." ―NPR.org "This young adult novel’s enthralling premise and gorgeous, manga-style cover art promise an emotional ride. Thao does not disappoint. You’ve Reached Sam punches directly in the chest during countless moments that hit right on target." ―Associated Press “You’ve Reached Sam is a hauntingly remarkable debut. Dustin Thao gently weaves grief, regret, second chances, and the honestly beautiful moments we carry from a first love. Every tear you will shed reading this book will be worth it." ―Julian Winters, award-winning author of Running With Lions "If you like your contemporaries with a tiny piece of magic, this emotional YA is perfect for you." ―BuzzFeed "Thao skillfully marries a quiet, elegiac novel about grief with a provocative sf conceit. A poignant and moving read." ―Booklist "Have your tissues at the ready when you dive into Dustin Thao's emotional novel You've Reached Sam ." ―PopSugar "The writing is captivating and beautifully done, immediately drawing readers into imaginative and well-developed scenes. [A] beautifully written exploration of grief... You’ve Reached Sam is an impactful debut. The question at the center of the book and the paranormal premise combine to create a narrative full of heart." ―The Young Folks "A heart-breaking story of grief and loss, You've Reached Sam is a YA magical realism read about healing and moving on." ―Young Adult Books Central "...this debut novel will draw readers in and shatter their hearts in the best way." ―Bulletin of the Center for Children's Books "A heartfelt story about love, loss, and grief, Dustin Thao’s bittersweet novel You’ve Reached Sam will likely make you shed some tears." ―Culturess "A touch of magic, first love and loss, this is the story of romance and heartache." ―SheReads "You’ve Reached Sam is a quiet exploration of grief and the ways in which we cope with losing the ones we love too soon. If you’re in need of a good, cathartic crying session, this one’s for you!" ―The Nerd Daily

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You’ve Reached Sam by Dustin Thao // A Book Review

After I finished Six of Crows , I needed a new book to read until my buddy reading partner was ready to start Crooked Kingdom . So, on a Friday night, I pulled You’ve Reached Sam off of my bookshelf, where it had been sitting patiently for about six months, and started reading.

Little did I know that the book I decided to read on a whim would be just as beautiful on the inside as it is on the outside.

Little did I know that this little 296 page book would make me burst into tears before I finished the first chapter.

Little did I know that You’ve Reached Sam would keep me up for the next four hours until I had to go to bed so I wouldn’t make myself sick from lack of sleep.

“But the truth is, no one experiences grief the same way, and we all come out of it differently.”

You’ve Reached Sam is a heartbreaking story about grief, second chances, and the hope that lingers in between the broken shards of a life we planned with such care.

This is probably the most painful story I’ve ever read because there have been times in my life when I was Julie…when I wanted a chance to say goodbye…when I didn’t know how to let go and move forward. I’ve always been a planner. I like to know what’s happening and I struggle with true spontaneity. This part of Julie’s story felt like looking into a mirror because everything she felt and thought was something that I could have written at a point in my life when grief was all I knew.

I lost a friend in high school. We were never close friends, but he was always nice to me. We were both seniors, and after he died my entire senior class fell apart. It wasn’t until he was gone that I realized he’d been the glue holding us together. That experience changed me forever because it was the first time I’d ever truly experienced grief.

Reading this book brought all of those feelings back. It reopened so many old memories of the people I’ve lost.

But I’ve learned that no matter how much time passes, grief never truly goes away… It is such a universal feeling that affects everyone differently, which is why these kind of stories are so important. When we’re in the midst of our grief, we think we’re alone and that nobody understands. But it’s stories like this one that reach into our darkness and remind us that we are known…that we are never alone…and that those we love will always be with us.

Content Warning

Death, grief, car accident, racism, cursing, alcohol, bullying, brief descriptions of kissing, and a side character comes out as gay to a friend.

If you have recently lost someone or are in the midst of grieving, I recommend letting this book stay on your TBR a little longer. You’ve Reached Sam offers a very raw and honest glimpse at how grief affects not only ourselves, but also the people around us. When I first lost my friend, I needed to step back from stories that involved grief as a main plot point, and if you need to do the same, please know that there is nothing wrong with that. You need to take care of you, and if that means taking a break from certain stories, then don’t guilt yourself about doing what’s best for your mental health during fragile times. ❤

What I Liked

The premise. What I love about this premise is that it relies on a question we’ve all asked: What would you do if you had a chance to say goodbye? Anyone who’s ever lost someone knows how utterly devastating it is to realize that you’ll never get another chance to talk to that person ever again. So, the idea of that one person actually picking up the phone when we just want to hear their voice one last time is not only compelling, but something that I think we all wish would happen.

After my friend from high school died, I sent him a text message. I told him that I missed him, and that I wasn’t ready to let him go just yet. It felt stupid to send a message to someone who was dead, but it was something that I needed to do. I never got to say goodbye to him, and there are a lot of other people who never got to say goodbye either, so I think that’s a huge reason why this book is so appealing and cathartic for people.

The characters. I’ve seen a lot of reviews from people who didn’t like the characters, especially Julie. But I think their reasons for disliking her are the exact reasons that I loved her. We meet her in the midst of her grief when she is literally at her worst. In fact, none of the characters in this story are portrayed in their best moments. Everyone in this story is completely broken. They are trying to make it through each day while learning how to live again, which is never a pleasant journey. In my mind, Julie is not meant to be an overly loveable character—she’s meant to be a realistic character. So, while I understand the argument that Julie is an unlikeable character, I think that just enhances her arc because nobody going through grief is fun to be around. When you are in that dark place, you aren’t thinking about being nice—you’re trying to think of reasons to stay alive and keep waking up because you truly don’t know if there will ever be a day that feels normal or complete ever again. And I think the author captured that really well.

The “before” sections. Normally I dislike how novels jump back and forth between the time before a character death and after a character death. But this one felt fresh and unique because all of the before sections are written in a way that creates this montage, dreamlike transition from one memory to another. I’ve never seen an author do this before, and it was one of my favorite parts of this book.

The way grief is portrayed. One of the most immersive parts of this story is how it explores grief. Ever since high school, I’ve been fascinated with grief because it’s such an intricate process of healing and learning how to become whole again. There’s no other comparable human experience, and it’s different for every individual. With all of those (and more) factors involved, writing about grief is, in my opinion, one of the most difficult things to do.

I went into this book with no expectations and only the vague premise of a girl’s dead boyfriend picking up the phone. I had no idea how anybody would deal with their grief…and nobody handles it the same way in the novel. Everyone’s experience is different, and I love that the author highlights this through Julie, Sam, Mika, Oliver, and the other side characters. I also really love how the story explores the impact that grief has on relationships and not just on an individual.

What I Didn’t Like

The grammatical problems. While these problems didn’t really take away from my lovely and cathartic experience of reading this story, I can’t avoid mentioning them. While reading, I noticed several problems, including a sentence fragment that didn’t feel intentional, multiple typos, and a missing apostrophe.

My Favorite Quotes

“We have too many voices inside our heads. You have to pick out the ones that mean something to you. What story do you want to tell?”

“We stayed up all night, talking about what we wanted to do ten years from now, waiting to see that burning red glow curve along a dark sky, oblivious to the significance of seeing another day. And oblivious to a future when one of us would be gone.”

“Letting go isn’t about forgetting. It’s balancing moving forward with life, and looking back from time to time, remembering the people in it.”

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Listen to my sam and julie playlist, about the book.

And Sam picks up the phone.

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The storyline

The plot is about the protagonist, Julie, going through a very tough phase of grief from losing her boyfriend and getting consumed by guilt, regret, and pain following his departure. The story gets a grip once Julie calls her dead boyfriend, Sam, out of desperation. Eventually, Sam picks up the call and starts a conversation with Julie like before. While Julie tried to forget about Sam to move on with her life and abandon herself from friends and family, this one call brought her back on track. With Sam on the line, she could reconnect with her present life and believe they’d been given a second chance.

But how long do second chances last?

I truly enjoyed characters like Mr. Lee, Oliver, and Mika, who made Julie’s journey much more pleasant. Mr. Lee owns the bookshop where Julie works and where she first met Sam. Mr. Lee is peculiar because he treats books as people and believes they are full of life. Oliver was their best friend. However, he didn’t get along with Julie in the past. However, the readers get to see a friendship blossoming between the two as they recover from grief. Mika is Sam’s cousin and shares a very sweet bond with Julie; Mika plays the role of a sibling in Sam’s life. As the story progresses, Julie realizes that it isn’t only her but the people around her who suffer from grief in their own ways.

“You don’t write to get to the end. You write because you enjoy doing it. You write and don’t want it to end.”
“Letting go isn’t about forgetting. It’s balancing moving forward with life and looking back from time to time, remembering the people in it.”
“The world keeps moving, no matter what happens to you.”
“If the ending is this painful, I don’t know if this was worth it all.”
“I always feel at home when I’m in the store. I could spend hours and hours here. There’s a comfort in being surrounded by walls of books.”
“Before he’s gone, I grab a single petal and hold it tight against my chest. But somehow, it slips through my fingers and vanishes into the sky. Just like the rest of him.”

Asian culture

The Asian cultural aspect of the tale was expressed quite positively. The origin of Sam’s family is in Japan, even though he was brought up abroad. There are instances where I got to see the Asian cultural aspect in the story, like when students in school plan on starting an Asian study club, when Yuki, Julie, Oliver, and the others set out memory lanterns onto the sky, and much more. As an Asian, I felt profoundly happy reading about how different cultures can unite different people under one umbrella, even in those darkest times of their lifetime. I appreciate the author, Dustin Thao , for giving life to these precious characters through his piece of work.

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Book Review: You've Reached Sam

You've Reached Sam is a story about a high school girl named Julie grappling with the recent death of her boyfriend Sam. One day, after a week of Sam's death, Julie decides to call Sam to try and hear his voice for one last time. And to her surprise, he actually picks up. For some reason, Julie and Sam have this special connection even after death, but both Sam and Julie are aware that their time together is running out, and the phone calls won't last forever. The plot of this story and its elements of fantasy intrigued me at first, but when I actually started reading, I was very underwhelmed. If I'm being honest, Julie as a character was very irritating. I understood that she was dealing with grief from losing a loved one, but when I read the flashback scenes, I slowly understood that Julie was always selfish and irritating from day 1. Adding onto an unlikeable main character were the "antagonists" of the novel. Liam and Taylor were some of Sam's childhood friends and we're told that they never really liked Julie in the first place. But after Sam's death, both of them blame Julie for what happened to Sam and are just overall cruel and unnecessarily racist to Julie's Asian friends. To be honest, Liam and Taylor were horribly written "villains." I could not understand why they were the way that they were, and it would have been much more interesting to hear their backstories with Sam and why they hated Julie so much. Sadly, Thao barely does any of this, and I wish he took the time to delve into Liam and Taylor's stories as well. Adding on, while I appreciated the representation of Asian and Asian-American characters in this novel, I feel like Thao barely did any research when writing about Sam's Japanese background. He talks about cherry blossoms and temples, and pretty much very basic facts about Japanese culture, and I wish he delved deeper into Sam's background, especially because Japanese culture has many interesting beliefs and traditions surrounding death that not many people have heard about. Adding on, I also didn't really like the way Thao incorporated scenes of discrimination against Asian people throughout the novel. To me, these scenes seemed very random and rushed. While I understood what Thao was trying to do, I feel like these scenes could have been more naturally incorporated into the plot, instead of seeming like these scenes were just there for added diversity. Overall, this book to me was very overhyped. I didn't find myself shedding a single tear during this entire novel, even when every review was raving about how heartbreaking the story was. While the plot and the diversity of the characters excited me at first, I was left feeling very disappointed and I wish Thao did much more with all the potential that the story could have had.

You've Reached Sam: A Soul-Stirring Book Review

Introduction

In the ever-evolving landscape of young adult fiction, a new voice has emerged, captivating readers with an emotionally charged and unforgettable story that transcends the boundaries between life and death. "You've Reached Sam" by Dustin Thao is a poignant and powerful debut novel that masterfully blends elements of contemporary fiction and magical realism.

Comprised of 296 pages, this heart-wrenching tale delves into themes of love, loss, and self-discovery, leaving a lasting impression on readers who embark on this extraordinary journey. In this book review, we'll take a closer look at what makes "You've Reached Sam" a standout addition to the young adult genre and a must-read for anyone seeking an immersive and moving literary experience.

Genre: Young Adult, Contemporary, Romance
Total Pages: 296
Author: Dustin Thao
Status: Completed

"You've Reached Sam" is a heartfelt and emotional novel that tells the story of Julie, a high school senior who is grieving the loss of her boyfriend, Sam. After his sudden death in a car accident, Julie is devastated and struggles to cope with her loss.

One night, Julie accidentally dials Sam's phone number, and to her surprise, he picks up. Through a mysterious connection, Julie and Sam are able to communicate, offering them both a chance to say goodbye and find closure. As they continue to talk, Julie begins to question her future and the choices she has made.

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The novel explores themes of grief, love, and self-discovery, as Julie navigates the complexities of her emotions and learns to accept the reality of her situation. "You've Reached Sam" is a poignant and beautifully written story that will resonate with readers who have experienced loss and are searching for hope and healing.

Author Introduction

Dustin Thao is a Vietnamese American writer based in New York City, making a strong entrance into the world of young adult fiction with his debut novel, "You've Reached Sam." Thao graduated from Amherst College with a B.A. in Political Science, demonstrating his diverse interests and intellectual curiosity. He has quickly gained attention and praise from readers and critics alike, establishing himself as a promising new talent in the literary world. As fans eagerly await his future works, Thao's "You've Reached Sam" leaves a lasting impact on the young adult genre.

Plot Summary

Julie Nguyen, a high school senior, is devastated when her boyfriend, Sam, dies in a car accident. The two had planned a future together, and Julie's life is suddenly thrown into disarray as she struggles to cope with her loss.

One night, in a moment of desperation, Julie dials Sam's phone number, not expecting anything to happen. To her astonishment, Sam answers the call. Through an inexplicable connection, Julie and Sam are able to communicate despite his death.

As they continue talking, Julie and Sam relive their memories and rekindle their love for each other. However, Julie is faced with the difficult reality that Sam is no longer alive, and she must eventually come to terms with his death. The conversations force Julie to confront her grief and reevaluate her life choices, as well as her future without Sam.

Meanwhile, Sam is also dealing with his own emotions and the fact that he is no longer a part of the world he left behind. He tries to help Julie find closure and move forward, even as their conversations remind him of the life he can no longer live.

As Julie navigates her senior year of high school and the challenges that come with it, she learns to accept her grief and cherish the time she had with Sam. Ultimately, Julie and Sam find a sense of closure and learn valuable lessons about love, loss, and the importance of living life to the fullest.

"You've Reached Sam" is a poignant and emotionally resonant story that explores the complexities of grief, love, and healing, offering readers a heartfelt and relatable journey through the process of coming to terms with loss.

Analysis of Characters

Julie Nguyen : Julie is the protagonist of the story, a high school senior who is grieving the loss of her boyfriend, Sam. She is strong-willed, kind, and intelligent, but struggles to accept Sam's death. Throughout the story, Julie learns to cope with her grief, rediscover her identity, and make decisions about her future.

Sam : Sam is Julie's deceased boyfriend who, through a mysterious connection, is able to communicate with Julie after his death. He is caring, supportive, and understanding, but also grapples with the reality of his own death and the limitations it imposes on him. His conversations with Julie help both of them find closure and healing.
Stacey : Stacey is Julie's best friend, who tries to support Julie through her grief. She is loyal, empathetic, and patient, but also faces her own struggles as she navigates her senior year of high school. Her friendship with Julie is tested and strengthened throughout the story.
Mara : Mara is another close friend of Julie's, who is also dealing with the loss of Sam. She is outgoing, strong, and unafraid to speak her mind. Mara's relationship with Julie is essential to their shared healing process, as they both learn to support each other and grow from their shared experiences.
Julie's Family : Julie's family, including her mother and younger sister, play a vital role in her journey through grief. They provide a support system for Julie as she copes with her loss, and their love and understanding help her find the strength to move forward.

These main characters in "You've Reached Sam" are interconnected through their relationships with one another and their shared experiences of love, loss, and healing. As they navigate the challenges of grief and self-discovery, their bonds with one another are tested and ultimately strengthened, providing a compelling and emotionally resonant exploration of the human experience.

Grief and Loss: The central theme of "You've Reached Sam" is the exploration of grief and loss. Julie's journey through the stages of grief after Sam's death provides a deep and heartfelt look at the emotional turmoil and challenges faced by those who have lost a loved one. The story emphasizes the importance of allowing oneself to grieve and the necessity of seeking support from friends and family.
Love and Connection: Love and human connection play a significant role in the story, as Julie and Sam's bond transcends the boundaries of life and death. The novel illustrates the power of love to help individuals heal and grow, even in the face of unimaginable pain. The relationships between Julie and her friends, family, and Sam offer a heartwarming portrayal of the importance of love and connection in overcoming adversity.
Self-Discovery and Personal Growth: As Julie navigates her grief, she embarks on a journey of self-discovery and personal growth. The novel explores the process of finding one's identity and purpose in life, especially after a significant loss. Julie's transformation throughout the story serves as a testament to the resilience of the human spirit and the ability to adapt and grow despite the challenge’s life presents.

Communication and Understanding: "You've Reached Sam" highlights the importance of open communication and understanding between friends, family, and loved ones. Julie's conversations with Sam and her interactions with her friends and family demonstrate the power of honest communication in fostering empathy, healing, and growth.
The Phone Calls: The mysterious phone calls between Julie and Sam symbolize the enduring connection between loved ones, even after death. The calls serve as a reminder that love transcends physical boundaries and that the memories and emotions shared between individuals can continue to impact their lives.
The Stars: Stars are a recurring symbol throughout the novel, representing hope, guidance, and the vastness of the universe. Julie often looks to the stars for solace and inspiration, and they serve as a reminder that even in the darkest times, there is still light and beauty to be found.
The Garden: Julie's garden, which she tends throughout the story, symbolizes growth, healing, and the passage of time. As the garden flourishes, so too does Julie's emotional and personal development, reflecting her journey toward healing and self-discovery.

In "You've Reached Sam," these themes and symbols combine to create a powerful, emotionally resonant narrative that explores the complexities of love, loss, and the human experience.

Hot Dialogues

"You've Reached Sam" is filled with emotionally charged and memorable dialogues that capture the essence of the characters and their relationships. Here are a few standout dialogues from the book:

1. Julie's First Call to Sam:

Julie: "I didn't think I'd ever hear your voice again."

Sam: "I didn't think I'd ever speak to you again either, but here we are."

This unexpected conversation between Julie and Sam sets the stage for the emotional rollercoaster that follows. The dialogue highlights the disbelief and shock both characters experience as they navigate this uncharted territory.

2. Julie's Reflection on Grief:

Julie: "Grief is like a storm. It comes in waves, and when it hits, you have to hold on tight and let it wash over you."

In this dialogue, Julie shares her thoughts on the grieving process, likening it to a storm that must be weathered. Her words provide insight into her emotional journey and the challenges she faces as she learns to cope with Sam's death.

3. Sam's Encouragement:

Sam: "You're stronger than you think, Julie. You can get through this. You just have to believe in yourself."

Sam's words of encouragement serve as a reminder of the unwavering love and support that exists between them. Even in death, Sam continues to inspire and uplift Julie, helping her find the strength to move forward.

4. Julie's Realization:

Julie: "I thought talking to you would make things easier, but it's only making it harder to let go."

As Julie continues to communicate with Sam, she realizes that their conversations may be preventing her from fully accepting his death and moving on. This dialogue marks a turning point in Julie's journey toward healing and growth.

5. Sam's Wisdom:

Sam: "Life is full of unexpected twists and turns, but it's how we choose to navigate them that defines us."

Sam's words of wisdom serve as a guiding light for Julie, encouraging her to embrace the unpredictability of life and make the most of every moment.

6. The Final Goodbye:

Julie: "I love you, Sam. I always will."

Sam: "I love you too, Julie. Remember, I'll always be with you, even if you can't see or hear me."

In their final conversation, Julie and Sam express their love for each other and acknowledge the lasting impact they have had on each other's lives. The dialogue serves as a poignant reminder of the enduring power of love and connection, even in the face of loss.

These hot dialogues from "You've Reached Sam" showcase the powerful emotions and deep connections that drive the story, making it a truly unforgettable reading experience.

Writing Style

Dustin Thao's "You've Reached Sam" showcases a unique and captivating writing style that effectively conveys the emotional depth and complexity of the story. The novel is characterized by the following elements:

First-Person Narrative: The story is told from the perspective of Julie, the protagonist, which allows readers to experience her thoughts, feelings, and emotions firsthand. This first-person narrative style creates a strong connection between the reader and the main character, fostering empathy and understanding.
Conversational Tone: Thao's writing style is conversational and relatable, making it easy for readers to connect with the characters and their experiences. The dialogue-driven narrative flows naturally, capturing the authentic voices of the characters and creating a sense of realism.
Emotional Depth: The author delves into the emotional complexities of grief, loss, and love, painting a vivid picture of the character's inner struggles and growth. Thao's writing captures the raw emotions experienced by Julie and Sam, making their journey both heart-wrenching and inspiring.
Vivid Imagery: Thao's use of vivid imagery and descriptive language brings the story to life, immersing readers in Julie's world. The author's attention to detail and ability to create evocative scenes enhances the emotional impact of the story.
Pacing and Structure: The novel is well-paced, balancing moments of introspection and emotional intensity with lighter, more uplifting scenes. The story unfolds in a non-linear fashion, with flashbacks and memories interspersed throughout the narrative, adding depth and context to the characters' relationships.
Magical Realism: "You've Reached Sam" incorporates elements of magical realism, with the mysterious phone calls between Julie and Sam serving as the central supernatural element. This blending of the fantastical with the real adds a unique and intriguing layer to the story, making it stand out in the contemporary young adult genre.

Overall, Dustin Thao's writing style in "You've Reached Sam" is engaging, emotionally resonant, and thought-provoking, making it an unforgettable reading experience that will stay with readers long after they've turned the final page.

Final Verdict

Dustin Thao's debut novel, "You've Reached Sam," is an emotionally powerful and beautifully crafted story that will undoubtedly resonate with readers of all ages. Thao's unique blend of contemporary fiction and magical realism, coupled with his authentic exploration of love, loss, and self-discovery, leaves a lasting impact on the heart and mind. The vivid imagery, relatable characters, and engaging narrative make this book an unforgettable reading experience.

From its captivating premise to its heart-wrenching conclusion, "You've Reached Sam" is a testament to the power of love and the resilience of the human spirit. This novel is not only a must-read for fans of young adult fiction but also for anyone seeking a thought-provoking and emotionally resonant story.

So, if you're ready to embark on an extraordinary journey that transcends the boundaries of life and death, don't hesitate any longer. Pick up your copy of "You've Reached Sam" today and immerse yourself in the unforgettable world that Dustin Thao has so masterfully created.

Q: What is "You've Reached Sam" about?

"You've Reached Sam" is a young adult novel that tells the story of Julie, a teenager who struggles with the sudden loss of her boyfriend, Sam. Through a magical twist of fate, Julie discovers she can still communicate with Sam, leading to an emotional journey of love, loss, and self-discovery.

Q: Who is the author of "You've Reached Sam"?

"You've Reached Sam" is written by Dustin Thao, a debut author in the young adult fiction genre.

Q: What genre does "You've Reached Sam" belong to?

The novel is a blend of contemporary fiction and magical realism, with themes of love, loss, and self-discovery.

Q: Is "You've Reached Sam" suitable for all age groups?

While the book is primarily targeted at young adult readers, its themes and emotional depth make it a captivating read for older audiences as well.

Q: Is "You've Reached Sam" being adapted into a movie or TV series?

There is no official news about a movie or TV adaptation at the moment. However, given the book's captivating story and emotional depth, it has the potential to be adapted into a compelling visual format in the future.

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You've Reached Sam

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You’ve Reached Sam by Dustin Thao is a YA contemporary romance/magical realism novel published in 2021. The protagonist , high school senior Julie Clarke , tries to cope with the recent loss of Sam Obayashi , her beloved boyfriend of three years, who was killed in a car accident on his way to pick Julie up. Crushed, Julie isolates herself—not attending Sam’s funeral or vigils—and throws away most of his things. But when Julie spirals into grief and calls Sam’s phone number, he answers. Through the magical connection of their phones, Julie and Sam have a second chance at connection, and the opportunity for them to grieve, grow and change, and say goodbye. Among other accolades, the New York Times bestselling novel was a 2021 Kids‘ Indie Next List Selection, a Cosmo.com Best YA Book Of 2021, and a Goodreads Most Anticipated Book.

This study guide refers to the 2021 eBook edition published by St. Martin’s Press.

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High school senior Julie Clarke has lost Sam Obayashi, her beloved boyfriend of three years, in a tragic car accident. Sam died one week prior while driving to pick Julie up from the airport, though she told Sam she could walk home. Julie has multiple dream-like flashbacks to her romance with Sam, including dancing together, working on songs, helping Sam through stage fright at his first music gig, Sam taking her on a college visit, and Sam comforting her during her parents’ divorce. He was always kind, thoughtful, and supportive to Julie. They had a healthy, encouraging romance built on trust and love, with plans to live together after graduation while Julie studied creative writing and Sam pursued his music career. But plans change with Sam’s death.

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Crushed, Julie doesn’t attend any of Sam’s funeral services or vigils. She cuts herself off from the world, including friends and family. About a week after his death, she pushes herself to move on by throwing away all items that remind her of Sam, from his favorite denim jacket to CDs to gifts he’d given her. Julie thinks forgetting Sam is the best way to move on. After meeting with Mika, Sam’s cousin, who is distraught over the loss and upset at Julie for refusing to grieve or honor Sam in any way, Julie feels terrible. Julie regrets throwing his items away and races to reclaim them, but they’ve already been taken by the garbage.

Upset and crying, Julie runs into the woods and desperately calls Sam’s phone number. To her shock, he picks up. Sam speaks with her from the afterlife, though he can’t explain where he is or how they’re talking. Their magical connection is unexplained, but they treasure every phone call. Sam knows the calls have rules; the calls only work with Julie’s phone , she must answer if he ever calls her instead, and they must end eventually, when they’re ready to say goodbye. They share multiple long, intimate phone calls, conversing like before he died.

Over the next few months, Julie clings to Sam, but every call further isolates her from others. Whenever she talks with Sam, her phone doesn’t receive any calls or texts from those who need her—like Mika, Oliver (Sam’s best friend), and her mother. She misses important events, like a vigil Mika holds for Sam and other friends’ plans to light lanterns for him, because her phone never gets the messages. Julie becomes so preoccupied with Sam’s calls, she forgets to live her life or connect with others.

She tries to finish Sam’s songs, completing lyrics for him to hopefully get them on the radio. Processing that he’s gone and they can’t be together, Sam encourages her to stop living in the past. Sam doesn’t want her to spend time on his unfinished projects, since his time is up. He thinks maybe answering her first call was a mistake, since Julie can’t let go or accept that their calls will end. Julie refuses Sam’s logic, repeating that she’s fine.

One day at school, Julie is confronted by Taylor, one of Sam’s friends. She blames Julie for Sam’s death, as he never would have left the bonfire with his friends to pick her up if Julie hadn’t gotten upset with him. Julie stands up for herself, stating it wasn’t her fault; she didn’t drive the truck that hit Sam, and she told him not to come pick her up. Taylor insults her and accuses her of not caring about Sam. Julie pushes Taylor, but Mika interrupts with her martial arts moves, harming Taylor. After the fight, Julie tries to reconnect with Mika, but she avoids Julie as usual.

When Sam asks her to take care of Mika and his family, Julie goes to Mika’s house and asks for her forgiveness. Mika states that Julie disappeared when Sam died, so it felt like everyone lost not just Sam but her too. Straining to help Mika and explain herself, Julie calls Sam and reveals her secret connection with him. She lets Mika talk to Sam, who can’t believe the magical call, but the conversation brings her peace. She thanks Julie for giving up one of her calls with Sam to help her cope. All Julie’s phone calls after have a shorter, more staticky connection with Sam.

Among nightmares and flashback dreams of Sam, Julie continues through the last few weeks of her senior year. She bonds with Oliver, Sam’s best friend, who reveals he was also in love with Sam. She heals her friendship with Mika, reconnects with her mother, enjoys her bookstore job, starts writing a story about her and Sam, and looks forward to college, although she still misses Sam and their lost future. When Sam’s little brother, James, goes missing, she also calls Sam for insight. She finds James at the playground, who thinks Sam hates him because they fought before Sam died. Julie gives up another one of her calls with Sam to help James deal with his brother’s loss.

When Julie is rejected from her dream college, she can’t cope with the unplanned again. She calls Sam, who assures her that not everything goes as planned and she can adapt. Slowly, Julie accepts her unexpected path. She starts to find peace in attending the local college and transferring later.

At her high school graduation, the date of her last call with Sam, Julie at last accepts his death, though she’ll never forget him. They share a final call in which they proclaim their eternal love. Sam asks her to not pick up when he calls her right after, and he leaves her a loving voicemail that she can listen to over and over, which brings her solace. After the voicemail, Julie’s phone receives all the messages and calls she missed while re-connected to Sam. She moves on with her life, attending the local college, writing, and growing close with her friends and family, while never forgetting Sam or the lessons he taught her.

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Heidi Dischler

Book review: you’ve reached sam by dustin thao.

So, today’s review is about You’ve Reached Sam by Dustin Thao. A heartbreaking tragedy and an otherworldly connection, this book will appeal to those of us who like breaking our own hearts 😉

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Julie loses everything, including herself, when her boyfriend, Sam dies. She finds it hard to go on with life without him around. But when a desperate call to his phone leads to him answering, Julie realizes that she’s been given a second chance. She quickly realizes, though, that it is a second chance to say goodbye. As Julie and Sam cherish their connection between worlds, Julie realizes that by keeping Sam close, she is pushing everyone else who is living away. Julie must decide when and how to say goodbye to Sam. But how can she ever say goodbye if she never wanted to in the first place?

Review | Heidi Dischler

It’s not that I didn’t love this book. I just didn’t like this book. It feels so complicated to describe because I liked Sam; I felt his emotions. I liked the idea that Dustin Thao wrote about. I just…. I didn’t feel the emotions that I wanted to feel. With Sam, I felt a lot of what he felt in the scenes he was given. With Julie? Not so much. It felt like Julie needed Sam for everything. I get that she was grieving and I get that some people do rely heavily on others, but it felt like I didn’t get anything out of this. It never felt like Julie even tried for anyone, not even when it seemed like some others around her were more broken than she was (aka, Mika). I just didn’t relate to the way Julie handled her grief, but I’m sure a lot of other people will.

As far as the plot goes, I’m also a little meh on that. I wish we would’ve gotten a more linear plot with the book starting the night Sam died. Personally, I didn’t feel the gut punch that so many others talked about and I so desperately wanted. Not to mention, I’m not really a fan when books jump back and forth between present and past. Julie’s dreams also confused the heck out of me at first.

Spoilers ahead.

Okay, so spoilers. I’m gonna be completely honest with you guys. The phone call thing? Kinda felt like a cop-out. I know that an explanation as to why they can talk to each other doesn’t really make sense, but maybe I’m just not into the modern ghost-story with the cell phones. It felt like if Sam would have let her, Julie would have just continued the phone calls for the rest of her life. I never felt any closure with Julie, even after her final phone call with Sam.

Overall, I really wanted so much more out of this book. I loved a lot of the characters, and the world-building and details in the book were amazing (cherry blossoms everywhere please!), but to me, it lacked the emotion that I went into the book longing for. I never got that heart wrenching feeling that so many other readers described. You’ve Reached Sam is not a bad book. It’s just not my favorite either.

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A future forever altered by tragedy, Julie is overcome with grief after the passing of her first love, Sam. Closing herself off from the world around her, she makes a call to his old cell phone..just to hear his recorded voicemail. But Sam picks up…

“I know this wasn’t part of our plan, Julie. But at least we had this time together, right? I want you to know…if I could do it all over again, I would. Every second of it.”

I challenge anyone to get through the first 30 pages of ‘You’ve Reached Sam without completely losing control of their emotions. Every. Damn. Page. I was tearing up, and that’s just not like me. The fact that this story could physically hurt my heart is proof that the writing is brilliant.

If you’ve ever lost someone, Sam and Julies love story is going to cut the deepest. But even if you haven’t..you will still have a profound guttural reaction to their journey.

Congratulations, Dustin Thao, for making me ugly cry. I didn’t think it was possible. What a way to make an entrance! I hope to read more of your work in the future.

This brings me to the first location of importance: Wenatchee Valley Museum

‘I told her I was writing about Sam. But I don’t want to remember Sam as a tragedy. I don’t want that to be his story. When people think of Sam, I want them to think of his best moments.’

The author of You’ve Reached Sam does a solid job of using flashbacks to create an emotional investment into Julie and Sam’s love story. While the book takes place in the present, Julie relives a continuous series of memories, reminding her what she’s missing and feeding her grief.

These flashbacks include Sam and Julie’s initial conversation at the coffee house, the museum where Sam asked her out on their first date, afternoons spent listening to his music and simply talking. All of these moments are crucial to building out their story. This sob-fest is a journey into finding love, loss, and having the strength to go on. But never forgetting…

This brings me to the Second location of importance: Fields of Gold

“ Sometimes, dreams mean the opposite of what they show us. That we shouldn’t understand them exactly as they are. It can mean something in our life is out of balance. Or maybe we’re holding in too much. Especially when we lose someone, dreams show us the opposite of what it is we need to find balance again.”

There are so many questions and regrets that we all experience after losing someone special to us. Taking the concept of “What if you could say goodbye” and spinning it into an actual afterlife connection….such a beautiful idea by the author.

But in You’ve Reached Sam, the focus is not solely on the feelings of the two main characters. The emotions of the supporting characters are examined as well. Mika, Oliver, James…even Julies mother has a part to play.

Releasing the lanterns at Sam’s secret place, the field of gold, by the tree in the lake…was a powerful scene. And the ending..well, just when I thought I had pulled it together, the last few chapters hit even harder than the rest.

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Dustin Thao. 3.63. 132,880 ratings24,636 reviews. Seventeen-year-old Julie has her future all planned out—move out of her small town with her boyfriend Sam, attend college in the city, spend a summer in Japan. But then Sam dies. And everything changes. Heartbroken, Julie skips his funeral, throws out his things, and tries everything to forget ...
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In YOU'VE REACHED SAM, 17-year-old Julie Clarke's life is drastically changed when her boyfriend, Sam, dies and she isn't given a chance to say goodbye. Heartbroken and unable to process her grief, Julie does everything to erase Sam from her life. She skips his funeral, gets rid of all his things, and deletes every text message and voicemail ...
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It's hard for her to move, much less talk to others. In fact, after losing her boyfriend, Sam, in a tragic car accident, her whole life seems to be tipped sideways. All she can think of is his sweet smile, his gentle touch, his voice. Julie even goes so far as to call Sam's phone, just for the chance to hear his voice on the voicemail message.
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You've Reached Sam, Dustin Thao. Wednesday Books, 2021. In Dustin Thao's debut novel You've Reached Sam, seventeen-year-old Julie struggles to readjust to life following the sudden loss of her boyfriend Sam. In a desperate moment of wanting to hear his voice again, Julie dials Sam's number and is shocked yet delighted when he picks up ...
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You've Reached Sam Dustin Thao Wednesday Books Published November 9, 2021 Amazon | Bookshop | Goodreads About You've Reached Sam. Seventeen-year-old Julie has her future all planned out—move out of her small town with her boyfriend Sam, attend college in the city, spend a summer in Japan. But then Sam dies. And everything changes.
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This young adult novel's enthralling premise and gorgeous, manga-style cover art promise an emotional ride. Thao does not disappoint. "You've Reached Sam" punches directly in the chest during countless moments that hit right on target. Edwards is a text editor based in Bangkok. They handle international copy and write book reviews.
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Published on 22/01/2022 by The Book Dutchesses. I've realized I'm really good at reading books and sometimes just forgetting to review. That is what happened with You've Reached Sam. I had an e-arc and read it in April 2021. When I did this I figured I'd review around release day, but that totally slipped my mind.
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Review "You've Reached Sam" by Dustin Thao is a heart-wrenching contemporary romance that earns a solid 4 out of 5 stars from me. Thao's writing is emotionally resonant, capturing the complexities of grief and healing with sensitivity and depth.
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You've Reached Sam has the potential to be a powerful story about overcoming the loss of a loved one. And at the start of the novel, I loved the concept of Sam and Julie maintaining their connection beyond the grave. But the emotional connection wasn't always present for me.
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You've Reached Sam is an impactful debut. The question at the center of the book and the paranormal premise combine to create a narrative full of heart." ―The Young Folks "A heart-breaking story of grief and loss, You've Reached Sam is a YA magical realism read about healing and moving on."
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So, on a Friday night, I pulled You've Reached Sam off of my bookshelf, where it had been sitting patiently for about six months, and started reading. Little did I know that the book I decided to read on a whim would be just as beautiful on the inside as it is on the outside. Little did I know that this little 296 page book would make me ...
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The book is written so well that the writing was almost non-existent. I did not notice the writing or the words themselves, I was just in the scene directly. It's rare for a book to become a conduit to the story for me. The writing in You've Reached Sam is very visual. The descriptions are so vivid, even when we are in dreams or memories.
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Review. You've Reached Sam is a story about a high school girl named Julie grappling with the recent death of her boyfriend Sam. One day, after a week of Sam's death, Julie decides to call Sam to try and hear his voice for one last time. And to her surprise, he actually picks up. For some reason, Julie and Sam have this special connection even ...
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You've Reached Sam by Dustin Thao is a YA contemporary romance/magical realism novel published in 2021. The protagonist, high school senior Julie Clarke, tries to cope with the recent loss of Sam Obayashi, her beloved boyfriend of three years, who was killed in a car accident on his way to pick Julie up.Crushed, Julie isolates herself—not attending Sam's funeral or vigils—and throws ...
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I loved a lot of the characters, and the world-building and details in the book were amazing (cherry blossoms everywhere please!), but to me, it lacked the emotion that I went into the book longing for. I never got that heart wrenching feeling that so many other readers described. You've Reached Sam is not a bad book.
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But in You've Reached Sam, the focus is not solely on the feelings of the two main characters. The emotions of the supporting characters are examined as well. Mika, Oliver, James…even Julies mother has a part to play. Releasing the lanterns at Sam's secret place, the field of gold, by the tree in the lake…was a powerful scene.

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