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Brotherly Love

Thomas a. holmoe.

November 28, 2006

My dear brothers and sisters, do we really mean what we say when we address each other as brother and sister?

These are rather peculiar titles for many people not familiar with our Mormon culture. Names such as Brother Jim or Sister Smith are used fondly and respectfully when addressing each other to express our kinship in the family of God. Why do we use these affectionate titles?

Let me quote from the missionary guide Preach My Gospel:

God is the Father of our spirits. We are literally His children, and He loves us. We lived as spirit children of our Father in Heaven before we were born on this earth. We were not, however, like our Heavenly Father, nor could we ever become like Him and enjoy all the blessings that He enjoys without the experience of living in mortality with a physical body.

God’s whole purpose—His work and His glory—is to enable each of us to enjoy all His blessings. He has provided a perfect plan to accomplish His purpose. We understood and accepted this plan before we came to the earth. [ Preach My Gospel: A Guide to Missionary Service (Salt Lake City: The Church of Jesus Christ of Latter-day Saints, 2004), 48]

When I was a small boy growing up, my older brother was bigger than life to me. He was nine years older and the best player on every team he played on. He always looked out for his little brother and spent many hours teaching me the skills of various sports. Since we shared a bedroom—much to his chagrin—I oftentimes would hear him awake late at night and slip out to the backyard to lift weights to get stronger. I spent many nights peering out the window at his example of extra effort and dreamed I one day could be like him. He truly was, and still remains, a great brother. He continues to influence my life for good as my big brother.

Elder Henry B. Eyring taught: “Your responsibility is to touch people so that they will make the choices that will take them toward eternal life. And eternal life is the greatest of all the gifts of God” (“To Touch a Life with Faith,” Ensign, November 1995, 37–38).

Perhaps one of the more thought-provoking questions asked in the scriptures is the one asked by Cain when questioned by the Lord on the whereabouts of his brother Abel: “Am I my brother’s keeper?” (Genesis 4:9). Cain had slain his younger brother because God had accepted Abel’s offering and rejected his. Cain’s words have come to symbolize man’s unwillingness to accept responsibility for the welfare of his “brothers” on this earth. In our present-day situations, we would all do well, as children of our Heavenly Father, to contemplate our answer to that same question: “Am I my brother’s keeper?”

To be able to answer in the affirmative, “Yes, I am my brother’s keeper!” we must be obedient to the command given us by Jesus when He said:

A new commandment I give unto you, That ye love one another; as I have loved you, that ye also love one another.

By this shall all men know that ye are my disciples, if ye have love one to another. [John 13:34–35]

Just how do we determine who our brothers and sisters are? The Apostle Paul stated on Mars Hill that God “hath made of one blood all nations of men for to dwell on all the face of the earth” (Acts 17:26; emphasis added). All mankind have chosen to come to this earth in obedience to the plan of salvation and are indeed the sons and daughters of God—and thus brothers and sisters in His heavenly family.

Modern revelation further describes the familial relationship that we are granted through the Atonement of our Savior. We learn from King Benjamin of our place in the family of Christ:

And now, because of the covenant which ye have made ye shall be called the children of Christ, his sons, and his daughters; for behold, this day he hath spiritually begotten you; for ye say that your hearts are changed through faith on his name; therefore, ye are born of him and have become his sons and his daughters. [Mosiah 5:7]

We catch a further glimpse of who Jesus considers His brothers and sisters from this exchange found in Matthew:

While he yet talked to the people, behold, his mother and his brethren stood without, desiring to speak with him.

Then one said unto him, Behold, thy mother and thy brethren stand without, desiring to speak with thee.

But he answered and said unto him that told him, Who is my mother? and who are my brethren?

And he stretched forth his hand toward his disciples, and said, Behold my mother and my brethren!

For whosoever shall do the will of my Father which is in heaven, the same is my brother, and sister, and mother. [Matthew 12:46–50]

The hoped-for result of this knowledge of our heavenly family was described by Paul in his letter to the Romans:

Let love be without dissimulation. Abhor that which is evil; cleave to that which is good.

Be kindly affectioned one to another with brotherly love; in honor preferring one another. [Romans 12:9–10]

Furthermore, we are instructed in Timothy:

Rebuke not an elder, but intreat him as a father; and the younger men as brethren;

The elder women as mothers; the younger as sisters, with all purity. [1 Timothy 5:1–2]

Brothers and sisters, love one another. Serve each other. I would think that most of you here today have followed and accepted the premise of brotherhood and sisterhood as taught from the scriptures. The issue is not so much that you don’t accept a stranger as a brother or sister as much as it is you simply have not conditioned yourself to serve them. Serving those who we love and who love us—those who think like us or look like us or speak like us, or even worship like us—is good. However, we must learn to reach out to those we don’t know: to the discarded, the sick, those less fortunate, the inflicted, the lonely, and those we don’t necessarily understand.

The story of the dramatic rescue of the members of the Martin and Willie Handcart Companies—a group of our early pioneer Saints trapped and frozen on the plains—is one that inspires me today to listen for the call to action and GO! Elder Jeffrey R. Holland reminded us that being our brother’s keeper is a theme we need oft remember. Quoting from Elder Holland’s most recent general conference address:

As surely as the rescue of those in need was the general conference theme of October 1856, so too is it the theme of this conference and last conference and the one to come next spring. . . . The needy . . . can be rescued only by those who have more and know more and can help more. And don’t worry about asking, “Where are they?” They are everywhere, on our right hand and on our left, in our neighborhoods and in the workplace, in every community and county and nation of this world. Take your team and wagon; load it with your love, your testimony, and a spiritual sack of flour; then drive in any direction. The Lord will lead you to those in need if you will but embrace the gospel of Jesus Christ. [“Prophets in the Land Again,” Ensign, November 2006, 106]

President Thomas S. Monson, speaking of our call to service, stated:

This is the service that counts, the service to which all of us have been called: the service of the Lord Jesus Christ.

Along your pathway of life you will observe that you are not the only traveler. There are others who need your help. There are feet to steady, hands to grasp, minds to encourage, hearts to inspire, and souls to save. [“How Firm a Foundation,” Ensign, November 2006, 68]

The Prophet Joseph Smith—oft referred to by the people of his day as Brother Joseph—was the epitome of selflessness. He reached out to strangers in many ways to assist them and bless their lives. We need not look far to find excellent examples of brotherly and sisterly love. The Lord’s chosen servants of today emulate their predecessors and shine a light on all that is good, devoting their lives to serving others.

A story is told of a man having a conversation with the Lord one day. He said, “Lord, I would like to know what heaven and hell are like.”

The Lord led the man to two doors. He opened one of the doors, and the man looked in. In the middle of the room was a large round table. In the middle of the table was a large pot of stew, which smelled delicious and made the man’s mouth water.

The people sitting around the table were thin and sickly. They appeared to be famished. They were holding spoons with very long handles that were strapped to their arms. Each found it possible to reach into the pot of stew and take a spoonful, but because the handle was longer than their arms, they could not get the spoons back into their mouths.

The man shuddered at the sight of their misery and suffering. The Lord said, “You have seen hell.”

They went to the next room and opened the door. It was exactly the same as the first one. There was the large round table with the large pot of stew that made the man’s mouth water. The people were equipped with the same long-handled spoons strapped to their arms, but here the people were well nourished and plump, laughing and talking.

The man said, “I don’t understand!”

“It is simple,” said the Lord. “It requires but one skill. You see, they have learned to feed each other, while the greedy think only of themselves.”

Dr. Martin Luther King, Jr., wondered why men do not treat each other like brothers and sisters. Let me quote Dr. King:

Modern man has brought this whole world to an awe-inspiring threshold of the future. . . .

Yet . . . something basic is missing. There is a sort of poverty of the spirit which stands in glaring contrast to our scientific and technological abundance. The richer we have become materially, the poorer we have become morally and spiritually. We have learned to fly the air like birds and swim the sea like fish, but we have not learned the simple art of living together as brothers. [Speech accepting the Nobel Peace Prize (11 December 1964)]

I believe Dr. King would be pleased with the response from people all over the world to our brothers and sisters in Indonesia who were suffering from the devastation of last year’s tsunami. Millions of people came to the aid of brothers and sisters they didn’t even know. They acted on the impression of loving our neighbors as ourselves (see Matthew 19:19).

Brothers and sisters, the business of making a living, raising a family, receiving an education, and any other worthy endeavor we are involved in truly tests how we answer the question “Am I my brother’s keeper?” God works miracles in the lives of His children through the Christlike service rendered by their brothers and sisters. A warm smile, a friendly greeting, a door held open, any good deed—however simple it may be—can turn a bad day into a good one.

I enjoy singing the words of a favorite Church hymn:

Have I done any good in the world today?

Have I helped anyone in need?

Have I cheered up the sad and made someone feel glad?

If not, I have failed indeed.

[“Have I Done Any Good?” Hymns, 1985, no. 223]

It will be a long time before I forget the special kindness expressed by my friend Verl Rasband, an older gentleman who attended my ward. Verl served well in many capacities throughout his life and still finds the time and makes the effort today to continue to make a difference in the lives of others. Verl learns the first names of many of the children in our ward and goes out of his way to greet and talk with them regularly. At first the children are surprised that an older man would even know their name. But his warm greeting makes them feel good. As a result of his kind heart and sweet spirit, all my children respect, admire, and love Brother Rasband. From his fine example my children now go out of their way to greet Verl before he can find them. His love is contagious.

It is unlikely that any of us will be honored for our service, but recognition is not the reward. Our reward is blessing lives. Loving one another is not merely a suggestion or a good recommendation. It is a commandment. When we are obedient to this command, our lives and the lives of our brothers and sisters are richly blessed. As we express our love through actions on behalf of our brothers and sisters, we set a good example to others of Christlike service.

BYU is a big place with many people moving in all directions. It sometimes may seem a difficult task to make a difference in the life of one of your fellow students, faculty, or staff members. I often enjoy looking for examples of good works here on campus and seeing acts of brotherly kindness. Two years ago, when I was appointed director of athletics, I was touched by the many helping hands extended to my associates and me by brothers and sisters across campus. Words of encouragement, free time spent assisting us with our plans, and other extra effort enabled us to lighten our load and ensure us a good start. As a result of their service to us, I feel a strong camaraderie and a greater desire to do more to further build up our campus.

One group of BYU students I admire—our own BYU football team—refers to each other affectionately as the Band of Brothers.

The team’s motto was inspired from the lines of Shakespeare’s play Henry V:

We few, we happy few, we band of brothers;

For he to-day that sheds his blood with me

Shall be my brother.

[William Shakespeare, Henry V, act 4, scene 3, lines 60–62]

This year’s members of the BYU football team have bonded to the cause of restoring tradition, being honorable, and living by the Spirit. Skeptics were cynical concerning the rare approach of this team and their leader. How can there be enough time to prepare for game day when weekly firesides are held on the eve of each game? Rough and tumble football players will get soft focusing on things of the Spirit instead of visualizing on-field violence.

This Band of Brothers strives toward holding each other accountable for the good of the whole. Selfish motives are shelved in place of team objectives. The duty to represent not only each other but also BYU and The Church of Jesus Christ of Latter-day Saints is not just a part-time thing. When one falters, all are affected. When one succeeds, all benefit!

Coach Bronco Mendenhall and the team’s leadership council have instituted what they call the Big Brother Program. Each younger player on the team is paired up with one of the upperclassmen. Each week the “big brother” conducts an interview with his “younger brother.” They address such topics as academics, football, family, girlfriends, spirituality, and any other issue the two care to discuss. Then the big brother writes a letter to Coach Mendenhall sharing any thoughts, experiences or concerns the two might have concerning each other, the team, or their teammates. The letters are confidential—some are even sacred to Bronco. Privately, Coach Mendenhall is able to assist his boys based on their communication. What has developed within this year’s team goes way beyond what is witnessed on the field of play, as can be seen in such activities as the Band of Brothers performing a team hymn at a recent pre-game fireside in Fort Collins, Colorado, the night before the Cougars played the Colorado State Rams.

Like many of you here today, my life took further shape through my experiences as a student at BYU. Not only was I challenged physically and emotionally through athletics, but I also grew mentally and emotionally through the rigors of academics and was changed forever by the ever-present Spirit that is often expressed through many brothers and sisters on campus.

I will be eternally grateful for the wonderful example of the best teacher I ever had: Joe Wood—a man more affectionately referred to by his students as Uncle Joe. Uncle Joe taught religion and history here. When I arrived at BYU, I was not a member of The Church of Jesus Christ of Latter-day Saints. I was way out of my element: in a very different culture, homesick for my family, and feeling like a fish out of water. As weeks went by during my first semester, I considered abandoning my hopes and dreams for BYU and returning to the friendly confines of home. Somehow, Uncle Joe saw something missing in me. He went out of his way to approach me after class and encourage me to stay strong. He reached out a hand of friendship, which I gladly accepted. He continued to look after me, and soon I looked forward to his class as the highlight of my day. He laughed and smiled and even shed tears of gratitude. He called his students by their first name and often shook our hand or put his arm around our shoulders. I grew to realize that he hadn’t just taken a special interest in me. He made everyone in class feel special. The sweet spirit that radiated from Uncle Joe was what first softened my heart to the gospel of Jesus Christ. I am grateful for all people on our campus like Uncle Joe who care enough to make a difference in the lives of their brothers and sisters.

I love the spirit of our BYU students. Your desire to be the best you can be—to educate and train yourselves toward becoming future family, community, and national leaders—is impressive. Many of you have made the worthy choice to pause from your college education to serve full-time missions for the Lord. Truly this is brotherly love in action: to seek out your brothers and sisters from all walks of life and from the four corners of the earth, to find all those who have been separated from the truth, and then to help lead them back to their Father in Heaven and remind them of the one great plan of salvation that leads to eternal life.

Ask yourself this question: Have I done any good in the world today?

Then wake up and do something more

Than dream of your mansions above.

Doing good is a pleasure, a joy beyond measure,

A blessing of duty and love.

It is my hope and prayer that we may serve our Lord by being actively engaged in blessing the lives of all our brothers and sisters and being an instrument in the hands of our Heavenly Father, in the name of Jesus Christ, amen.

© Brigham Young University. All rights reserved.

Tom Holmoe was BYU athletic director when this devotional talk was delivered on 28 November 2006.

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How Does A Christian Show True Brotherly Love

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The universal principle of brotherly love is revealed in several books of the New Testament. It conveys the kind of love expressed towards other people as a fellow-man. Brotherly affection can mean the cozy feeling of belongingness. It presents a calm atmosphere of serenity like kinship or friendship.  Yet, in the Biblical context, it is a love seeking the best interest of fellow believers and counting them as more significant than oneself (Philippians 2:3). Love is given to flawed, sinful people with deeds of sacrifices and service. We know this because we know of a love that was given to us (1 John 4:19). And every believer can only love because they’ve received love. With this, love is not about that we have loved God but that He loved us. Our ability to show love is due to the love shown to us. 

Christian churches exist because of the love of Jesus, and it grows with the love of every believer strengthening the family of God. Each follower of Christ is part of God’s universal family. As children of God, we will enjoy His fellowship through the life of every believer. It is a gift from God to enjoy our faith journey with Christians around us to help, encourage, strengthen, teach, and comfort us. It is also a blessing from Him to show our love for them. Take time to read these significant means and reasons to show your love for your brothers and sisters in Christ.

What Is Real Brotherly Love?

The phrase ‘Brotherly Love’ comes from the Greek word Phila which means ‘love’ or ‘love of brothers’ in Greek philosophy. This kind of brotherly affection sets apart the Early Christian churches from other groups during their period of existence. It is their most notable characters as Christians. Today, this should also be an eminent trait for all Christians because the God whom we are serving is the author of love. The New Testament abounds with expressions and teachings of brotherly love. This type of love mentioned in the Bible means loving our brothers in Christ with selfless desires and humility. True brotherly love is not self-centered, rather, it is sacrificial.

The Book of 1 John 3:16 writes a very popular phrase about love. It says “By this, we know love, that he laid down his life for us, and we ought to lay down our lives for the brothers”. The laying of one’s life for another is the true essence of brotherly love. The Bible never points to seeking personal satisfaction in loving one another. It always pursues others before one’s self. Jesus modeled the perfect example of love which we ought to follow in carrying out brotherly love. Furthermore, the Bible never fails to define and describe the context of love in Christianity. Thus, it gives us the best lessons concerning brotherly love without the need to take a course on it. 

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A Biblical Command of Love

The Ten Commandments given to the Israelites during the time of Moses had a summarized edition when Jesus stepped down into the earth. Probably it was Jesus saying to His disciples, ‘let us make things a bit easier for you, ten must have overwhelmed you’. Jesus narrowed down the ten to two in the principle of love. First, He commanded to love God with all our hearts, minds, and souls, and strengths. This is the great and first commandment (Matthew 22:37-38). The second commandment is about loving our neighbor as ourselves (Matthew 22:39). All the laws of the Bible depend upon these two greatest commandments. This sheds light on why Christians ought to always love because a core rule of Christian law is love. God is love, and Jesus was the best example of these commandments.

Jesus gave a new and one of the most significant commandments to His disciples in the Book of John before He fulfilled His mission on the cross. This is the commandment: that you love one another; just as I have loved you, you also are to love one another (13:34 ). Jesus showed the purest and most selfless form of love on the cross and gave this new commandment before his crucifixion. Nevertheless, the disciples knew the kind of love they ought to give. Love is the core of God’s being. To love one another is a God-ordained instruction for His disciples. If you are His disciple, you then also ought to show brotherly love.

Who Shall We Call as Brothers

In Paul’s letter to the Church of Rome, he gave instructions to love one another with brotherly love and to honor others above ourselves (Romans 12:10). His various letters to different churches in the New Testament also contains reminders of loving one another as part of the body of Christ. The term ‘brothers’ may refer to anyone like our ‘neighbors’ yet the context of the brotherly love given emphasis here is our love for our fellow believers.

Once we decide to follow Jesus, it will be impossible for us to continue the journey of our faith without being part of God’s family. The church of Christ is like a body with many parts (Romans 12:4). Hence, although we are many, we are one body in Christ (Romans 12:5). One cannot function on its own. Every part needs another to serve and follow God. Using the label brothers and sisters in Christ suggests an unbreakable tie between the children of God.

A family remains a family whatever happens because of the blood that connects them. This is the same with our family in Christ. Jesus, being our elder brother (Hebrews 2:12) holds us with such an indestructible bond that unites us with Him and with His people. Love seasons and strengthens this connection.

How Do Christians Show Brotherly Love?

Expressing love to another takes various forms. When we begin to understand the significance of a brotherly love both as a commandment and privilege through Jesus Christ, it will be less difficult to find the eagerness in showing brotherly love. Looking to our brothers and sisters in faith through the eyes that Jesus has is the first step in conveying our love for others. This is no ordinary shift of outlook and opinion, however. Because the eyes which Jesus had was filled with love, so much so that he died for all. 

In Romans 14, Apostle Paul gave specific instructions on how to treat each believer and how to think of each other. His first advice was about embracing a brother and sister in Christ who has weaker faith without passing judgment. If we start to judge our fellow believers there will never be enough room for our love to abide. Judgment and love cannot exist on the same ground. The Apostle Paul wrote that neither of us is fitting to judge another for we are all servants of one Master. We are only called to love. 

Paul’s last instruction was to not cause another to stumble. It is heart-rending to see God’s children without love for one another. Paul’s warning was clear, do not for the sake of food and other futile reasons destroy the work of God and your relationships with one another. Christian bonds are far more important than our sentiments and opinions. Showing real brotherly love takes courage and strength. Yet, with our own strength, it is impossible to accomplish such love, but with God, all things are possible (Matthew 19:26). Here are Biblical means of showing real brotherly love.

Steady Love

The kind of love which we know by this world is commonly based on emotions and feelings. We act and react depending on how we feel towards another person or circumstance. This is not the kind of love Christians ought to bear. Even though our emotions give us primary sentiments to react, it is not the sole foundation of love. If we do so, our love is no doubt laid open to crumble. Christian love demands self-control, discipline, and consistency. Feelings are deceitful (Jeremiah 17:9). It is not the basis of brotherly love, it is the Word of God. If we want to show brotherly love, it is the Scripture that we need to seek. 

True brotherly love never chooses the perfect time to love nor the best person to love. The Bible’s definition of love is simply far above these things. Proverbs 17:17 says that a friend loves at all times. Love has no preference. If that would be the case, it is love no longer. Love is beyond judgment as conferred in Romans Chapter 14. Thus, any status, level of faith, or period of being part of God’s family can bound the love that we have for our brothers.  We should encourage one another and build each other up through love (1 Thessalonians 5:11. In addition, Ecclesiastes 4:9-12 compares believers’ bond to a threefold cord that is not easily broken because it lifts each other in times of stumble. 

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Unselfish Compassion

The Book of 1 John discusses Biblical truths in loving one another. Verse 11 states the first truth about brotherly love, that we should love one another. The succeeding verses warn us not to be like Cain who lost compassion for his brother Abel, compelling him to murder his brother. Hate for a brother is a form of murder. Apostle John further warns, whoever does not love abides in death. How then can we combat hate? By dwelling in the greatest love we ever received. 

1 John 3:16 talks about understanding love through the life that is laid down for us. When we know sinners like us experience love and favor we don’t deserve, it is hard not to give love. Jesus who is full of compassion showed the best way to love by laying his life down for us. The verse also states that we ought to lay down our lives for our brothers. How then can we show unselfish love and compassion towards our brothers and sisters in faith?

1 John 3:17 says “But if anyone has the world’s goods and sees his brother in need, yet closes his heart against him, how does God’s love abide in Him?” Charity is the heartbeat of compassion. It is through giving and doing something that we can demonstrate our brotherly love. While faith without work is dead (James 2:17), brotherly compassion without action is vain. 

An Attitude of Sharing

The early Christian community spent days and nights devoting themselves to teaching, fellowship, prayers, and breaking of the bread (Acts 2:42 – 46).  Day by day they came together as one family, sharing all that they have. These included their possessions which helped the needs of others, their knowledge of the Gospel, the Book of Laws, and more. An act of sharing is a great display of brotherly love. Every good act starts with simple strides.

The modern period doesn’t require us to give up our possessions, but sharing may help others in their times of need. For instance, if any brother or sister in Christ requests prayers about a necessity, you can help by praying or take a larger step to help them obtain what is needed if possible to show your love and we don’t always have the chance. 

On some occasions, it requires us not only to share good things but also burdens. Every follower of Christ carries a burden for His kingdom and these loads become lighter when shared (Galatians 6:1-10 ). Hence, struggles also turn out to be milder. Sharing burdens with another may mean comforting the afflicted, encouraging the disheartened, visiting the sick, praying for those who are weak, or struggling in faith. As one body of Christ, we must not let any of our brothers stumble without a hand lifting them. 

Keeping Unity

Brothers dwelling in unity glorifies God (Psalm 133:1). The church was advised by the Apostle Peter to have unity of mind, sympathy, brotherly love, a tender heart, and a humble mind. These instructions are still beneficial and effective to this day and will continue into the future. The unity of the body of Christ is a very important principle for Christians. It proves that they are children of God. What binds the people of God in perfect harmony is to bear with each other and to love (Colossians 3:13 – 14). There are no other shortcuts. The best element to fuel unity among believers is to pursue brotherly love. 

To have brotherly love, we must forgive each other (Colossians 3:13). If someone sins or commits mistakes against you, Jesus’ teachings direct us a life of forgiveness (Luke 17:4). With Jesus forgiving each sin we commit, what then is our reason not to forgive? Unforgiving hearts are covered with pride. To conquer pride is through humility, which leads us to the third means to keep unity. Finally, put on a humble and patient heart (Colossians 3:12). A humble heart does not judge others; they welcome even the weakest brother in faith (Romans 14:1). Moreover, in humility, we are to count others more significant than ourselves with minds seeking the interests of others and not just ourselves. 

What Brotherly Love Can Do

We already know that brotherly love is a command from God. Thus, it is not an option we can choose not to follow. There is no reason for us not to, anyway. Besides, it is impossible to live a Christian life without love when we experience it full-time. We love due to an overflow of God’s abundant love. Nothing of which can be counted of us but of God alone. Love is an active principle of the Bible. It causes us to move towards righteousness. Also, it gives us a passion for compassion. Every Christian receives God’s love with the purpose of giving it to others. It simply can’t be contained. Every believer is Christ’s vessel. And there is more to brotherly love that we tend to perceive.

Brotherly love does for us things more than what we do for the sake of it. When we give love, share, forgive, demonstrate humility, or encourage, we have the confidence to receive the same from others. It is not just because the Law and the Prophets teach us to do unto others what we wish to do unto us (Matthew 7:12) but because we are members of the Body of Christ (1 Corinthians 12:12). If one part of the body suffers, the entire body senses the pain and suffers as well (1 Corinthians 12:26). Therefore, no individual member endures pain alone. Above these things, brotherly love points to God who is the sole reason for our affection and being. Showing brotherly affection is therefore evidently significant.

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Showing Brotherly Love Strengthens the Body of Christ

God’s children were called with one hope, one faith, one baptism, and one Lord (Ephesians 4:-6). This shows the strength of God’s children when we are united. The Lord gives us different talents to equip His children for the work of ministry, for building up the body of Christ (Ephesians 4:11-12). Every part of the body functions to serve and be served so that it can grow in love (Ephesians 4:16). And all must be done in love: the love for Jesus and love for the church that is brotherly love. 

Apostle Paul urges that there should be no divisions in the Body of Christ; rather the members should have the same care for one another (1 Corinthians 12:25). What somebody lacks, another may be abounding. Where another is weak, someone may be stronger. And each can be used to build each other up all for the sake of growing the family of God. 1 Corinthians 12 shows various ways of strengthening the body of Christ through the gifts God. 

Showing Brotherly Love Shows That We Belong to God

Love probably is the loudest form of evangelism or if not, the most apparent way of preaching the cross of Jesus. Sometimes, it is easier to know things by seeing it and experiencing it than listening to it. This is perhaps the reason why Jesus told the twelve apostles that by loving one another people will know they are His disciples (John 13:35). Apostle John possibly remembers this teaching when He wrote in 1 John 4:7 to love one another for love is from God whoever loves has been born of God and knows God. Therefore, Apostle John continues, by the awesome love of Jesus, we ought to love one another. 

If we love one another, God abides in us, and His love is perfected in us (1 John 4:12). The love of God is seen in those who believe and love. By showing love with one another that other people will know we are the children of God. As stated in the Book of James, let us love not in word or talk but in truth and in deeds.  The Lord is the source of affection and love. The essence of God’s being is love. It is His very heart. He is love. If there is a lack of love in our hearts as His followers, we can ask for a sufficient love to fill our hearts so that we can extend it to others. 

Brotherly Love: A Portrait of God’s Character

The heart of God’s character is love. 1 John 4:8 tells us that love is God himself. The best expression of God’s love is the suffering of Jesus on the cross for the salvation of the world. Setting this as an example of our love leads us to a love that requires sacrifices for one another. The Bible reminds us that the world can know love if it is evident in the lives of His disciples (John 13:35). As light and salt of the world (Matthew 5:13), our lives can influence others to love and believe the love that was sent to the world. 

Brotherly love displays a portrait of God’s character. The mark of true Christianity is love. And above all things, love is what the world needs. Love begins within our family may it be our spiritual and biological family. We cannot extend this love in the world without first extending it with our fellow believers. There is no best time to practice love with the family God has adopted you with but now. Show love with little acts of kindness, patience, and humility. Always seek the interests of those around you. Following Jesus is not about you. He died for you and gave life you never deserve. It is your turn to show that love with compassion, consistency, and harmony. Spread love as you have received it!

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7 Examples of Brotherly Love in the Bible

Have you ever wondered what lessons we can learn from the biblical narratives about brotherly love ?

From the cautionary tale of Cain and Abel to the acts of kindness portrayed by the Good Samaritan , the Bible is filled with powerful examples that challenge our beliefs and inspire us to reflect on the importance of brotherly love in our lives.

In this article, we will delve into seven captivating stories that highlight the significance of brotherly love and the profound impact it can have on our relationships and communities.

These narratives not only offer valuable insights into biblical history but also provide practical wisdom that can be applied to our everyday lives.

Join us on this journey as we explore the extraordinary examples of brotherly love in the Bible and discover how these timeless stories continue to resonate with us today.

Are you ready to be inspired by the tales that have captivated hearts for centuries?

Cain and Abel (Genesis 4)

Genesis 4 tells the cautionary tale of Cain and Abel , highlighting the consequences of jealousy and the absence of brotherly love . In this tragic story, Cain’s jealousy toward his brother, Abel, ultimately leads to murder , forever altering the course of their lives.

Cain and Abel were the sons of Adam and Eve, and each offered their own sacrifices to God. While Abel’s offering was accepted, Cain’s was not. Consumed by jealousy , Cain allowed his anger to escalate, resulting in the murder of his brother.

“Then the Lord said to Cain, ‘Where is your brother Abel?’ ‘I don’t know,’ he replied. ‘Am I my brother’s keeper?’ The Lord said, ‘What have you done? Listen! Your brother’s blood cries out to me from the ground.'” – Genesis 4:9-10

This cautionary tale serves as a powerful reminder of the destructive consequences that can arise from envy and the absence of brotherly love . It teaches us to value and cherish the bonds we share with our siblings , fostering love, support , and understanding.

Joseph and His Brothers (Genesis 37-45)

The story of Joseph and his brothers is a captivating tale of forgiveness , reconciliation , and profound brotherly love . In the book of Genesis (37-45), Joseph is sold into slavery by his own brothers out of jealousy and envy.

However, despite enduring years of hardship and betrayal, Joseph ultimately finds it in his heart to forgive his brothers and extends mercy towards them.

Joseph’s journey from being sold into slavery to becoming a prominent leader in Egypt showcases his unwavering faith and his commitment to forgiveness .

When the time comes for his brothers to seek help during a severe famine, Joseph embraces them with open arms and saves them from starvation.

The story of Joseph and his brothers is a powerful testament to forgiveness and reconciliation .

This story serves as a remarkable lesson in the transformative power of forgiveness and the healing potential of reconciliation . It demonstrates that even in the face of deep betrayal, it is possible to find forgiveness and extend mercy to those who have wronged us.

Joseph’s actions exemplify the ability to rise above bitterness and harbor profound brotherly love towards others.

This tale of Joseph and his brothers reminds us of the importance of forgiveness in our own relationships . It encourages us to let go of grudges, embrace reconciliation, and nurture a spirit of mercy and compassion towards one another.

Moses, Aaron, and Miriam (Exodus and Numbers)

The trio of siblings – Moses , Aaron , and Miriam – played crucial roles in leading the Israelites out of Egypt and through the wilderness.

Their relationships exemplify support and leadership , with Aaron and Miriam’s contributions highlighting the importance of brotherly love in navigating challenges.

Moses , the chosen leader, was responsible for communicating with God and delivering His messages to the nation. However, he relied on the support and assistance of his siblings , Aaron and Miriam , throughout their nation’s journey .

Aaron, as Moses’ older brother, served as the high priest and spokesperson for the Israelites. He played a vital role in fostering unity and maintaining the religious practices of the community.

Aaron’s ability to work harmoniously with Moses exemplifies the power of sibling collaboration and support in leadership .

Miriam , as the sister of Moses and Aaron, also held an influential position among the Israelites. She was a prophetess and a respected figure in the community. Miriam’s unwavering support for her brothers and her role in leading the Israelite women demonstrate the significant contributions siblings can make in times of challenges and uncertainty.

The strong bond between Moses, Aaron, and Miriam not only assisted the Israelites in their physical journey but also provided emotional and spiritual support during difficult times.

Their shared experience as siblings fostered a profound sense of unity, trust, and reliance on one another.

The invaluable contributions of Moses, Aaron, and Miriam serve as a testament to the power of sibling support and cooperation in leadership .

Their story inspires us to appreciate and nurture the bonds with our siblings, recognizing the potential for great achievements that can be accomplished when siblings work together for a common purpose.

David and Jonathan (1 Samuel 18-20)

David and Jonathan’s friendship is a remarkable testament to brotherly love and loyalty. Despite the challenges they faced, their bond remained unbreakable and their story continues to inspire generations.

When David, a young shepherd, defeated the giant Goliath, his heroism caught the attention of King Saul. Jonathan, Saul’s son, befriended David and formed an inseparable bond.

Their friendship blossomed, and they made a covenant, pledging loyalty and support to one another.

“Jonathan became one in spirit with David, and he loved him as himself.” – 1 Samuel 18:1

However, Saul’s jealousy grew as he witnessed David’s triumphs and popularity. He became consumed with envy and sought to harm David out of fear that he might eventually claim the throne.

Despite his father’s animosity towards David, Jonathan remained steadfast in his friendship and brotherly love.

In a heartwarming scene in 1 Samuel 20, Jonathan warns David of his father’s intentions to kill him. He devises a plan to protect his friend, demonstrating unwavering loyalty and selflessness . David and Jonathan develop a secret code to communicate, ensuring David’s safety.

“But show me unfailing kindness like the Lord’s kindness as long as I live, so that I may not be killed, and do not ever cut off your kindness from my family—not even when the Lord has cut off every one of David’s enemies from the face of the earth.” – 1 Samuel 20:14-15

Ultimately, Jonathan’s loyalty to his father and his deep affection for David collide. Saul’s desire to kill David intensifies, and Jonathan must choose between preserving the throne for his family or honoring his covenant with David.

Recognizing the greater purpose, he pledges his allegiance to David, even at the cost of his own aspirations.

The story of David and Jonathan epitomizes the power of friendship and brotherly love. It teaches us about the strength and beauty of enduring relationships, even in the face of adversity.

The Bond of David and Jonathan

The parable of the prodigal son (luke 15:11-32).

Jesus’ parable emphasizes the power of forgiveness and the depth of unconditional love within a family . In this heartwarming story, a father’s love transcends mistakes and welcomes his prodigal son back with open arms.

The parable begins with a younger son who asks his father for his share of the inheritance. The father grants his request, and the son sets off on a journey to explore the world.

However, the son soon squanders his wealth in reckless living and finds himself destitute.

Realizing the error of his ways, the prodigal son decides to return to his father, confessing his sins and seeking forgiveness. As the son approaches, the father sees him from a distance and runs to embrace him, anxiously waiting for his return.

“But while he was still a long way off, his father saw him and was filled with compassion for him; he ran to his son, threw his arms around him and kissed him.” – Luke 15:20

This powerful moment illustrates the father’s unconditional love and forgiveness, regardless of his son’s past actions. It symbolizes the profound bond and acceptance that exists within a family , showcasing the transformative power of love and grace.

However, the parable also introduces the element of jealousy and resentment through the older brother. When he learns of his younger brother’s return and his father’s warm reception, the older brother becomes angry and refuses to join in the celebration.

This struggle with jealousy highlights the challenges within brotherly love. It serves as a reminder that love and acceptance may require us to overcome our own insecurities and embrace the growth and success of our loved ones.

The Key Themes of the Parable

The Parable of the Prodigal Son touches on several significant themes:

• Forgiveness: The parable emphasizes the importance of forgiving others, even when they have made mistakes and hurt us.
• Unconditional love: The father’s actions demonstrate the power and depth of unconditional love within a family. His love for his sons remains steadfast, regardless of their actions.

This parable also emphasizes the importance of family and acceptance . It encourages us to reflect on our own relationships and consider the role forgiveness and unconditional love can play in fostering stronger bonds.

The Parable of the Prodigal Son serves as a timeless reminder of the complexities, challenges, and beauty associated with brotherly love and the power of forgiveness within a family.

Peter and Andrew, James and John (The Gospels)

In the Gospels, we encounter two pairs of brothers who played significant roles in Jesus’ ministry – Peter and Andrew , as well as James and John .

These disciples made a profound decision to follow Jesus , leaving behind their livelihoods and families to become his faithful companions.

Brotherly love is evident in their unwavering support for one another, as they navigated the challenges and uncertainties of their faith journey together. Their bond exemplifies the strength and power that can be found in brotherhood when united by a common purpose.

Peter and Andrew were fishermen by trade, casting nets in the Sea of Galilee. When Jesus called them, they immediately dropped their nets and followed him. Peter would later become one of Jesus’ closest disciples and a key leader in the early church, known for his strong faith and unwavering dedication.

Similarly, James and John were also fishermen, working alongside their father Zebedee. Like Peter and Andrew , they encountered Jesus by the sea and responded to his call without hesitation.

James and John were privileged to witness pivotal moments in Jesus’ life, such as the Transfiguration and his agony in the Garden of Gethsemane.

Throughout their time with Jesus, Peter, Andrew, James, and John were witnesses to his miracles, teachings, and the ultimate sacrifice he made for humanity.

Their brotherly love sustained them in their moments of doubt and fear, supporting each other in their quest to spread the message of faith and salvation.

Roles and Contributions

Each of these disciples had unique roles and contributions within the group. Peter, known for his impulsive nature and boldness, often served as a spokesperson and leader among the twelve disciples.

He was the first to proclaim Jesus as the Messiah and played a pivotal role in the establishment of the early Christian church.

Andrew, Peter’s brother, is often overshadowed by his more prominent sibling. However, his modest and faithful character allowed him to bring others to Jesus, including his fellow disciple, John.

Andrew’s notable contribution was bringing the boy with five loaves and two fish to Jesus, which led to the miraculous feeding of the five thousand.

James and John, on the other hand, were known for their ambition and aspirations. They were given the nickname “Sons of Thunder” by Jesus, likely due to their fiery temperaments.

Despite this, they were transformed by their discipleship, eventually becoming apostles who played crucial roles in the growth of the early Christian community.

The Good Samaritan (Luke 10:25-37)

The parable of the Good Samaritan , found in Luke 10:25-37, is a timeless story that beautifully illustrates the concept of brotherly love transcending ethnic and social boundaries .

In this parable, Jesus tells of a man who fell victim to thieves and was left beaten and half-dead on the side of the road. Several religious figures, including a priest and a Levite, passed by without offering any help.

However, it was a Samaritan, a member of an ethnic group despised by the Jews, who showed compassion.

The Good Samaritan’s selfless act of caring for the injured man, regardless of their differences, teaches an important lesson about the importance of demonstrating kindness to others.

This parable highlights the universal nature of brotherly love and challenges us to look beyond our preconceived notions and societal boundaries.

“But a Samaritan, as he journeyed, came to where he was, and when he saw him, he had compassion. He went to him and bound up his wounds, pouring on oil and wine. Then he set him on his own animal and brought him to an inn and took care of him.” ( Luke 10:33-34 )

The Significance of the Parable

The Good Samaritan parable reminds us that acts of kindness and compassion are not limited to those who are like us or share our cultural background.

It encourages us to break free from the constraints of societal norms and reach out to those in need, regardless of their ethnicity or social standing.

By embracing brotherly love and showing empathy towards others, we can transform lives and foster a more inclusive and compassionate society.

As we reflect on the profound impact of the Good Samaritan’s actions, let us strive to emulate his example and extend love and care to all those we encounter in our daily lives.

Brotherly Love in Everyday Life

Apart from the inspiring narratives in the Bible, brotherly love can also be observed and practiced in our everyday lives.

Its practical application can be seen in various modern examples , highlighting the importance of cultivating strong relationships with our family, friends, and communities.

One modern example of brotherly love is supporting a loved one through difficult times . Whether it’s offering a shoulder to lean on, providing words of encouragement, or lending a helping hand, showing support can make a world of difference in someone’s life.

Acts of kindness are another way to demonstrate brotherly love in our daily interactions.

Simple gestures like holding the door for a stranger, volunteering at a local shelter, or helping a neighbor with chores can foster a sense of connection and promote goodwill among individuals.

“No act of kindness, no matter how small, is ever wasted.” – Aesop

In our relationships, effective communication plays a key role in nurturing brotherly love. Taking the time to listen, understand, and empathize with others helps to build trust, foster understanding, and resolve conflicts in a respectful manner.

Recognizing the importance of quality time is essential for strengthening brotherly love. Whether it’s having a family dinner, engaging in shared hobbies, or simply enjoying each other’s company, dedicating time to bond and create lasting memories is invaluable.

Forgiveness is another crucial aspect of brotherly love. Learning to let go of grudges and resentments promotes healing and reconciliation in relationships, allowing for growth and a deeper emotional connection.

Finally, cultivating a spirit of generosity and selflessness contributes to the practice of brotherly love.

Being willing to put others’ needs before our own, whether it’s through acts of service or helping those less fortunate, fosters a sense of unity and compassion within our communities.

Modern Examples of Brotherly Love:

• Friends organizing a surprise birthday party for a close friend
• Neighbors coming together to clean up a public park
• Siblings supporting each other’s dreams and aspirations
• Community members volunteering at a local food bank
• Colleagues fostering a collaborative and supportive work environment

By embracing these practical applications of brotherly love in our everyday lives, we can strengthen our relationships and create a more compassionate and harmonious world.

Is Brotherly Love Considered Forbidden in Any Bible Verses?

The concept of instances of forbidden love in the Bible is present in various verses, including those that discuss brotherly love. In Leviticus 18:6, it is stated that having sexual relations with a close relative, including a brother, is prohibited. This prohibition is also reiterated in Leviticus 20:17.

Cultivating Brotherly Love

To truly cultivate and strengthen brotherly love in our lives, we must embrace key principles and practice them consistently. One of the first steps is to foster selflessness , putting the needs and interests of others before our own.

By prioritizing the well-being of those around us, we create a foundation of genuine care and concern.

Empathy is another crucial element in cultivating brotherly love . It involves putting ourselves in someone else’s shoes, seeking to understand their experiences, emotions, and perspectives.

Through empathy, we develop a deeper connection with others, fostering mutual respect and compassion.

Forgiveness plays a pivotal role in nurturing brotherly love. It requires letting go of grudges and resentments, allowing healing and reconciliation to take place.

The act of forgiving not only frees the person who wronged us but also liberates ourselves from the burden of carrying negative emotions.

Open and effective communication is essential in building strong relationships based on brotherly love. It involves listening attentively, expressing ourselves honestly and respectfully, and seeking mutual understanding.

By communicating openly, we foster trust, resolve conflicts, and create an atmosphere of unity and harmony.

Acts of kindness are the tangible expression of brotherly love. Whether it’s lending a helping hand, offering a word of encouragement, or showing compassion to those in need, small acts of kindness have a ripple effect, spreading love and positivity throughout our communities.

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10 Key Bible Verses on Brotherly Love

This article is part of the Key Bible Verses series.

All commentary notes adapted from the ESV Study Bible .

1. romans 12:9–10.

Let love be genuine. Abhor what is evil; hold fast to what is good. Love one another with brotherly affection. Outdo one another in showing honor. Read More

The second half of chapter 12 is a description of the life that is pleasing to God. Not surprisingly, love heads the list, for all that Paul says is embraced by the call to love (see note on John 13:34–35). genuine . Love cannot be reduced to sentimentalism.

2. Leviticus 19:18

You shall not take vengeance or bear a grudge against the sons of your own people, but you shall love your neighbor as yourself: I am the LORD. Read More

The instruction and warning of Lev. 19:17 is developed in a heightened way. you shall love your neighbor as yourself . To love one’s neighbor as oneself is a fundamental principle of the Torah, God’s law. Both Jesus and Paul teach that it is a foundational tenet for how believers are to treat one another (Matt. 22:39–40; Rom. 13:9; Gal. 5:14), while James calls this the “royal law” (James 2:8). In Matt. 5:43, Jesus cites a distortion of this rule in order to restore the rule to its rightful place.

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3. Mark 12:30–31

‘And you shall love the Lord your God with all your heart and with all your soul and with all your mind and with all your strength.’ The second is this: ‘You shall love your neighbor as yourself.’ There is no other commandment greater than these. Read More

A teachable scribe (a theological scholar, probably of the Pharisaic faction) holds a friendly dialogue with Jesus. He asks which commandment of God is of fundamental importance and central to everything else. Jesus answers directly: the most important commandment, introduced by Deut. 6:4, is to love the Lord your God completely (Deut. 6:5; cf. notes on Matt. 22:37–38 and Luke 10:27). Second to this is to love your neighbor as yourself (Lev. 19:18, 34). The faithful, covenant-keeping God asks the objects of his love to love him and other human beings too (Rom. 13:8–10; Gal. 5:14; 1 John 4:10–11, 19).

4. 1 Peter 1:22

Having purified your souls by your obedience to the truth for a sincere brotherly love, love one another earnestly from a pure heart. Read More

Peter’s call for his readers to love one another is grounded in their conversion, which occurred when they were obedient to the truth (i.e., the gospel) and therefore were purified and cleansed.

5. John 13:34–35

A new commandment I give to you, that you love one another: just as I have loved you, you also are to love one another. By this all people will know that you are my disciples, if you have love for one another. Read More

Love must be the distinguishing mark of Jesus’ disciples. Jesus’ “new command” takes its point of departure from the Mosaic commands to love the Lord with all one’s powers and to love one’s neighbor as oneself (Lev. 19:18; cf. Deut. 6:5; Mark 12:28–33), but Jesus’ own love and teaching deepen and transform these commands. Jesus even taught love for one’s enemies (Matt. 5:43–48). The command to love one’s neighbor was not new; the newness was found in loving one another as Jesus had loved his disciples (cf. John 13:1; 15:13). In light of Jesus’ subsequent death, just as implies a love that is even willing to lay down one’s life for another (see John 15:13).

6. 1 Thessalonians 4:9

Now concerning brotherly love you have no need for anyone to write to you, for you yourselves have been taught by God to love one another. Read More

taught by God to love one another . Jeremiah 31:33–34 prophesied that God would write his law on the hearts of his people and directly teach them as part of the new covenant. Christians already know this reality (1 John 2:27): by love they fulfill the law (Rom. 13:8–10; cf. Lev. 19:18; John 13:34).

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7. Proverbs 10:12

Hatred stirs up strife, but love covers all offenses. Read More

Where the wicked are described as concealing violence (Prov. 10:6b, 11b) or hatred (Prov. 10:12a, 18a) and thus deceiving others for their own sinful purposes, the one who is wise seeks the good of others even when he or she is the offended party: love covers (the same Hb. verb, kasah, is translated as “conceal” in Prov. 6b, 11b, 18a) all offenses . Cf. the similar instruction in Matt. 5:44; James 5:20; 1 Pet. 4:8.

8. Ephesians 4:1–2

I therefore, a prisoner for the Lord, urge you to walk in a manner worthy of the calling to which you have been called, with all humility and gentleness, with patience, bearing with one another in love. Read More

Humility was regarded as distasteful by the pagan world of Paul’s day. Pride was more highly prized. All of the virtues mentioned—humility, gentleness , patience , and most of all, love —were displayed in Christ’s own character and are to be evident in the daily walk of every Christian.

9. Philippians 2:1–2

So if there is any encouragement in Christ, any comfort from love, any participation in the Spirit, any affection and sympathy, complete my joy by being of the same mind, having the same love, being in full accord and of one mind. Read More

Paul is not doubting that encouragement , participation in the Spirit , affection , and sympathy are realities in Christ and are present in the congregation at Philippi. He uses a conditional sentence (if) to provoke the Philippians so that they will reflect on whether these qualities are evident in their lives. The Philippian believers must make sure they continue to progress in the absolutely critical area of love for one another. As Paul emphasizes, they must be of the same mind . This does not imply a drab intellectual uniformity; rather, the Philippians are to use their diverse gifts (cf. 1 Corinthians 12) in an agreeable, cooperative spirit, with a focus on the glory of God.

10. Colossians 3:12–14

Put on then, as God’s chosen ones, holy and beloved, compassionate hearts, kindness, humility, meekness, and patience, bearing with one another and, if one has a complaint against another, forgiving each other; as the Lord has forgiven you, so you also must forgive. And above all these put on love, which binds everything together in perfect harmony. Read More

Paul calls the Colossians to a holy lifestyle, consistent with their new identity. Believers have been chosen by God and stand before him as his beloved holy ones. They are to live up to what they are in Christ.

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Reading Acts

Some thoughts on the book of acts and pauline theology, what is brotherly love (1 thessalonians 4:9–10).

The Greeks considered the relationship between brothers to be of primary importance, Plutarch used the term “brotherly love” to describe the proper relationship between brothers.

Plutarch, De fraterno amore 2 …where there is an unanimous accordance amongst brothers, the family thrives and flourishes, and friends and acquaintance, like a well furnished choir, in all their actions, words, and thoughts maintain a delightful harmony. “But jarring feuds advance the worst of men.” Plutarch, De fraterno amore 15   Brothers should not be like the scales of a balance, the one rising upon the other’s sinking; but rather like numbers in arithmetic, the lesser and greater mutually helping and improving each other. Plutarch, De fraterno amore 21    Again, it is highly commendable in him to have the highest esteem and honor for his brother’s wife, reputing and honoring her as the most sacred of all his brother’s sacred treasures, and thus to do honor to him

Based on the teaching of Jesus, the earliest believers referred to themselves as “brothers and sisters.” In Mark 3:3 Jesus indicates that his “brothers and sisters” are those who hear and obey his words.  If those who followed Jesus faced rejection from their families, it is possible that Jesus intended his followers to be a new “family.”  On the other hand, the family of Jesus may be an allusion to the larger theme of a New Israel among the followers of Jesus.  In Acts 2:29 Peter addresses a Jewish crowd as “brothers,” meaning “fellow Jews.”   So too Paul in Acts 22:1; 23:1.

Paul’s use of the term “brother” and “brotherly love” bears additional theological weight.  By accepting Christ, we are adopted into the family of God, God is our father.  This makes each person that has accepted Christ as their savior a brother or sister in Christ. This new family in Christ is the foundation for many of Paul’s commands (cf., Rom 12:10; other Christian ethical instruction begins the same way (Heb 13:1; 1 Pet 1:22; 2 Pet 1:7; 1 Clem 48:1).  He urges his readers to please God by treating each other like brothers and sisters.

If the church lives in brotherly love, then the father is pleased and honored.  For the Greek world, nothing dishonors the parent more that children who do not display proper affection for one another and feud. If Plutarch could say “jarring feuds advance the worst of men,” how might he describe the sort of angry disputes which plague most modern churches?

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By the term brotherly love I don’t see it as something that us Christians should do only if the other person loves Jesus. It is something we should live by no matter what the other person believes or if the other person loves Jesus. As Christians we are supposed to show people the love that Christ showed us. Jesus did not die for only those who believed in Him, He died for everyone and everyone’s sins past, present, and future. Yes, loving our family and fellow Christian’s is very important and we should show them all the love we have. But showing those who do not know God is even more important. As Paul states in 2 Corinthians 5:20, “Therefore, we are ambassadors for Christ, God making his appeal through us. We implore you on behalf of Christ, be reconciled to God” (ESV) we are to strengthen and bring people into the kingdom of God. Along with loving others we need not feud with our fellow Christians as this puts stress in the kingdom of God. How would it look to those out of Christ if all of us Christains are feuding and not loving one another? As you said in the blog, “For the Greek world, nothing dishonors the parent more that children who do not display proper affection for one another and feud” (Phil Long) it would not be pleasing to then believe in God if they saw the body of Christ feuding not loving one another as it is such an apparent thing in their culture.

Erika, although I do completely agree with your statement expressing that it is important to show the love of Christ to everyone, I am not sure if it is more important to show the love of Christ to non-Christians than fellow brothers. Rather, love simply needs to be shown differently when it comes to fellow brothers and non-Christians. It seems as if we are called to live at peace with our own brothers in Christ while still creating relationships with non-Christians in hopes to someday see them in eternity. Both tasks are equally important and one without the other would not help advance the kingdom of God. It would be a shame for a church to spend all their time evangelising that they forget their very own relationships between church members–causing their brotherly love to fall to the ground. In the same way, it would be just as useless to a church where individuals are living at peace with one another, yet not going into the world to share the good news.

In response to the initial post, Plutarch would most likely be sick to his stomach after seeing the modern day churches conflict. Internal disputes cannot be forgotten because typically, wounds from within cut deeper than any external conflict. Furthermore, right then is where Satan likes to work.

When looking and deciding or thinking about what brotherly love is I would say it is the love of one another believers and nonbelievers. According to Jesus he addresses everyone as brothers and sisters and according to that then brotherly love would be the love of one another that we are called to do and that is talked about by Paul in Thessalonians and by Jesus before that. Brotherly love is showing love to others and showing love to fellow believers in the body of Christ. While it is still important to show love to nonbelievers I feel that showing brotherly love that is talked about here is very important within the body of Christ. We are meant to show love to all and this brotherly love is included in that.

If Plutarch was to be a part of the modern church he would be disappointed in the modern church and what is going on there. He would be disappointed in the lack of brotherly love within the church as the body of Christ and the sad fact that there has been in recent years more internal conflict and focus upon tearing one another down instead of showing one another the brotherly love that we are meant to and is required of us as believers. We are meant to show brotherly love and that is severely lacking in the modern church as they are caught up with things that are not as important as the mission that Jesus set out for us.

There are two main movements to 1 Thessalonians, in which Paul celebrated the Thessalonians’ faithfulness to Jesus and challenged them to continue to grow as Christians. Paul celebrated the Thessalonians’ because of their faith even through controversy and opposition (1 Timothy 1:9-10) and he told of his time in Thessalonica from Acts 17. Paul talked about how Christian leadership is about relationships and loving service. I believe this might also be a part of “brotherly love” because it relates to serving others with love. Paul told of his mission in Thessalonica and how they were “ready to share with you not only the gospel of God but also of our own selves, because you had become very dear to us” (1 Thessalonians 2:8). There is common persecution amongst the different parties. Jesus was persecuted and killed by his own people, Paul was persecuted by his fellow Jews, and the Thessalonians faced hostility from their neighbors (1 Thessalonians 2:13-16). Paul wrote that the suffering is a way of participating in Jesus’ story. There is not a lack of love, but a sort of comradery explained in this that the people of Thessalonica are not alone in their suffering. Paul challenges the believers in chapter four of 1 Thessalonians to make a commitment to love and serve others. The Christians in the city of Thessalonica should be known as reliable people who work hard to provide for themselves and for others in need (1 Thessalonians 4:9-12). Paul urged the assembly to have brotherly love for both their congregation and for those who do not yet believe (TTP, 69).

In terms of brotherly love, I think it is equally important to believers and non-believers. With other Christians, we should hold a higher moral standard that hopefully includes loving them..In the modern church, a lot of the time that is not the case. We want to sit in our own comfortable seat, drink our own coffee, sing the songs we want to sing, and then leave to go back to our comfortable homes. We are in community, but most Christians aren’t active in it. Most Christians are afraid to step out of their comfort zones and to talk to people because there is this sense that all Christians are perfect. I mean, it’s like the end of the world if we don’t answer with “I’m doing well” during the mingle time. But not all churches are that way. There are lots of “community centered” or mission minded churches” who take the time to be intentional with the people in the church. Showing brotherly love to unbelievers is just as important because if we’re spending time in the word, in prayer, and in community..then love should flow out of us naturally because of who God is and what he’s done for us. If not, then one should take a step back and ask themselves what is keeping them from showing love to the people around them who are broken and hurting?

It is no question that modern churches would disgust Plutarch. Unfortunately, even in my home church I have seen countless feuds, sometimes in which families would leave the church for unimportant reasons such as who got the solo in the Christmas choir concert. I believe he would describe the disputes the same way and even add that they advance the destruction of men as well as brining out the worst in them. In 1 Thessalonians 4:9-10, Paul urges the congregation to continue to love even more than they have before. We can certainly learn a few things from this statement. It shows that even though the Thessalonians thought they were doing a pretty good job, there is always room for improvement, especially when it comes to how we treat one another and some times we forget this.

Longennecker says, “ Life in Christ commences in faith, continues in love, and culminates in hope” (65). Faith, hope, and love are the three main pillars of Paul’s writings and as we know, love is the greatest of all (1 Corinthians 13:13), thus if we are not always trying to love even more than before, then we are really missing the point of the gospel. Unresolved and petty feuds bring about the opposite of love, and though we are a broken people and will therefore always struggle with this, we must do our best to follow Paul’s instructions on continually working out love or else we will certainly destroy ourselves and those around us.

Rachel Smith

“If Plutarch could say “jarring feuds advance the worst of men,” how might he describe the sort of angry disputes which plague most modern churches?” (P. Long, blog-What is Brotherly Love?) Plutarch may have many things to say about the angry disputes that most modern churches deal with. In the hypothetical world that would allow Plutarch to live today and comment on the angry disputes, he may say that the children of God have dishonoured their heavenly father to such an extent that they have lost their salvation. I think that Plutarch might think that the angry disputes of the modern churches are advancing evil inside the church; based off his quote “jarring feuds advance the worst of men,” (P. Long, blog). Plutarch would be disappointed in the modern churches for their lack of brotherly love. He would not be happy with the modern churches’ seemingly inability to have ‘unanimous accordance’ with each other. Many modern churches today would not receive a similar response from Plutarch as the church in Thessalonica received from Paul. “With respect to the assembly’s commitment to and practice of philadelphia (lit., “brotherly love”), the apostle is pleased” (TTP, 70).

Brotherly love is so important. I think it is really incredible that we get to look at the church as another family. I think that when the church has a strong form of, “brotherly love,” it reflects on and affects the community that they are in. “Life in Christ commences in faith, continues in love, and culminates in hope,” (TTP 65). When we live in Christ and have that brotherly love, we are going to have more hope. That is a wonderful feeling and that should be a motivator to go and spread the good news. “And we also thank God continually because, when you received the word of God, which you heard from us, you accepted it not as a human word, but as it actually is, the word of God, which is indeed at work in you who believe,” (1 Thessalonians 2:13). Once we accept that the Bible is true and we absorb the words that are being said, we can apply it to our everyday life. If everyone applies having brotherly love, this world would be a brighter place.

I agree with Tasha that love is different when approaching different people, Christian or non Christians. Brotherly love is important in our churches because sometimes we get caught up in the idea that we need to keep building up the church, when we need to start building into our relations with each other. We tend to get caught up in the idea of growing in numbers instead of relationships. I believe that brotherly love can be stronger because you come together with Christ to love each other. We have to use a different love to love those who are lost. That does not mean our love for anyone should be any less. According to 1 Thessalonians 4:9, “Now about your love for one another we do not need to write to you, for you yourselves have been taught by God to love each other.”

I think Plutarch would be appalled by how some of our churches act as well. We tend to find ourselves arguing over useless matters instead of growing the brotherly love that we desperately need in our world today. I think we would be ashamed by what Plutarch would have to say.

The idea of brotherly love must come from a community of people that can identify themselves as a “family” otherwise the brotherly aspect of the love loses its meaning. As Christians we are called to love everyone regardless of their beliefs in life. We see this in Matthew 22 verses 34 – 40 where we are, “ to love our neighbor as ourselves.” However, I do think this brotherly love, when used in biblical context, is reserved for those that are already saved by Christ. The love we share to non-believers is a different type of love. The reservation of the brotherly love to those that are faithful can be explained further in Mark 3:3 – where Jesus indicates that his “brothers and sisters” are those who hear and obey his words. Those that are not saved by Christ do not fall under that criterion. A good real-life example of “brotherly or sisterly” love can be seen when dating before marriage. A man can love his girlfriend – enjoy spending time with her, getting to know her, meeting her family, etc. – but he doesn’t love her as if she was as important to his own family, at least not yet. The brotherly/sisterly love comes in when they become married. This forms the community between the two people and their families, and they become a community where they love each other as such. Similarly, when one accepts the Lord Jesus Christ as their savior, they become a part of the family and are a part of that “brother and sister” community.

When looking at what goes on in modern day churches, Plutarch would say that it is of upmost disappointment. The idea of Church as a community of brothers and sisters, as explained earlier in the blog post, has been lost over the past few years because of societies shift from the importance of community to the importance of the individual. Because of this shift, people of the church are too busy comparing themselves to others within the church, or disagreeing with others in the church, they lose the ultimate goal of the body of Christ and its end goal.

When I think of brotherly love, I also see it as the way Christians interact with other brothers and sisters in Christ. I think it is important to distinguish this from “loving thy neighbor”, because while both are important, they are not the same thing. I think it can be easy to figure that we should have the same love for all people, and treat everyone with compassion, and while that is true- there is still differences between the love between fellow family in Christ- and our “neighbors. For example, in Matthew 22:39, God commands us to love our neighbors as we love ourselves. However, Romans 12:10 says for brothers and sisters to “Honor one another above yourselves”. It appears from these two examples that the love of a brother goes even beyond that of a neighbor, and is not exactly the same, The best example of brotherly love that I can think of is how Jesus interacts with his brothers and sisters in Christ during his life time, and the type of love he has for them.

Brotherly love is what we know to be to love one another as God loves us. God does not hate and accepts people for who they are. We, as Christians, need to love like God does. Paul preaches the Thessalonians about brotherly and sisterly love. As Long states in the article: “By accepting Christ, we are adopted into the family of God, God is our father. This makes each person that has accepted Christ as their savior a brother or sister in Christ.” (Long, 2017) This is also why we call each other brothers and sisters in the church as we are all under one father which is God. I think it is just equally important to love other people who are not believers of Christ yet. God would do the same thing, so we should as well. We cannot hate but open up with love and kindness. After all, God died for all sin. Not just for the people who believed in Him. Longenecker says: “By urging the fellowship to practice philadelphia “more and more,”.” (Longenecker, 70) Philadelphia is another term for brotherly love. No matter how much we provide for other people, there is always something more that we can do. We can love more and care more. Found in John 13:34 we are given a new commandment to love one another. God would not want us to feud in or outside of the church. The church is a house of worship, not hatred. So this would not be pleasing and unappealing to the Lord. I feel like when you step inside a church and begin to worship and praise God, you can feel the type of environment you are in. You can feel if the church loves each other and see the bond. If the church does not have this feeling then how can we still worship God there? We have to show love to everyone. You never know how you may impact or how.

I think that the love Jesus shows the people he interacts with and prays over is the love we all should look for. It is also important to prepare the church for a place of love. Especially since it is a place to worship God. It is pleasing to Him that we love each other. John 13:34 is a good verse that shows the commandment to be pure with love. It is so important to love people who are not believers as well. Bringing as many people to the Lord is exceptional work. It is also good to know that there is always something more that we can be doing to please God.

When it comes to the term “brotherly love”, I don’t think that the endearment is only meant for those who are followers of Jesus. I think we are called to love everyone and show everyone “brotherly love” regardless of their walk in life. In 1 Thessalonians 4:9-10, Paul says, “Now concerning brotherly love, you have no need for anyone to write to you, for you yourselves have been taught by God to love one another, for that indeed is what you are doing to all the brothers throughout Macedonia. But we urge you, brothers, to do this more and more…”. When Paul is addressing the Thessalonians he does not say that they are to only show love to those who are walking alongside them in their faith, but “all the brothers throughout Macedonia”. As Christians this can easily be applied to the way we live our lives today. We should always strive to love those around us with no expectation of love in return, because that is what Jesus did. He loved and died to save everyone, sinners and believers alike, even when we did not deserve the sacrifice. Mark 12:31, tells us to “Love your neighbor as yourself.” I think this correlates well with the 1 Thessalonians 4:9-10 verses because it shows to me that community is important, helping each other and being there for one another is vital, and family is imperative. The church is a family and when you choose to become a believer and put your faith in God you gain another important family member along with a wide variety of siblings. Loving those around you isn’t always easy and families tend to argue and fight. But if you act out of love those around you with the same dedication, intentionality, and eagerness as God loves you, helping build the Kingdom of God is second nature. And ultimately that is what we are called to do.

1 Thessalonian 4:9- states, “Now concerning “brotherly love” you have no need for anyone to write to you, for you yourselves have been taught by God.” Jesus had a pure love, he showed it through many different ways. For example, sending His Son to die on the cross for our sins, being truth and caring for the helpless, (Romans 5:8, John 14:6). Christians of course cannot die and take on sin but we can care for those around us. As a Christian we are meant to follow in the foot steps of God the best we can, this starts with loving others first. I believe that in the present Christians have forgotten what love really means. As a believer in Christ, we should care for those around us but without going against the Bible. Jesus loved people by telling them the truth and He never made someone else feel comfortable in their sin. Jesus loved without conditions which is remarkable because of how much we sin against Him. Paul was saying Jesus already perfectly made the path to show us how to love others, and that he did not need to tell them again. Also, there is the possibly he was referring to the body of Christ loving each other. The church is divided, especially in the present age. There are so many different church denominations, if we are all reading the same Bible why are Christians divided among themselves? We are supposed to love the body of church and the body has many different parts so that we can all work together and follow Jesus Christ. I believe we are supposed to love the body of Christ and love the unbelievers to show them the power of God.

There is a lot that we can take out of these verses. Here Paul is speaking to the church at Thessalonica about brotherly love. What is Paul saying when he says “brotherly love”? Well, as Long stated in this blog, “By accepting Christ, we are adopted into the family of God, God is our father. This makes each person that has accepted Christ as their savior a brother or sister in Christ.” Which explains this very well, but I don’t think it should stop there. Our God is a loving God and he calls us to love everyone, “And the second is like it: You shall love your neighbor as yourself” (Matthew 22:39). This verse tells us that we should treat others equally and follow the golden rule, treat others the way you want to be treated. As believers, we should not bring others down for whatever reason it may be. We should show them love and respect no matter what or who they are. We are called to love like God loves, and bringing people down in any way is not God’s love. We know that we are fearfully and wonderfully made (Psalm 139:14) in the image of God (Genesis 1:27). He made each of us intentionally, making all of us His children. We are all brothers and sisters, no matter what beliefs or morals a person may have, they are still our brother or sister. Now, the love you give to some people may be different than the love you give to others. This is why Paul goes on to say “do this more and more” and by that he is telling us that there is always room to do better and be more like God and that is what we should strive to do.

Paul is a picture of leading by example. He writes to the Thessalonians about brotherly love in 1 Thessalonians 4:9-10 and sets the tone of his message by greeting the members of the church with the name “brothers.” This practice of calling one another family in Christ is carried into this day, I have heard the phrase “we are brothers and sisters in Christ” more times than I can count. Paul speaks of the family of believers that are one within Christ on many occasions, just an example being Romans 12:10, which reads, “Love one another with brotherly affection. Outdo one another in showing honor.” Although this concept of showing brotherly and sisterly affection is still a prominent speech among Christians, how often do we see this brotherly affection within the church? In my current church experience, I see examples of this brotherly and sisterly affection in many ways. At my current church, the community is strong and thriving, the congregation is unified, the worship is inspiring, and the preaching is directional. I also have experience of being in a church where brotherly and sisterly affection was preached, but not carried out. Because of a lack of action, the congregation was full of tension, anxieties were high, bitterness increased due to lack of communication, and love was withheld in moments where it was needed. What a missed opportunity to carry the love of Christ and to dive into Paul’s teaching of brotherly love and unity. God’s picture of the church being a strong body of members, as 1 Corinthians 12 reveals. Without this heart posture and active action of brotherly love and affection, the community and purpose of the church is not meeting God’s desire.

In today’s world, where communication is more accessible than ever, it’s somewhat ironic that we witness some of the most divisive and bitter disputes within the walls of churches. Plutarch might describe these angry disputes in modern churches as breeding grounds for the worst aspects of human behavior. Plutarch would likely argue that angry disputes in churches hinder spiritual growth. When members of a congregation engage in bitter arguments and conflicts, they become preoccupied with their differences rather than their shared faith. This preoccupation can lead to a decline in spiritual development, as the focus shifts from nurturing one’s relationship with the divine to winning personal battles.

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The Power of Sibling Bonds in The Brothers Karamazov

In the year of Dostoevsky’s bicentennial, a revisiting of familial relationships in one of his most popular works.

A new commandment I give unto you, that ye love one another; even as I have loved you, that ye also love one another. (John 13:34) He that loveth his brother abideth in the light, and there is none occasion of stumbling him. (1 John 2:10)

These two biblical verses exemplify Christ’s calls for brotherly love and were notably both highlighted by Fyodor Dostoevsky in his personal copy of the New Testament. To Anna A. Berman, an expert on nineteenth-century Russian novels , this fact reinforces a “system of connections” at the heart of The Brothers Karamazov : sibling bonds.

Given its title, it would seem obvious to assume that Dostoevsky’s last novel revolves around brother relationships. Yet, as Berman points out, historically The Brothers Karamazov has “been looked at as a study of the breakdown of father-son relations,” largely overlooking the redeeming power of sibling bonds. In contrast to past critics, Berman argues that brotherhood not only offers an alternative to hierarchical, paternal love, but can also “restore faith … offering a model of how people can love one another selflessly,” in the manner of Christ.

The most famous part of the novel, typically known as “The Grand Inquisitor,” may be a case in point. In the preamble to this chapter, Ivan—the intellectual Karamazov—stages a “rebellion” in which he renounces the world of God. More than anything, Ivan is disturbed by the existence of pain and misery. He “claims to be so horrified at man’s inhumanity to man … that he questions the love of a God who could set up a world where such atrocities take place.” Speaking with his younger brother Alyosha, Ivan begins to recite a poem about Christ’s return to Earth during the Spanish Inquisition, exposing his ideas on freedom and suffering.

In this poem, the Inquisitor accuses Christ of burdening human beings with free will. In Berman’s view, the Inquisitor’s solution to this is a model “of nurturing and benevolent despotism … as a totalitarian father’s love for a weak, helpless, childish humanity.” Dostoevsky himself describes this arrangement of lives “like a children’s game,” in which people must cling to religious authority “like chicks to a hen.” Once the Inquisitor finishes his speech, Christ, who remained silent throughout, gives him a kiss on the mouth.

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Berman claims the kind of love this kiss embodies is “the love of a brother for a brother,” a reading that finds confirmation in Alyosha’s own gesture: When Ivan wraps up his own thought experiment, his brother kisses him on the lips too. Soon after, Ivan replies, “Well go to your Pater Seraphicus,” referring to his brother’s spiritual guide, Zosima. In other words, the kiss allows Ivan to accept Alyosha and his beliefs, just as it releases Christ, who is allowed to live—instead of die, executed—by the Inquisitor.

Dostoevsky, Berman concludes, “valued the sibling bond precisely for its ability to forge bonds of mutual dependence.” Both Christ and Alyosha counter rejection with an intentional act of unconditional love, which draws them closer to their purported rivals. For Berman, “the Inquisitor’s love for mankind removed the burden of free choice, while Christ’s love offered a challenge—a model for goodness that people must freely take upon themselves despite the suffering it may entail. If we are to choose Christ over the Inquisitor, then we must be prepared to accept the challenge of actively choosing to love others as our brother.” That challenge may be onerous, but it may also bring us together.

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• Poems Celebrating Brotherly Love

"My Brother, My Friend" by Unknown

"to my brother" by vera brittain, "brotherhood" by henry david thoreau, the power of brotherly love, exploring the sacred bond of brotherhood.

Brotherly love, a connection that transcends blood ties, is a theme that has inspired countless poets from various walks of life. These poems beautifully capture the essence of the profound bond shared by brothers, celebrating the unique and unbreakable love that exists between them. Let's delve into a few remarkable poems that pay homage to the sacred relationship of brotherhood.

My brother, my friend, I hold you dear, Through laughter and tears, In times both happy and drear.

This heartfelt verse encapsulates the depth of affection that brothers can have for each other. It highlights the unwavering support and steadfast companionship that brothers provide, acting as a source of strength during both joyous and challenging moments.

He seemed so tall, so strong, so wise, We thought of him as one who knew The world, its wonders and its woe, The magic that the seasons bring, The joy of flowers, the songbirds' note, The thrill of life in everything.

In this touching poem, Vera Brittain beautifully captures the admiration and reverence she feels for her brother. Through vivid imagery, she portrays her brother as a figure of immense knowledge and understanding, someone who embodies the beauty and excitement of life itself.

We have shared everything, brother, From the cradle to the grave; We have laughed and cried together, And wept at each other's pain.

Our souls are intertwined, brother, Forever bound by blood and love; In this world and the next, We are brothers, hand in glove.

Henry David Thoreau, known for his deep introspection, explores the profound connection between brothers in this powerful poem. He emphasizes the shared experiences, the joys, and the sorrows that brothers go through together. Thoreau's words remind us of the unbreakable bond that exists between siblings, a bond that transcends time and space.

These poems, among many others, serve as a testament to the enduring power of brotherly love. They remind us of the importance of cherishing and nurturing these relationships, as they can provide solace, guidance, and unwavering support throughout our lives.

The bond between brothers is a unique and sacred one. It is a connection that withstands the test of time, growing stronger with each passing day. Whether biological or chosen, brothers have the ability to shape our lives in profound ways, enriching our experiences and offering a sense of belonging that is truly unparalleled.

So, let us celebrate and honor the brotherly love that exists in our lives. Let us be grateful for the brothers who have stood by our side, offering their unwavering love and support. And let us cherish the memories and moments shared, for it is through brotherly love that we find strength, resilience, and a lifelong companion.

Because, in the end, brothers are not just family—they are forever friends.

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In His Speeches, MLK Carefully Evoked the Poetry of Langston Hughes

To avoid being labeled a communist sympathizer, King had to distance himself from Hughes, but he still managed to channel the controversial poet

Jason Miller, The Conversation

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For years, Martin Luther King Jr. and poet Langston Hughes maintained a friendship, exchanging letters and favors and even traveling to Nigeria together in 1960.

In 1956, King recited Hughes’ poem “ Mother to Son ” from the pulpit to honor his wife Coretta, who was celebrating her first Mother’s Day. That same year, Hughes wrote a poem about Dr. King and the bus boycott titled “ Brotherly Love .” At the time, Hughes was much more famous than King, who was honored to have become a subject for the poet.

But during the most turbulent years of the civil rights movement, Dr. King never publicly uttered the poet’s name. Nor did the reverend overtly invoke the poet’s words.

You would think that King would be eager to do so; Hughes was one of the Harlem Renaissance’s leading poets, a master with words whose verses inspired millions of readers across the globe.

However, Hughes was also suspected of being a communist sympathizer. In March of 1953, he was even called to testify before Joseph McCarthy during the Red Scare.

Meanwhile, King’s opponents were starting to make similar charges of communism against him and his Southern Christian Leadership Conference, accusing the group of being a communist front. The red-baiting ended up serving as some of the most effective attacks against King and his Southern Christian Leadership Conference.

It forced King to distance his organization from men with similar reputations – Bayard Rustin, Jack O’Dell and even his closest adviser, Stanley Levison.

It also meant he needed to sever any overt ties to Hughes.

But my research has found traces of Hughes’ poetry in King’s speeches and sermons. While King might not have been able to invoke Hughes’ name, he was nonetheless able to ensure that Hughes’ words would be broadcast to millions of Americans.

Beating back the red-baiters

In the 1930s, Hughes earned a subversive reputation by writing several radical poems. In them, he criticized capitalism, called for worker’s to rise up in revolution and claimed racism was virtually absent in communist countries such as the U.S.S.R.

By 1940, he had attracted the attention of the FBI. Agents would sneak into his readings , and J. Edgar Hoover derided Hughes’ poem “ Goodbye Christ ” in circulars he sent out in 1947.

Red-baiting also fractured black political and social organizations. For example, Bayard Rustin was forced to resign from the SCLC after African-American Congressman Adam Clayton Powell threatened to expose Rustin’s homosexuality and his past association with the Communist Party USA.

As the leading figure in the civil rights movement, King had to toe a delicate line. Because he needed to retain popular support – as well as be able to work with the Kennedy and Johnson administrations – there could be no question about where he stood on the issue of communism.

So King needed to be shrewd about invoking Hughes’ poetry. Nonetheless, I’ve identified traces of no fewer than seven of Langston Hughes’ poems in King’s speeches and sermons.

In 1959, the play “A Raisin in the Sun” premiered to rave reviews and huge audiences. Its title was inspired by Hughes’ poem “ Harlem .”

“What happens to a dream deferred?” Hughes writes. “Does it dry up like a raisin in the sun? … Or does it explode?”

Just three weeks after the premiere of “A Raisin in the Sun,” King delivered one of his most personal sermons, giving it a title – “ Shattered Dreams ” – that echoed Hughes’ imagery.

“Is there any one of us,” King booms in the sermon, “who has not faced the agony of blasted hopes and shattered dreams?”

He’d more directly evoke Hughes in a later speech , in which he would say, “I am personally the victim of deferred dreams.”

Hughes’ words would also become a rallying cry during the Montgomery Bus Boycott.

During the grind of the year-long boycott, King spurred activists on by pulling from “Mother to Son.”

“Life for none of us has been a crystal stair,” King proclaimed at the Holt Street Baptist Church , “but we must keep moving.” (“Well, son, I’ll tell you / Life for me ain’t been no crystal stair,” Hughes wrote. “But all the time / I’se been a-climbin’ on.”)

Did Hughes inspire the dream?

King’s best-known speech is “I Have a Dream,” which he delivered during the 1963 March on Washington.

Nine months before the famous march, King gave the earliest known delivery of the “I Have a Dream” speech in Rocky Mount, North Carolina. (We can also now finally hear this connection after the reel-to-reel tape of King’s First Dream was recently discovered.)

But the roots of “I Have a Dream” go back even further. On Aug. 11, 1956, King delivered a speech titled “ The Birth of a New Age .” Many King scholars consider this address – which talked about King’s vision for a new world – the thematic precursor to his “I Have a Dream” speech.

In this speech, I recognized what others had missed: King had subtly ended his speech by rewriting Langston Hughes’ “ I Dream a World .”

A world I dream where black or white, Whatever race you be, Will share the bounties of the earth And every man is free.

It is impossible not to notice the parallels in what would become “I Have a Dream”: I have a dream that one day … little black boys and black girls will be able to join hands with little white boys and white girls and walk together as sisters and brothers.

King spoke truth to power, and part of that strategy involved riffing or sampling Hughes’ words. By channeling Hughes’ voice, he was able to elevate the subversive words of a poet that the powerful thought they had silenced.

Jason Miller, Professor of English, North Carolina State University

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By Genevieve Gralton

Jeffery Kluger begins his book The Sibling Effect with a tale of sibling survival. In an all for one, one for all attempt at deceiving their ornery father, Kluger and his three brothers devised a plan they called the scatter drill . No, the boys weren't subject to any form of abuse, but their angry father did dole out occasional discipline and hard hits. So, in an effort to avoid such punishment for their rambunctious behavior the boys created a drill that mandated hiding in different areas of the play room, with the youngest brother crammed in the dangerous fuse cabinet. Of course their father and mother had no idea of this untoward plan; but that was precisely the point, Kluger explains. In the time it took their father to reach the play room Steve, Jeffery, Garry, and Bruce were nowhere to be found; the senior Kluger opened the door to an empty room. Sure, he left confused and annoyed, but the drill was harmoniously deployed.

In nostalgic fashion, void of sappiness, Kluger appropriately inserts his personal stories throughout this book.

And being the good science journalist he is, the author loads The Sibling Effect full with the latest research. For example, unlike the group mentality displayed by the Kluger boys outside the womb, rivalry can be fierce, literally, inside the womb. Take sand tiger sharks, these animals murder before they are even born. A mother shark releases fertilized eggs into her womb, the eggs hatch into fetal young, and then sibling competition begins. As soon as these baby sharks develop mouths and teeth they bite each other to death; the dead siblings become a food source for the surviving offspring. The last baby shark standing continues to live off additional eggs released. The baby shark is born, marking the end of the orgy of siblicide , as Kluger aptly coins the term.

The sand tiger shark is just one example of how nature handles the sibling effect. Kluger gives many more illustrations from the animal kingdom, showing that birth order and sibling rivalry abounds in many life forms. He even has an entry on egrets, explaining how the mother egret chooses one egg over others to promote its hatching and its dominance. Kluger also covers themes such as the golden child, not as a sole entity but as a child with the ability to help his siblings satisfy their craving for parental attention . And, not shy about tough topics, he writes about being the son of divorced parents; here, he again deploys personal storytelling however painful. Other touchy subject matter includes blended families with stories about siblings step, half, and full. He even discusses controversial areas such as the teen brain, teen pregnancy , and sibling violence.

But throughout the book, his main point is clear: Whether you have one sib or ten sibs, "there may be no relationship that can run quite as deep or survive quite as long as those among siblings."

Genevieve Gralton is a former PT intern.

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150 years later, what the Civil War can teach us about brotherly love

By JJ Feinauer

"A house divided against itself cannot stand," Abraham Lincoln declared while accepting the nomination to run for the Senate as a representative of Illinois in 1858.

Lincoln was, of course, referring to the deepening political divide over slavery.

"I believe this government cannot endure, permanently, half slave and half free," he continued. "I do not expect the Union to be dissolved; I do not expect the house to fall; but I do expect it will cease to be divided."

But there was a literalness to Lincoln's metaphor. During the American Civil War, Americans were not only pitted against Americans, but also brothers against brothers, fathers against sons and even husbands against wives.

Lincoln was married to a Southerner. Marry Todd Lincoln was born to a family of slave owners in Kentucky, and many of her siblings sided with the Confederacy during the Civil War. Ulysses S. Grant, commanding general of the United States Army at the conclusion of the war, was also married to a Southerner, Julia Dent. Julia's father, Frederick Dent, was a prominent Southern Democrat.

On the Confederate side, Thomas "Stonewall" Jackson's sister, Laura Jackson Arnold, was an "outspoken Unionist." Though the two grew up close (the Virginia Military Institute says the young Jackson was "devoted to his younger sister"), Jackson advanced to lieutenant general of the Confederate Army, while Arnold cared for sick and injured Union soldiers at her home in West Virginia.

"We need not reach far into the vast library of Civil War history to find evidence of divided families," historian Amy Murrell Taylor wrote in "The Divided Family in Civil War America."

Division was everywhere, and the home was no exception.

The impact of the war

According to Taylor, the Civil War occurred at a time when Americans "idealized the family as the foundation of social and national stability." Emphasis on the family represented the youth and idealism of an invented nation. To help establish a common political identity, "Americans turned to the idea of family."

Taylor's book, which is an attempt to chronicle as many stories of family division during the Civil War as possible, brings to light the heartache and strife that accompanied political divisions during the war.

The crisis of politics quickly became a crisis of kinship for many Americans, Taylor explains, especially along the border states such as Tennessee, Virginia and Maryland. From the Civil War era, new social norms emerged, such as avoiding political discussions at the dinner table or during family functions.

According to Taylor, Americans sought to separate politics from family life more than ever during the war in an attempt to ease the stress that burdened family, extended or otherwise, divided by the Mason-Dixon Line.

"Their eagerness to defend a border between public and private," Taylor wrote, "may be one reason why this domestic ideology continued to resonate throughout the nineteenth century despite a much more complicated reality for most families."

But such deflections didn't always work. Families, particularly those in the border states, grew increasingly vulnerable to division as the war progressed.

It's all in politics

According to Civil War Trust , just over 2 million men fought in the Union Army during the war. For the Confederates, the number was closer to 1 million. Overall, 620,000 Americans died during the conflict, a body count higher than "all the nations wars combined through Vietnam," as historian James McPhereson pointed out.

But among those massive numbers was a family of three brothers, Joseph, Samuel and Edmund Hasley.

According to Taylor's account, Joseph had moved to Virginia during the 1840s "to purchase land and become a planter," leaving behind his two brothers in their native New Jersey.

For the brothers, politics became as much a separation as geography.

“Joseph sympathized with the South's growing disaffection with the Union," according to Taylor. "Whereas Samuel and Edmund were Republicans and firmly committed to the Union."

Over time, letters to each other became nothing short of political essays, diving deep into their political reasoning.

But in her research, Taylor noticed something curious and rather inspiring in the brothers’ correspondence. Like many of the other subjects included in Taylor's study, they fought hard to make sure their love and respect for each other was always acknowledged.

"If henceforth anything should be said that seems rather blunt," Edmund once wrote James, "remember it's all in politics."

"Any optimism that brothers had about containing their wartime divisions as just 'politics' was encouraged by another facet of their relationship," Taylor wrote.

That other facet was "brotherly love."

"Fraternal affection therefore acted as a yoke that restrained the competitiveness of male siblings," Taylor wrote.

That brotherly love is what led one Kentucky soldier, identified only by his surname Hopkins in Taylor's account, to stay with his mortally wounded brother, nursing him through the night, even though Hopkins had been the one who shot him.

"The confrontation of two brothers on a battlefield, ending in the death of one at the hands of the other, epitomized everything that divided families feared about the Civil War," Taylor wrote.

The fact that fear was realized on numerous occasions has solidified in the national memory the image of brother fighting against brother, losing the common ground of blood family over partisan disputes. The Civil War acts as a stark reminder that families being torn apart by ideas, petty or otherwise, can have devastating consequences.

150 years in hindsight

April 9 marks the 150th anniversary of when Robert E. Lee met with Grant to finalize the surrender of the Confederate Army of Northern Virginia in a courthouse in Appomattox County, Virginia.

Though the official proclamation that "Peace, Order, Tranquillity, and Civil Authority Now Exists in and Throughout the Whole of the United States of America" didn't come until over a year later from President Andrew Johnson, historians often turn to Appomattox as the moment that sealed the fate of the Confederacy.

"The bleeding and dying were over, (the North) had won," McPhereson wrote of the event in his Pulitzer Prize winner, "Battle Cry of Freedom."

As the nation turns its attention to the 150th anniversary of the end of the Civil War, the legacy of that division continues to echo through the minds of historians, political commentators and those who worry about headlines of increased polarity in American politics.

"A shooting war between huge formal armies did indeed end in the spring of 1865 after four years of physical, environmental, social and human devastation," historian David W. Blight wrote recently in The Atlantic . But according to Blight, the reasons for the war — divisions over the nature of freedom and equality — continue to rage on, still pitting brother against brother in a seemingly never-ending conflict.

In fact, a 2012 American National Election Survey found that 40 percent of respondents would be "upset" if their child married outside their preferred party. In 1960, that number was 5 percent. This type of partisanship is not unprecedented, but it's sobering nonetheless.

So among the many lessons of the Civil War, and there certainly are many, the stories and examples from families that weathered the storm of intense political partisanship seem as relevant now as ever.

JJ Feinauer is a writer and Web producer for Deseret News National. Email: [email protected] , Twitter: jjfeinauer.

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Brotherly Love: Poems Expressing the Unbreakable Bonds of Brothers

What is a brother's place in a family? To a younger brother or sister, he may be a guide to help traverse the complicated path of growing up. To an older brother, a little brother may be seen as a tag along and pain in the neck. As much as siblings squabble when they are young, this is not a sign that they do not love each other. Most siblings would lay down their life for each other. As children grow up they usually find it easier to get along and relate to each other in rewarding ways.

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1. Heroin's Sister

• By Kelsey A. Casper
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I've never touched, tasted, or craved you, But I know you. I've watched my hero

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2. My Brother

• By Amanda L. Thurnherr
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You've been there for me Through it all. You're always there to catch me When I start to take a fall.

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I know how you feel, I do share the same thing but they're are still my brothers regardless of what they do. I'll still love them no matter what. I will wish you and your brother good luck...

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I saw my brother cry today. He seemed five years old It did not seem to me that he was six feet tall. He lost a thing he treasured,

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I love this. I am going to the army, and I hear my brother cry at night. Sometimes he begs me not to go, but I want to help people, and this is how I want to do it. I just feel bad. I do not...

4. Brother Trouble

• By Richard Thomas
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Of all the burdens I must bear, My brother's number one. Our parents really messed up there. They've raised an awful son.

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A beautiful poem with childhood memories, both positive and negative. The experience of many younger brothers, I guess.

5. Yaz And Orr

• By Ronald Doe
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My brother was always my best friend, We would play sports and we'd just pretend. I'd hit a homer, a goal he'd score, You see I was Yaz and he was Orr.

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6. I Miss You, My Little Bro

• By Misty D. Crawford
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I love you and I wish you were home. It hurts me to think you're so alone. It's not the same without you here. Why you did what you did is still unclear.

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My little brother is 4 years younger than than me. I have been there or at least tried to be throughout his life. He had a hard life. He was raised by my aunt who passed in 2010. Since then...

7. My Big Brother Off To The Army

• By Terri L. Brewer
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You've always been here for me, But now you are about to leave. I know we fuss and fight, But I love you with all my might.

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Hi, my brother is about to be 18 and he really wants to go to the Navy instead of college. He is also always there for me when my parents work and takes good care of us. There are times when...

8. To My Brother

• By Anne Harskamp
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To my Brother: Words are hard to describe feelings, I have always been better with images.

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My brother died on his 12th birthday in 99. It has been 17 years, and I still think about him every day. I remember asking the nurse while he was on life support if it would be hard to deal...

9. Brothers

• By Steve Mason
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From the depths of my heart, come the words of a brother, where our souls and our minds, are like that of no other. The spirit of competition, will always be there, in the look of our eyes, and the glance of our stare.

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10. Twin Brothers

• By Michelle Salazar
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Being a twin is not always easy Why is everyone so blind? I may look like my brother, But I am one of a kind.

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Nicole Beach, I am very sorry for your loss. I lost my twin brother in 2001. He was 35 years old. I must say for at least 5 years I was in constant pain. I ended up suffering from...

11. Come Back Home

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As you left, you said you'd be back And promised that we would be together again. Visions of the future, Of all the fun times you had promised, filled my head

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I really like this poem. My brother is leaving in a couple of days and I'm going miss him.

12. Brother Of Mine

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Brother of mine I know sometimes I may whine But deep down I really find you somewhat divine

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13. Love Made Perfect

• By Emma Louise Langham
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The angels took the April skies And made two bright and shining eyes. They plucked a sunbeam here and there And spun his locks of golden hair.

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14. Me And You

• By Elizabeth
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We fight, yell, and we scream, but yet we tackle everything as a team. I love you, you are my brother; we share so much more than just a mother.

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15. Brothers Are Forever

• By Alex Romero
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Brothers share a special bond, Like blood, brotherhood It's thicker than water. Friends may come and go,

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16. I Love You Dear Brother

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To my dear old brother, whom I love; See here's the thing... I love you in the daytime, I love in the nighttime; I love you when it's cloudy, I love you when it's sunny;

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My brother, you were, are, and will always be my best friend. You are the most loveable brother in the whole world. My dear brother, you are the best big brother to me. You are my strength...

17. I Love My Brother

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My brother is sweet, My brother is nice, When I am upset,

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I love this poem because this is what I am going through with my brother.

18. The Star & The Sky

• By Patricia L. Cisco
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I guess we made it through struggle and strife. I remember when we first started our life. We climbed every step one in back of the other,

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MLK’s vision of love as a moral imperative still matters

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More than 50 years after the assassination of Martin Luther King Jr., the United States remains divided by issues of race and racism , economic inequality as well as unequal access to justice . These issues are stopping the country from developing into the kind of society that Martin Luther King, Jr. fought for during his years as a civil rights activist.

As a result King’s words and work are still relevant. I study the civil rights movement and the field of peace geographies . Peace geographies thinks about how different groups of people approach and work toward building the kind of peaceful society King worked to create. Americans faced similar crises related to the broader civil rights struggles in the 1960s.

So, what can the past tell us about healing the nation? Specifically, how can we address divisions along race, class and political lines?

Martin Luther King Jr.’s understanding of the role of love in engaging individuals and communities in conflict is crucial today. For King, love was not sentimental. It demanded that individuals tell their oppressors what they were doing was wrong.

King’s vision

King spent his public career working toward ending segregation and fighting racial discrimination. For many people the pinnacle of this work occurred in Washington, D.C., when he delivered his famous “ I Have a Dream” speech .

Less well-known and often ignored is his later work on behalf of poor people . In fact, when King was assassinated in Memphis he was in the midst of building toward a national march on Washington, D.C., that would have brought together tens of thousands of economically disenfranchised people to advocate for policies that would reduce poverty. This effort – known as the “Poor People’s Campaign ” – aimed to dramatically shift national priorities to address the health and welfare of working people.

Scholars such as Derek Alderman , Paul Kingsbury and Owen Dwyer how King’s work can be applied in today’s context. They argue that calling attention to the civil rights movement, can “change the way students understand themselves in relation to the larger project of civil rights.” And in understanding the civil rights movement, students and the broader public can see its contemporary significance.

Idea of love

King focused on the role of love as key to building healthy communities and the ways in which love can and should be at the center of our social interactions.

King’s final book, “Where Do We Go From Here: Chaos or Community? ” published in the year before his assassination, provides his most expansive vision of an inclusive, diverse and economically equitable U.S. nation. For King, love is a key part of creating communities that work for everyone and not just the few at the expense of the many.

Love was not a mushy or easily dismissed emotion, but was central to the kind of community he envisioned. King made distinctions between three forms of love which are key to the human experience: “eros,” “philia” and most importantly “agape.”

For King, eros is a form of love that is most closely associated with desire, while philia is often the love that is experienced between very good friends or family. These visions are different from agape.

Agape, which was at the center of the movement he was building, was the moral imperative to engage with one’s oppressor in a way that showed the oppressor the ways their actions dehumanize and detract from society. He said,

“In speaking of love we are not referring to some sentimental emotion. It would be nonsense to urge men to love their oppressors in an affectionate sense[…] When we speak of loving those who oppose us […] we speak of a love which is expressed in the Greek word Agape. Agape means nothing sentimental or basically affectionate; it means understanding, redeeming goodwill for all men, an overflowing love which seeks nothing in return.”

King further defined agape when he argued at the University of California at Berkeley that the concept of agape “stands at the center of the movement we are to carry on in the Southland.” It was a love that demanded that one stand up for oneself and tells those who oppress that what they were doing was wrong.

Why this matters now

In the face of violence directed at minority communities and of deepening political divisions in the country, King’s words and philosophy are perhaps more critical for us today than at any point in the recent past.

As King noted, all persons exist in an interrelated community and all are dependent on each other. By connecting love to community, King argued there were opportunities to build a more just and economically sustainable society which respected difference. As he said ,

“Agape is a willingness to go to any length to restore community… Therefore if I respond to hate with a reciprocal hate I do nothing but intensify the cleavages of a broken community.”

King outlined a vision in which we are compelled to work toward making our communities inclusive. They reflect the broad values of equality and democracy. Through an engagement with one another as its foundation, agape provides opportunities to work toward common goals.

Building a community today

At a time when the nation feels so divided, there is a need to bring back King’s vision of agape-fueled community building and begin a difficult conversation about where we are as a nation and where we want to go. It would move us past simply seeing the other side as being wholly motivated by hate.

Engaging in a conversation through agape signals a willingness to restore broken communities and to approach difference with an open mind.

This is an updated version of an article originally published on Nov. 16, 2016.

Joshua F.J. Inwood is a member of the American Association of Geographers

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Romans 12:10-13 New King James Version

10  ( A ) Be kindly affectionate to one another with brotherly love, ( B ) in honor giving preference to one another; 11  not lagging in diligence, fervent in spirit, serving the Lord; 12  ( C ) rejoicing in hope, ( D ) patient [ a ] in tribulation, ( E ) continuing steadfastly in prayer; 13  ( F ) distributing to the needs of the saints, ( G ) given [ b ] to hospitality.

• Romans 12:12 persevering
• Romans 12:13 Lit. pursuing

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• Romans 12:10 : John 13:34; 1 Thess. 4:9; Heb. 13:1; 2 Pet. 1:7
• Romans 12:10 : Rom. 13:7; Phil. 2:3; [1 Pet. 2:17]
• Romans 12:12 : Luke 10:20
• Romans 12:12 : Luke 21:19
• Romans 12:12 : Luke 18:1
• Romans 12:13 : 1 Cor. 16:1; Heb. 13:16; 1 Pet. 4:9
• Romans 12:13 : Matt. 25:35; 1 Tim. 3:2

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Brotherly love is still the distinguishing badge of every true Christian.

I sought my soul, but my soul I could not see. I sought my God, but my God eluded me. I sought my brother and I found all three.

Blessed is the servant who loves his brother as much when he is sick and useless as when he is well and an be of service to him. And blessed is he who loves his brother as well when he is afar off as when he is by his side, and who would say nothing behind his back he might not, in love, say before his face.

There is a destiny which makes us brothers; none goes his way alone. All that we send into the lives of others comes back into our own.

Sometimes being a brother is even better than being a superhero.

I don't believe an accident of birth makes people sisters or brothers. It makes them siblings, gives them mutuality of parentage. Sisterhood and brotherhood is a condition people have to work at.

In death as in life, we stand together, always a family, always a team. The brotherhood never dies.

We can have peace and brotherly love by accepting our responsibility to preserve freedom.

The world is now too small for anything but brotherhood.

It snowed last year too: I made a snowman and my brother knocked it down and I knocked my brother down and then we had tea.

n Italy for 30 years under the Borgias they had warfare, terror, murder and bloodshed, but they produced Michelangelo, Leonardo da Vinci and the Renaissance. In Switzerland, they had brotherly love - they had 500 years of democracy and peace, and what did that produce? The cuckoo clock.

We have flown the air like birds and swum the sea like fishes, but have yet to learn the simple act of walking the earth like brothers.

Brotherly love is the badge of Christ's disciples.

We cannot be truly Christian people so long as we flaunt the central teachings of Jesus: brotherly love and the Golden Rule.

Persecution was at least a sign of personal interest. Tolerance is composed of nine parts of apathy to one of brotherly love.

Never make a companion equal to a brother.

In Switzerland they had brotherly love, five hundred years of democracy and peace, and what did they produce? The cuckoo clock!

The real secrets of Masonry are never told, not even from mouth to ear. For the real secret of Masonry is spoken to your heart and from it to the heart of your brother. Never the language made for tongue may speak it, it is uttered only in the eye in those manifestations of that love which a man has for his friend, which passeth all other loves.

Children of the same family, the same blood, with the same first associations and habits, have some means of enjoyment in their power, which no subsequent connections can supply.

Religions that teach brotherly love have been used as an excuse for persecution, and our profoundest scientific insight is made into a means of mass destruction.

Being pretty on the inside means you don't hit your brother and you eat all your peas - that's what my grandma taught me.

True education seeks to make men and women not only good mathematicians, proficient linguists, profound scientists, or brilliant literary lights, but also honest men and women with virtue, temperance, and brotherly love.

Beloved, let us love one another: for love is of God

The key to genuine happiness is in our hands. To think this way is to discover the essential values of kindness, brotherly love and altruism. The more clearly we see the benefits of these values, the more we will seek to reject anything that opposes them; in this way we will be able to bring about inner transformation.

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Graduates of the Class of 2024, family members, and friends: It gives me great pleasure to greet you today and to offer a few words on this celebratory occasion.

But first, there is a wonderful Yale tradition that I would like to honor right now:

May I ask all the families and friends here today to rise and to recognize the outstanding—and graduating—members of the Class of 2024?

And now, may I ask the Class of 2024 to consider all those who have supported your arrival at this milestone, and to please rise and recognize them ?

I remember well the pomp and pageantry of my commencement weekend. And I share in the many emotions you are likely feeling right now after being part of this community for several years, and as you consider how your roles will soon change from students to alumni—and mine from president to faculty member.

Like the Class of 2024, I graduated as my university president was completing his service. Unlike the Class of 2024, my first years in college had not been disrupted by a pandemic. Presumably like you, I wondered what message the president would impart for his final words. Of course, as I thought about what to say here today, I considered this same question. What came to mind was how each of us had different journeys to arrive at this day. Here is mine: Like many immigrants, my father’s parents were poor in means but rich in culture and spirit. They came to the United States by way of Warsaw and Jerusalem—and later met each other on a ship crossing the Atlantic, between their worlds, old and new.

When my grandfather arrived in New York, he not only had a new country but a new name. No longer Yitzchak Leib Soloveitchik, in America he became Louis Salovey. He changed his family name in an effort to fit into his new surroundings, but he made sure to retain four letters—l-o-v-e—“love,” which I like to think of as a tribute to the family he left behind and a foundation for the one he would build.

Love and compassion were creeds by which he lived. It was about these virtues that I spoke with you four years ago as you entered Yale—and now, here today, that I want to emphasize as you prepare to depart it. [1]

One of the earliest, if not most striking, demonstrations of compassion I recall took place soon after my seventh birthday, when a rabbi and a reverend marched together toward justice alongside other faith leaders. Cradling a Torah in his arms—and humanity in his heart—Rabbi Everett Gendler joined the Reverend Dr. Martin Luther King, Jr. through the streets of Selma, Alabama on what became known as “Turnaround Tuesday” in March 1965. One of Rabbi Gendler’s great contributions was involving American Jews in the civil rights movement. And many, including my parents, heeded that call.

The extraordinary image of Dr. King and Rabbi Gendler marching alongside one another is seared in my memory. Theirs was a coalition of different faiths but a shared morality against forces devoid of it. And, if I might add a postscript, not long after participating in the Selma campaign, Rabbi Gendler welcomed his first daughter into a world he was working to repair. Today, she sits behind me as dean of Yale’s Faculty of Arts and Sciences.

As Rabbi Gendler noted at the time, “The effects of love, thought the ancients, were not simply personal, [but] social as well.” [2] “Love may not be all we need,” he added, “but neither is it entirely beside the point.” Dr. King echoed these sentiments while speaking to Rabbi Gendler in what would be his final public interview in 1968. “We need a movement now to transmute rage,” he said, “into a positive, constructive force.” [3] Those words resonate today. They remind us that we need to reject hate and rage—and instead find our common love for life, for community, and for peace.

Now, to be sure, the challenges before us—climate change, racial injustice, armed conflict, and extremism, to name only a few—stoke the indignation of any individual of conscience. And across this country, we’ve seen rising antisemitism, Islamophobia, and other forms of bigotry. Without anger, we would be reconciled to accept the unacceptable, tolerate the intolerable, and thereby consign ourselves to a status quo in need of repair. Without anger, we would be bereft of the fuel necessary to fight against prejudice and violence around the globe.

So, what, then, are the grounds that support the translation of outrage into compassion, as Dr. King advised?

In thinking about the answer to this question, I am reminded of these lines of poetry from the Reverend Dr. Pauli Murray, eminent Yale graduate, civil rights icon, and namesake of one of our residential colleges:

But love, alas , holds me captive here

Consigned to sacrificial flame, to burn

And find no heart’s surcease until

Its more enduring uses I may learn. [4]

In the fall of 1963—at a pivotal moment in the civil rights struggle—the Yale Political Union invited George Wallace, Alabama’s hate-spewing governor, to speak on campus. The invitation ignited controversy at Yale—and provided occasion for activists like Pauli Murray to respond to his bigotry measure for measure. Instead, she showed the strength of her commitment to “destroy segregation by positive and embracing methods.” [5]

Wallace, of course, personified Southern hostility to integration. Earlier that year, he famously stood on the portico of the Alabama State Capitol and declared in his inaugural speech, “Segregation now, segregation tomorrow, segregation forever!” [6] And just days before he was invited to Yale, Klansmen bombed the 16th Street Baptist Church in Birmingham, killing four Black schoolgirls and wounding 22 others—an act of domestic terrorism for which Wallace was blamed as an instigator.

So perhaps it comes as no surprise that Kingman Brewster, Yale’s president, urged students to rescind their invitation. New Haven Mayor Richard Lee, meanwhile—also concerned about the tensions Wallace would inflame—deemed him “officially unwelcome” in the city of New Haven. [7] More surprising is that Pauli Murray, a law school student at the time, disagreed. In an astonishing display of “drawing a circle of inclusion” large enough to incorporate George Wallace, she wrote to President Brewster in support of his right to speak at Yale.

To be sure, Dr. Murray loathed what Wallace represented. “By every cultural, spiritual, and psychological resource at my disposal,” she wrote, “I shall seek to destroy the institution of segregation…[but] I will not submit to segregation myself.” [8] Dr. Murray, rather, maintained an abiding belief in the power of redemption over retribution—even, and most especially, for a man who threatened the principles to which she had dedicated her life.

The division sowed by Wallace stands as one of this country’s darkest chapters. But his story has a postscript—one that affirms the might of Pauli Murray’s approach.

About a decade later, Wallace—then a candidate for president—was paralyzed after an assassination attempt and spent the rest of his life in a wheelchair. As he was recovering in the hospital from the shooting, he had an unexpected visitor: Shirley Chisholm, the first Black woman elected to the United States Congress and a rival to Wallace in 1972 presidential politics.

Understandably, Chisholm’s visit left her staff concerned. How could she sit by the bedside of someone she stood so fervently—so virtuously—against? “Sometimes,” she told them, “we have to remember we’re all human beings. And I may be able to teach him something, to help him regain his humanity, to maybe make him open his eyes to make him see something that he has not seen.” [9] And so she went.

In a remarkable expression of compassion and a common humanity, Chisholm told Wallace “I wouldn’t want what happened to you to happen to anyone.” The callous George Wallace wept. And to this day, his daughter maintains, “it was after [this] visit that he started to change.” [10] “Shirley Chisholm,” she continues, “planted a seed of new beginnings in my father’s heart,” culminating in the record number of appointments of African Americans he made to state positions during his final term as governor.

Wallace would later earn an honorary degree from the historically Black Tuskegee University—and the forgiveness of civil rights leaders like John Lewis, himself the recipient of an honorary degree from Yale, “because to do otherwise—to hate him,” Lewis posited, “would only perpetuate the evil system we sought to destroy.” [11]

Philosopher Hannah Arendt, on whom Yale also bestowed an honorary degree, eloquently advocated for this doctrine decades before Shirley Chisholm exemplified it. The “faculty of forgiving,” she wrote, “is the exact opposite of vengeance…whereby far from putting an end to the consequences of the first misdeed, everybody remains bound to the process, permitting the chain reaction…to take its unhindered course.” “Forgiving, in other words, is the only reaction which does not merely re-act but acts anew and unexpectedly, unconditioned by the act which provoked it and therefore freeing from its consequences.” [12]

Dr. King called this redemptive approach the Strength to Love , declaring in a refrain with which you are no doubt familiar that “returning hate for hate [only] multiplies hate.” [13] So, we can take pride in the fact that precisely sixty years ago, Yale presented Dr. King an honorary degree with a citation that extolled his “steadfast refusal to countenance violence in resistance to injustice.” [14]

For our part, as we face complex challenges that call out for concerted action, we would do well to heed his example, which requires us to inhibit our desire to dismiss those with whom we believe we cannot develop common purpose.

It is not enough to retreat into silos alongside those who are already inclined to agree with us. Nor is it effective to ostracize, call out, shame, or silence well-meaning others who do not.

Progress depends on our willingness to work together to solve common problems: to extend love and grace, compassion and cooperation, with one another, and, through these means, to build consensus.

By bridging differences—by daring to choose love and compassion over rage and hate—we can bring about the meaningful, sustainable change needed in society.

We can bring the world you will soon enter a little closer to the one we desire.

Let’s get started together. Let’s get started today.

And for me personally: At moments like this, speakers of Hebrew (my grandfather’s native language) don’t like to say “good-bye” but, rather, L’heit ra-oat; until we meet again.

Congratulations, Class of 2024.

[1] Salovey, Peter. “Compassion and Cooperation for Change.” Yale College Opening Assembly Address, New Haven, CT, August 29, 2020. https://president.yale.edu/president/speeches/compassion-and-cooperation-change .

[2] Gendler, Everett. “Cupid Goes to Shul.” Sermon preached at the Wellesley College Chapel, Wellesley, MA, February 14, 1971. https://gendlergrapevine.org/wp-content/uploads/2013/06/Cupid-Goes-to-Shul.pdf .

[3] “Conversation with Martin Luther King.” Conservative Judaism , Vol. 22, No. 3. (1968). https://www.rabbinicalassembly.org/sites/default/files/public/resources-ideas/cj/classics/1-4-12-civil-rights/conversation-with-martin-luther-king.pdf .

[4] Murray, Pauli. (1970). Dark Testament: and Other Poems . Norwalk: Silvermine.

[5] Murray, Pauli. (1945). “An American Credo.” Common Ground .

[6] Wallace, George. (January 14, 1963). Inaugural address delivered at the Alabama State Capitol in Montgomery, AL. https://digital.archives.alabama.gov/digital/collection/voices/id/2952 .

[7] Sigel, Efrem. “New Wallace Invitation Expected at Yale Today.” The Harvard Crimson , September 24, 1963. https://www.thecrimson.com/article/1963/9/24/new-wallace-invitation-expected-at-yale/ .

[8] Murray. “An American Credo.”

[9] Capehart, Jonathan. “How Segregationist George Wallace Became a Model for Racial Reconciliation: ‘Voices of the Movement’ Episode 6.” The Washington Post , May 16, 2019. https://www.washingtonpost.com/opinions/2019/05/16/changed-minds-reconciliation-voices-movement-episode/ .

[10] Bernard, Diane. “How a Failed Assassination Attempt Pushed George Wallace to Reconsider His Segregationist Views.” Smithsonian Magazine , May 12, 2022. https://www.smithsonianmag.com/history/how-a-failed-assassination-attempt-pushed-george-wallace-to-reconsider-his-segregationist-views-180980063/ .

[11] Lewis, John. “Forgiving George Wallace.” The New York Times , September 16, 1998. https://www.nytimes.com/1998/09/16/opinion/forgiving-george-wallace.html .

[12] Arendt, Hannah. (1958). The Human Condition. Chicago: University of Chicago Press.

[13] King, Martin Luther, Jr. (1963). Strength to Love . New York: Harper & Row.

[14] “Thousands View 263rd Commencement.” Yale Daily News , June 15, 1964.

96 Brother Quotes for Your Strong Brotherly Bond

From the inspirational to the hillarious, these quotes will help you appreciate your brother even more.

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It's not always easy to put how you feel into words (especially when talking to a brother). It's totally normal to need a little help to show your brother how much you love him; after all, he might be used to your fighting words. Whether you want to make him laugh or get a little sentimental, you can celebrate the unique relationship or special bond you have by choosing a great brother quote.

Meaningful Brother Quotes That Honor

If you need to make a speech or toast to your brother or honor him in another way, a quote can help inspire you when it's hard to find the words. Touch on what really makes your brother special and why this relationship means so much to you.

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• Brother, you are one-of-a-kind and I'm lucky to be your sibling.
• It is an honor to call you "brother."
• You are a brother like no other.
• A brother will always stand by you.
• You are a rare species - a brother who never judges me.
• A brother's unconditional love is priceless.
• Regardless of what I've asked of him, my brother has never refused me.
• I love my brother's compassion; he's even kind to insects.
• Growing up, I revered my brother and still do.
• Brother, you got the best of genes of our parents.

Birthday Quotes for Brothers

Figuring out what to write in a card or a birthday text can be a bit of a stress bomb, but don't worry. An easy hack for wishing your brother a happy birthday is to use a quote. Select one that accurately expresses your feelings about him and try using a favorite nickname for your brother to make your message even more personal.

• Happy birthday, little brother.
• Happy birthday, bro. No matter how old you get, you'll always be little squirt to me.
• Brother, the day you were born is a day I'll always celebrate!
• Happy birthday, big brother! You're my favorite person!
• Brother, you deserve the best day ever on your birthday.
• Happy birthday, brother! You're the one person I trust with my life.
• Today is a special day for a special brother. Happy birthday.
• Brother, you just keep getting better with every birthday.
• Happy birthday to my very first friend, my brother!
• Happy birthday! It's an honor to call you brother!
• Wishing my big brother a big happy birthday!
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Cute Quotes to a Brother From a Sister

The bond between a brother and sister is special. It's forged as they grow up together, facing life's challenges that bond them forever. Plus, who else really understands those inside jokes and hilarious sibling eye rolls? Some of these quotes are deep and meaningful, others are short and sweet, but all are heart-touching lines your brother will appreciate.

• An older brother is a godsend for his sister (at least after they grow up).
• A brother can be a best friend once he grows up. Until then, he's just a pest.
• A brother is a sister's best supporter and defender.
• The love of a brother is like having a second dad, just much younger and cooler.
• A brother is like an attack dog when his sister is bullied.
• A brother-and-sister relationship is a special bond that strengthens over time.
• My brother is my hero!
• A brother always has a shoulder for his sister to lean on (or punch, depending on the moment).
• A brother is a special ally when facing challenges. No one has your back like your big bro.
• A brother will drop what he's doing to help his sister.

Friend Like Brother Quotes

Some friends are more than a best friend; they are a brother. This special connection is just as powerful as a sibling bond and is sometimes stronger. Expressing it in words can be a little tricky, but quotes about your brotherly bond can help you get started.

• My friend is my brother, just born into a different family.
• Some friends are brothers who find each other.
• I know my friend will always be there like a true brother.
• A brother not born of blood can still be a brother in every other way.
• Brothers in spirit, a bond forever unbroken.
• True brothers in every way that matters.
• A friend who always has your back is a true brother.
• You can tell he's your real friend when he acts like your brother.
• I discovered the brother I never had when I met my best friend.
• Not all brothers are siblings.

Funny Brother Quotes

Some things a brother does are hilarious - and whether you're laughing at him or laughing with him, a funny quote can mark the moment. Funny sibling quotes can be a great way for the two of you to reminisce, roast one another, or de-stress with a little laughter. He'll love a funny saying just as much (or even more) than an emotional quote about your relationship.

• As first born, brother, you hogged the best genes from Mom and Dad.
• Brother, you may not always get what you want, but knowing you, you always want what you get.
• Brother, you are so lucky because you have really cool siblings, or at least that's what my brother tells me.
• Older brothers were born to terrorize their younger siblings.
• Brothers are like glue; they stick together.
• There's no one else in the world quite like my brother (thank goodness).
• When I worry about how I look, all I have to do is look at my brother and sigh with relief, since we look nothing alike.
• My brother and I do everything together - until we get caught. Then I run and leave him to explain.
• I always turn to my brother when in pain, because he's usually the cause of it.
• Brother, that secret really wants to be set free, but for a nominal fee, I can keep it a little longer.

A great brother quote is the perfect way to start off any tribute to your brother, whether you're going for something funny or deep. Start with the quote and then follow it up with a few things that make your brother so special. Be specific and detailed, and he's sure to love what you say.

I Love My Brother Quotes

Sometimes, you may want to tell your brother (and the whole world) how much you love him. Explain what makes him so special with the perfect brother love quote.

• I love my brother because he's considerate and kind. Plus, he makes great pizza and always has my back.
• I love my brother; he calls me every day. What he calls me kind of depends on the day.
• My brother is the best person I know.
• Giving of himself is second nature to my wonderful brother.
• My brother is a great role model.
• My brother personifies all the good things we were taught as kids, plus some extras.
• I always knew my brother was a good man, even when he was a little boy.
• I love my brother simply because he's my brother.
• My brother is a wonderful guy who treats everyone fairly.
• It's no mystery why I love my brother. Simply put, he's just 100% a good guy!
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Big Brother Quotes

No one has your back quite like your big brother, no matter how old you both are. Take a sec to tell him how you feel with bro quotes about all those years of protection and support.

• My big brother is a giant in so many ways. He's a huge pain but also a huge inspiration.
• Older brother pave the way for little brothers, and I'll always be grateful to have you walking ahead of me.
• I don't think I'll ever admire anyone the way I admire my big brother.
• If you don't believe in heroes, you haven't met my big brother yet.
• There's no security blanket as reassuring as having a big brother around.
• Even if I could have picked, I couldn't have chosen a better big brother than you.
• You're the best big brother I could wish for, and I'm not just saying that because you're bigger than I am.
• Big brother, it makes life a little easier knowing you are always there for me.
• Having a big brother is a big bonus; there's just no other way to explain it.
• You did everything first, and I've never stopped finding you amazing.

Little Brother Quotes

A little brother is a special sibling, even when he drives you crazy. There's no one else can take his place in your life, and it's important to tell him that often. Show him he's the best brother ever with one of these sayings.

• Younger brothers always have a special place in their sibling's heart.
• Older siblings always feel the need to protect little brothers, sometimes even from themselves.
• A little brother is your biggest fan.
• Little brothers might want to be like their older brothers, but mine amazes me with his unique awesomeness every day.
• A tag-along, little brothers want to be with their older brother.
• Little brothers are sweet innocents who adore their older brothers. At least that's what they want everyone to think.
• My little brother never ceases to make me laugh, both at him and with him.
• Little brothers have older siblings to look out for them.
• Little brothers are like angels who haven't sprouted their wings and are kind of gross sometimes.
• Little brothers just want to be included.

Baby Brother Quotes

The birth of a baby brother means the family dynamics change, and it helps to have some words to express this transition. Whether you're talking to a new big brother or you're a sister remembering what it was like when her own baby brother was born, quotes can help.

• The youngest child is now the older sibling, and with that comes the sibling instinct to protect baby brother.
• My baby brother is cute, but very messy.
• A baby brother is a blessing. Sometimes, he's a blessing in disguise, but the blessing part is always there.
• Caring for a baby brother strengthens that sibling bond.
• A baby brother wiggles into your heart and takes up permanent residence.
• A baby brother eventually grows up to be your friend.
• A baby brother is a loyal ally for life.
• A baby brother must be taught the ways of siblings.
• A baby brother will always have sibling protectors.
• A baby brother is a joy.

Famous Quotes About Brothers

The relationship between brothers is universally important, and people have always written about it. Super meaningful brother quotes from poets and writers can help you talk about what it's like having a brother.

• "If you do love my brother, hate not me; I am his brother, and I love him well." - William Shakespeare
• "Let us neither express nor cherish any hard feelings toward any citizen who by his vote has differed with us. Let us at all times remember that all American citizens are brothers of a common country, and should dwell together in the bonds of fraternal feeling." - Abraham Lincoln
• "We must live together as brothers or perish together as fools." - Martin Luther King, Jr.
• "You should never do anything wicked and lay it on your brother, when it is just as convenient to lay it on some other boy." - Mark Twain
• "I don't believe an accident of birth makes people sisters or brothers. It makes them siblings, gives them mutuality of parentage. Sisterhood and brotherhood is a condition people have to work at." - Maya Angelou
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Use These Quotes & Sayings to Show Your Brother Some Love

With these 96 quotes for a brother, you can definitely find one to express the true nature of your brotherly bond. For those brothers that aren't blood relatives, a quote honoring them can express this special relationship in a meaningful way. Older brothers, younger brothers, and even really good friends will be touched when you use these quotes in greeting cards, toasts, Instagram captions , and anywhere else you need show how you feel.

How to Crush Your Brother of the Bride Speech

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Brothers and sisters share a special bond that only grows as they get older. Whether you're her older brother or younger brother, you've probably been protective of your sister over the years. Now, she's tying the knot, and she's asked you to give a brother of the bride speech.

Maybe your speech will be in lieu of a father of the bride speech . Or, perhaps you and your sister were super close growing up so you're giving a special toast . Either way, giving a wedding speech is an honor; your sister and her new partner want to hear what you have to say, and they want you to share your thoughts with all of their guests.

Although the brother of the bride speech isn't always a common speech given on a wedding day, you can certainly squeeze in between the best man speech and any other toasts —or you could consider giving your speech at the rehearsal dinner instead of the wedding reception. Here's everything you need to know about giving a speech at your sister's wedding.

How Long Should a Brother of the Bride Speech Be?

If there's one thing that can be said about weddings, it's that they tend to follow a strict schedule. Wedding coordinators try hard to hide that from guests, but in reality, everything needs to occur within a certain time frame in order for the day to flow smoothly.

So the goal isn't to get up there and orate for 30 minutes about every memory you've ever shared with your sister. Instead, aim to make your speech last no more than 5 minutes. That should give you enough time to thank everyone you'd like to thank in your wedding toast, provide a few memories or anecdotes about your sister, and say anything that feels important to you.

How to Write a Brother of the Bride Speech

If you're stumped when it comes to speech writing and you don't know what to say in your brother of the bride speech, try breaking it into three parts: first, thank anyone you'd like, such as your sister and future brother-in-law or sister-in-law. Then, give some context about your relationship with your sister; share a sweet story or talk about the first time you met her partner. What did your sister tell you about them? What was your first impression (assuming it was favorable)? Did you know they were right for one another? And finally, wrap up your speech by providing some brotherly advice.

Find your kind of venue

Start by giving thanks.

As the brother of the bride, you can certainly begin your speech by thanking everyone for coming. Make it personal by going a bit deeper. If you were included in a bachelor party or other event for your sister's partner, thank them and tell them you had a great time. Thank your sister and her partner for putting together a beautiful day, and thank any in-laws who traveled from far away to share in your sister's special day.

Talk About Your Sister

Now it's time to highlight the special relationship you share with your sister. Was there a time in childhood that was particularly funny or poignant? Did your sister fantasize about her wedding as a little girl? If so, share that. Don't be afraid to joke about the fact that she wanted to marry at 14 or have 10 kids. Everyone loves a bit of humor. But just remember to avoid anything your sister might view as embarrassing.

Share a Parting Thought for the Newlyweds

Finally, give your best wishes to the couple. Talk about how marriage isn't always perfect but it's the trying times that bring a couple closer together. If you know your sister and her partner both want children, talk about how you can't wait to meet their future kids. Or, share a poem or quote that's particularly moving to you.

Brother of the Bride Speech Template

Still stumped on where to begin? Consider using this simple speech example as a starting point:

Good evening ladies and gentlemen, my name is [name] and I'm [bride's name]'s brother. I'm honored to have been asked to speak to you today, and I'd like to personally welcome each and every one of you and thank you for coming.

Growing up, [sister's name] always dreamed about getting married. She must have dressed up as a bride for at least three Halloweens, if not more. She often talked about her desire to have a ton of kids, and she started babysitting for money when she was just 10 years old. Yes, 10. She's always been amazing with kids.

So when she met [partner's name], who wasn't scared off by her desire for a large family, everything just clicked. Watching them today, sitting side by side, and seeing the look in their eyes and the excitement on their faces, it's obvious they were made for each other. [Partner's name] is her best friend, her confidante and her life partner, and for that, I'm so grateful and happy for my little sister. [Sister] and [partner], I love you and wish you both the best.

How to Give a Brother of the Bride Speech

You've written your speech. You've practiced your speech. Maybe you've rewritten it and practiced some more. Now all that's left to do is actually give the speech. Yikes!

If you find yourself feeling nervous on the big day, just remember to speak from the heart. Address your sister and her partner directly if the sea of unfamiliar faces makes you feel uneasy. And remember—a light joke can be clutch if you're nervous or forget what to say.

Brother of the Bride Speech Jokes

"Well, looks like the newlyweds couldn't find anyone else to give a speech, so they asked me."

"Hello, my name is [name], and I'm here today because I'm the favorite kid."

"I have one final piece of advice for you two lovebirds: Never stop laughing, even when the jokes are lame."

What NOT to Say in a Brother of the Bride Speech

As you prepare your wedding speech, keep in mind a few key things you should avoid saying:

Don't Share Private Details

As the brother of the bride, you've been around long enough to have gathered some dirty laundry on lots of wedding guests. But today isn't the day to air it. In your speech, avoid making suggestive or embarrassing jokes or comments about your sister, close family members or anyone else (yes, that includes the maid of honor).

Don't Overindulge in Alcohol Before Your Speech

Weddings are festive events where alcohol often flows freely. But it's your responsibility to lay off the whiskey shots before you give your speech. After you're done, it's fine to drink to the newlyweds.

Don't Upstage Other Important Guests

Although you will play an important role in your sister's special day, the father of the bride and the father of your sister's new partner are still the main men. Avoid upstaging or outdoing the father of the bride speeches.

Stay on Topic

For the most impactful brother of the bride speech, streamline your speech and practice ahead of time. That will ensure you say everything you'd like to say without rambling about unimportant details or worse—forgetting to include something that's important to you or your sister.

Ready for your big speech? Take a deep breath and relax. You got this, bro.

A Toast to Love: Crafting the Perfect Brother of the Bride Speech

by Antoinette Barajas

The role of the bride’s brother in her wedding day is one that should not be overlooked. They are a source of support, guidance, and love throughout the entire wedding process. On the big day itself, your brother may have a special place in the ceremony—a speech!

For those brothers out there who are lookng to make a heartfelt speech on their sister’s wedding day, here are some tips to help you prepare. First, think about how long your speech should be. Short and sweet is usually best—less than five minutes is ideal. Then, jot down some notes about your relationship with your sister and any funny or touching memories you have together. You can also talk about what it means to watch her get married and how happy you are for her.

When delivering your speech, speak slowly and clearly so everyone can hear you. Make sure to look around the room when speaking—looking at someone directly will draw them in and make them feel included in the conversation. Also try to bring some levity into your speech with some light-hearted jokes or stories from when you were growing up together.

Finally, end your speech with an inspirational message for the newlyweds or a toast for their future happiness together. Your words will be remembered forever by both of them!

By following these tips, brothers everywhere can make a heartfelt speech that will show their sister just how much they care on her special day!

Brother of the Bride Speech Ideas

Congratulations to my sister and her partner on their special day! Weddings are such a beautiful way to celebrate the love two people share.

My sister and her partner have been through many ups and downs in their relationship, but it has alwys been based on unconditional love and respect for each other. Through all the trying times, their bond has only grown stronger.

I know that my sister and her partner will make wonderful parents if they choose to have children someday, as they both share such a deep understanding of what it takes to be good parents.

I’m so happy for them both today as they unite in marriage and embark on this new chapter of their lives together. May they continue to fill each other’s lives with love, joy, and laughter! Wishing you a lifetime of happiness!

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The Role of the Brother of the Bride

The brother of the bride has many important roles to play on the special day. He may act as an usher and help guests find their seats, pass out programs, or even escort members of the wedding party down the aisle. Additionally, he may be asked to give a speech or toast at the reception, stand up with the groom during photos, or even take part in family portraits. Whatever his duties, it’s certain that the brother of the bride will play an important role in making sure that everyone enjoys this special day!

Brother’s Role in a Wedding Speech

Yes, a brother of the bride may give a speech at a wedding. This is becoming increasingly more common as people find it to be a meaningful and memorable way of celebrating the union between two families. When giving a speech, the brother should focus on his relationship with his sister, emphasizing the love and support that has been shared between them throughout their lives. He can also include stories about the couple and share memories from their time spent together. Finally, he should wish them well and express his joy for having them both in his life.

Writing a Speech for My Siblings at My Wedding

Welcome everyone to the wedding of my brother/sister and their new spouse. I hope you all are having a wonderful time so far!

I’m sure you all know how excited my brother/sister is to be starting this new journey with their partner, and I couldn’t be happier for them. It’s a day of celebration and joy, and I’m so pleased to have all of you here with us.

Before I begin, I wanted to get in a little joke – since it is my brother/sister’s special day after all! [Insert joke here].

I want to take this opportunity to tell you some stories about my brother/sister. We’ve been tgether through thick and thin, and there are so many great memories that come to mind. [Share anecdotes about your relationship here]

We are also very happy and proud to welcome our new family member today. [Name], thank you for bringing so much happiness into my brother/sister’s life; we are all grateful for your presence here today, and we wish you both the best for this new chapter in your lives together.

This special day wouldn’t be possible without the love and support of our parents. They have done so much for us throughout our lives, teaching us valuable lessons along the way. Please join me in thanking them for everything they have done for us – cheers!

Now let’s make a toast to the bride and groom! May their marriage be filled with happiness, laughter, and unconditional love – cheers!

What Not to Say in a Wedding Speech

In a wedding speech, you should avoid saying anything negative about either the bride or groom, their families or friends. You should also try to avoid making jokes at someone’s expense, as this can be seen as insensitive and hurtful. Additionally, it is important to not bring up any former relationships of the couple, as this may be uncomfortable for some in attendance. Lastly, try to stay away from talking politics or religion in your speech as this can lead to an awkward conversation.

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Complimenting the Bride in a Speech

Congratulations to the happy couple! It is so wonderful to be here today to witness such an occasion. The bride looks absolutely stunning in her dress, and it’s clear that the two of you were meant for each other. It was so touching to see how you promised your love and devotion to one another during the ceremony. We all wish you a lifetime of joy and happiness together. Congratulations!

Can the Brother of the Bride Serve as the Best Man?

Yes, the brother of the bride can absolutely be the best man. There are no rules or regulations that dictate who the groom chooses for this role. The best man is typically chosen by the groom to represent him and act as his right hand on his wedding day. As long as both the bride and groom are comfortable with the arrangement, having a brother of the bride serve as best man is a perfectly acceptable option.

Essential Items for a Bride on Her Wedding Day

A bride traditionally needs four items on her wedding day: something old, something new, something borrowed and something blue.

Something Old is a symbol of continuity, signifying the bride’s connection with her family and past. This could be an item of jewellery or clothing that was handed down from a relative or family member. It could even be a piece of fabric from a special dress or veil, sewn into the bride’s gown.

Something New represents optimism for the future and is usually the wedding dress itself, as well as any other new items that the bride may choose to wear for her special day.

Something Borrowed symbolises borrowed happiness; it should come from someone who has already experienced marital joy so that some of their good luck can be transferred to the happy couple. This could be a piece of jewellery, bag or pehaps even some sentimental words of wisdom – it all depends on what is meaningful to the bride.

Finally, Something Blue signifies faithfulness and loyalty throughout a marriage and is often represented by an item such as a garter or ribbon attached to the dress. Additionally, brides sometimes choose to include a sixpence in their shoe for added luck.

Including the Brother of the Bride in the Wedding Party

Yes, the brother of the bride should be included in the wedding party. Traditionally, it is customary for the bride to have her brother as a groomsman and the groom to have his sister as a bridesmaid. Including siblings in the wedding party is an important way to honor family ties and is also symbolic of blending two families together. Additionally, having brothers and sisters in the wedding party can make for some fun photos and memories that can be cherished for years to come!

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Who Should Give the First Speech at a Wedding?

The first speech at a wedding is typically given by the parents of the bride, or the father of the bride. This toast serves two purposes – to congratulate the happy couple and to welcome all of the guests to the celebration. The father will usually start by thanking everyone for coming and expressing his joy that all of the special people in his daughter’s life have been able to join them. He will then go on to express his love and admiration for his daughter, and offer congratulations and best wishes for her future with her new husband. He may also share a few words aout what a wonderful person he believes her husband-to-be is, as well as offering advice or wisdom for a successful marriage. After this, he will usually raise his glass in a toast to their union. The parents of the groom may then follow with their own toast, if they wish.

Reading Wedding Speeches: Is It Acceptable?

Yes, it is perfectly acceptable to read a wedding speech. While some might prefer to speak with no notes or prompts, reading from a script may be the best option for those who are not confident in their public speaking skills. When reading your speech, it is important to remain mindful of the tone of your voice and make sure that you are communicating your love and appreciation for the couple clearly. You can also use notes or prompts as a guide, or use them to help you remember any key points during your speech. Finally, practice reading your speech sevral times before delivering it on the big day—you’ll be glad you did!

Who Is Expected to Speak at a Wedding?

Traditionally, the order of wedding speeches typically starts with the Father of the Bride, followed by the Groom, then the Best Man. Other toasts may follow from close family or friends. In same-sex weddings, it can be common for both partners to give a speech or toast, although sometimes only one partner may choose to do so. The speeches usually consist of words of congratulations, reflections on the couple and teir journey together and sometimes a few humorous anecdotes. It is also common for other members of the wedding party such as parents of the couple, siblings and close friends to give a short speech or toast in honor of the couple’s special day.

Honoring Siblings at a Wedding

Honoring your siblings at your wedding is a wonderful way to show them how much they mean to you. There are many ways in which you can honor your siblings on your big day. One way is to have them take part in the ceremony, such as having them give a reading or walk down the aisle with grandparents or close family members. You could also have them play an important role during the reception, such as giving a toast or leading a dance with you. Another great option is to give each of your siblings a special gift on the day of the wedding, such as jewelry, personalized items, or other meaningful presents that they can keep and remember your special day by. Finally, you could also make sure to include them during key moments throughot the day by taking photos together or having conversations and laughs over dinner.

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Wishing My Sister Well on Her Wedding Day

Congratulations on your wedding day, sister! As you embark on this exciting journey together, I want to wish you both all the best in your future life together. May your love for each other remain strong and continue to grow with each passing day. May your marriage bring you joy and laughter and be filled with moments of contentment and bliss. I am so proud of you both and wish you a life full of happiness and abundance. Enjoy this special day, as it is the beginning of something truly beautiful.

The Significance of the Wedding Speech

The most important speech at a wedding is the couple’s vows. This is the moment when the couple promises each other love, loyalty, and commitment. It is a solemn, intimate moment that captures the essence of what marriage means to two people who are deeply in love. After the vows have been spoken, the best man and maid of honor can then go on to deliver their respective speeches. These speeches typically include fond memories of the couple, funny anecdotes, and heartfelt wishes for their future together. Finally, parents of both bride and groom can give their own speeches that offer support and blessings to the newlyweds.

In conclusion, being a bride is both an exciting and daunting experience. As the bride, you are the center of attention on your special day and it is important to take the time to enjoy all of the moments that come with it. From selecting a dress and accessories to deciding on a venue and menu, thre is much to be done in preparation for the big day. The bride should also take care of her appearance and choose a hairstyle, makeup look, and other features that make her feel beautiful. Finally, the bride should remember that no matter what happens during her wedding day, it is sure to be an unforgettable experience that will stay with her forever!

NFL Pushes Back On Harrison Butker's Bigoted Graduation Speech

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The NFL on Wednesday issued a measured rebuke of Kansas City Chiefs kicker Harrison Butker for his ultraconservative blather during a college graduation speech.

Butker had slammed abortion rights , the LGBTQ+ community and diversity initiatives, while also suggesting that women should be far more eager to become homemakers than to pursue careers.

In his remarks to Kansas’ Benedictine College on Saturday, he even managed to tick off fans of singer Taylor Swift by referring to her merely as teammate Travis Kelce’s “girlfriend.”

The image-conscious league finally hit back in a statement to multiple outlets .

“Harrison Butker gave a speech in his personal capacity,” Jonathan Beane, the NFL’s senior vice president and chief diversity and inclusion officer, said in the statement. “His views are not those of the NFL as an organization. The NFL is steadfast in our commitment to inclusion, which only makes our league stronger.”

The league, which is the dominant team-sport entity in the U.S., appeared to focus on Butker citing Pride month as one of the “deadly sins,” as well as his pontificating on “dangerous gender ideologies” and the “tyranny of diversity, equity and inclusion.”

He also said that President Joe Biden supports “the murder of innocent babies.”

“Bad policies and poor leadership have negatively impacted major life issues,” he said. “Things like abortion, IVF [in vitro fertilization], surrogacy, euthanasia, as well as a growing support for degenerate cultural values and media, all stem from the pervasiveness of disorder.”

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Harrison Butker Said His Benedictine College Commencement Speech Taken 'Out of Context'?

According to online posts, butker supposedly clarified in a statement, "all i said is that we should go back to a better time, like the 50s and 60s.", jordan liles, published may 16, 2024.

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On May 16, 2024, numerous users on Facebook , TikTok and X reposted a quote meme featuring a purported statement from Kansas City Chiefs kicker and 3-time Super Bowl champion Harrison Butker. The statement supposedly constituted Butker's response to some backlash following his May 11 commencement speech at Kansas' Benedictine College, a private Catholic liberal arts school.

In one post  on X displayed to over 1 million users, the viral quote meme showing a photo of Butker read, "Everyone is taking what I said out of context. All I said is that we should go back to a better time, like the 50s and 60s. When men were men, and women had more babies than thoughts. When the only 'Me too' movement was one woman saying she was ready for her 4th child, and another woman agreeing." The end of the meme added Butker's name with the words "on setting the record straight."

A TikTok video promoting the quote meme as genuine also received more than 800,000 views within five hours of being uploaded, making it another one of the more prominent reposts.

However, Butker did not release a statement with these words, nor did he appear to publicly release any statements following his speech. A closer look at the quote meme reveals a watermark for "@TheSportsMemery" — a reference to the Facebook page named The Sports Memery. The Facebook page's description describes its output as containing satire and parody.

The Associated Press reported Butker's speech featured some remarks on the subjects of women and motherhood, Pride month, in vitro fertilization (IVF) and President Joe Biden's policies regarding abortion and the COVID-19 pandemic, among others.

Readers looking to watch Butker's address in its original form can find the full, unedited speech in a  video  posted on the Benedictine College YouTube channel. The video ends with many of the people in attendance giving Butker a standing ovation.

The National Catholic Register also published a complete transcript of the address.

"Chiefs Kicker Butker Congratulates Women Graduates and Says Most Are More Excited about Motherhood." The Associated Press , 16 May 2024, https://apnews.com/article/kansas-city-chiefs-harrison-butker-e00f6ee45955c99ef1e809ec447239e0.

"Full Text: Harrison Butker of Kansas City Chiefs Graduation Speech." NCR , 16 May 2024, https://www.ncregister.com/news/harrison-butker-speech-at-benedictine.

"Harrison Butker | Commencement Address 2024 | Benedictine College." YouTube , Benedictine College, 11 May 2024, https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=-JS7RIKSaCc.

May 17, 2024: This report was updated to add the five words appearing under Butker's name in the quote meme.

By Jordan Liles

Jordan Liles is a Senior Reporter who has been with Snopes since 2016.

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Jerry Seinfeld's wife applauds Duke crowd who drowned out anti-Israel protesters during commencement speech

J essica Seinfeld, the wife of comedian Jerry Seinfeld , praised her husband's "amazing" Duke University Class of 2024 commencement speech on Instagram over the weekend after a group of anti-Israel protesters tried to interrupt him but found themselves drowned out by the rest of the audience.

The comic, who is Jewish and a co-chair of the university's Parents Committee, took the stage over the weekend to deliver remarks to a crowd of over 7,000 when the small demonstration broke out.

A few dozen protesters walked out of their seats, chanting "Free Palestine" along the way, videos of the incident show.

The Duke audience wouldn't have it, bursting out in chants of "Jerry! Jerry! Jerry!" and cheering for the comedian, video shows.

DUKE UNIVERSITY STUDENTS WALK OUT ON JERRY SEINFELD COMMENCEMENT SPEECH, CHANT ‘FREE PALESTINE’

"Amazing crowd @dukeuniversity today where Jerry gave the commencement speech and received an honorary degree," Jessica Seinfeld wrote on her Instagram story. "There was a minimal interruption – a small group of protesters walked out."

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"They were booed by the crowd and then the stadium chanted ‘Jer-ry!’" she added. "Jerry's speech was amazing and the grads and their parents gave him a standing ovation."

Seinfeld received an honorary degree and delivered his speech without further interruptions.

The university posted Seinfeld's full speech on its YouTube page .

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In the 16-minute clip, Seinfeld took a break from the jokes to give students his "three real keys to life."

"No. 1, bust your a--," he said. "No. 2, pay attention. No. 3, fall in love."

He urged the new grads to try hard and try again if they fail. Question risks and appreciate the small things in life.

He also took a subtle swipe at wokeism.

"Privilege is a word that has taken quite a beating lately," he said. "Privilege today seems to be the worst thing you can have. I would like to take a moment to defend it."

Growing up Jewish in New York , he said, was a privilege for an aspiring comedian. Graduating from Duke University is another privilege for the students attending his speech, he added.

"You went to Duke, that is an unbelievable privilege," he said. "We're embarrassed of things we should be proud of, and proud of things we should be embarrassed about."

"You’re never going to believe this, Harvard used to be a great place to go to school," he joked. "Now it's Duke."

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Duke has emerged as a top U.S. university, attracting students who would be Ivy League contenders if they weren't turned off by the administrations' handling of far-left campus protests, experts told Fox News Digital last week.

"You cannot beat this school," Jessica Seinfeld concluded in her Instagram story. "We are #ForeverDuke."

Fox News' Stephen Sorace contributed to this report.

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Patricia heaton defends harrison butker amid graduation speech controversy, patricia heaton defends harrison butker ... 'he's not a monster'.

Patricia Heaton is taking a side in the Harrison Butker saga ... and not everybody is going to love it.

The "Everybody Loves Raymond" actress voiced her support for the NFL star after he slammed Pride Month and working women in a graduation speech at Benedictine College last week.

While most women have reacted negatively to Harrison's commencement address, Patricia took to Instagram and encouraged critics to relax ... stating the Kansas City Chiefs kicker is allowed to have his beliefs -- no matter how controversial they may be.

PH defended ... "I don’t understand why everyone’s knickers are in a twist. He gave a commencement speech, the audience applauded twice during the speech and gave him a standing ovation at the end. So clearly, they enjoyed what he was saying.”

She emphasized Harrison was "not a monster" because of his beliefs.

As Patricia continued, she confirmed she found nothing offensive about his address ... even though she was a working mom herself. Patricia, who identified as a Catholic in her video, credited God for giving her a working schedule that allowed her to be hands on with her kids.

Though, Patricia confessed Harrison probably wouldn't have been a fan of her working while being a mom -- but doubled down, saying she was still unbothered.

Patricia isn't the first celebrity to come to Harrison's defense ... as Whoopi Goldberg also defended that the footballer was entitled to his opinion . However, Maren Morris , Flavor Flav , Maria Shriver , Hoda Kotb , and countless fans have slammed him for conservative sentiments.

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