good manners in islam essay

  Jan-2017

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Manners of the Prophet Muhammad ﷺ - Good Manners

تفسیر قرآن کریم.

Good Manners

Wasim Abbas Attari

Manners and morals reflect an individual’s true personality and play a vital role in how others behave towards the person. Good morals help one traverse the ranks of honour. In other words, there is a direct link between rank and good morals whereby it is expected that the more highly ranked a person is, the greater morals he will possess.

The highest ranking being in Allah’s creation is the Final Messenger of Allah صَلَّى الـلّٰـهُ عَلَيْهِ وَاٰلِهٖ وَسَلَّم . The above mentioned principle therefore warrants that he صَلَّى الـلّٰـهُ عَلَيْهِ وَاٰلِهٖ وَسَلَّم  possess the loftiest morals and manners, far greater than anyone else, which serve as an exemplary model for the rest of us.

Good manners are much more than mere outward protocols, dealing with others, and discipline in self-care; they include high inner traits such as courtesy, respect, appropriateness, patience, forgiving others, forbearance, and affection.

The Final Messenger of Allah صَلَّى الـلّٰـهُ عَلَيْهِ وَاٰلِهٖ وَسَلَّم  was an embodiment of all these characteristics, in addition to many more. In fact, good manners attained a recognition through the blessed manners of the Prophet صَلَّى الـلّٰـهُ عَلَيْهِ وَاٰلِهٖ وَسَلَّم . Sayyiduna Jabir رَضِىَ الـلّٰـهُ عَـنْهُ  narrates that the Holy Prophet صَلَّى الـلّٰـهُ عَلَيْهِ وَاٰلِهٖ وَسَلَّم  has stated: ‘Allah Almighty sent me to accomplish the ranks of morals, and to accomplish the excellences of good deeds,’ (Sharh Al-Sunnah, vol. 7, p. 9, Hadith: 3516) .

The Quran also talks about the matchless manners of the Holy Prophet صَلَّى الـلّٰـهُ عَلَيْهِ وَاٰلِهٖ وَسَلَّم  in many places. For example, Allah Almighty states:

وَ اِنَّكَ لَعَلٰى خُلُقٍ عَظِیْمٍ( ۴ )

‘And (O Beloved), your (excellent) character is undoubtedly of a superb standard.’

[Kanz-ul-Iman (translation of Quran)] (Part 29, Surah Al-Qalam, Verse 4)

In this verse, Allah Almighty talks about the impeccable character of His Beloved صَلَّى الـلّٰـهُ عَلَيْهِ وَاٰلِهٖ وَسَلَّم . The second verse of this chapter refutes the allegation of the disbelievers that the Holy Prophet صَلَّى الـلّٰـهُ عَلَيْهِ وَاٰلِهٖ وَسَلَّم   was مَـعَـاذَ الـلّٰـه   insane. Commenting on this verse, Allamah Ali b. Muhammad Khaazin رَحْمَةُ الـلّٰـهِ عَلَيْه   remarks: ‘This verse (68:4) is as if it is the commentary of:

مَاۤ اَنْتَ بِنِعْمَةِ رَبِّكَ بِمَجْنُوْنٍۚ( ۲ )

‘With the Benevolence of your Lord, (O Beloved) you are not insane.’

[Kanz-ul-Iman (translation of Quran)] (Part 29, Surah Al-Qalam, Verse 2)

Because the praiseworthy character and impeccable manners of the Holy Prophet صَلَّى الـلّٰـهُ عَلَيْهِ وَاٰلِهٖ وَسَلَّم  were evident from his noble personality, therefore, it is not correct to associate insanity with someone who possesses such grandeur,’ (Khaazin, Surah Al-Qalam, under verse 4, vol. 4, p. 294) .

Under the same verse, the Imam of Ahl al-Sunnah, Imam Ahmad Raza Khan رَحْمَةُ الـلّٰـهِ عَلَيْه  writes: ’Allah Almighty says,

  ‘And (O Beloved), your (excellent) character is undoubtedly of a superb standard.’

i.e., as in not only forbearance and patience, but every single characteristic of yours is so impeccable that the characters of the most elite intellectuals of the entire world collectively do not equate to even an iota of it, so who is more blind than the one who remembers you with such words,’ (Fatawa Razawiyyah, vol. 30, pp. 164, 165) .

Sayyiduna Hisham b. Sa’d رَضِىَ الـلّٰـهُ عَـنْهُ   relates:

I asked Sayyidatuna Aisha al-Siddiqah رَضِیَ الـلّٰـهُ عَنْهَا , ‘Mother of believers! Tell me about the character of the Holy Prophet صَلَّى الـلّٰـهُ عَلَيْهِ وَاٰلِهٖ وَسَلَّم .’ To which she replied: ‘Do you not recite the Quran?’ I responded: ‘Of course’ So, she said: ‘The Quran is actually the khuluq (i.e. the character) of the Prophet صَلَّى الـلّٰـهُ عَلَيْهِ وَاٰلِهٖ وَسَلَّم ,’ (Muslim: 139(746)) .

Allamah Ismail Haqqi رَحْمَةُ الـلّٰـهِ عَلَيْه , the author of the renowned Quranic commentary Ruh al-Bayan, beautifully delineates the character of the Prophet صَلَّى الـلّٰـهُ عَلَيْهِ وَاٰلِهٖ وَسَلَّم   in the following words:

The character of the Prophet صَلَّى الـلّٰـهُ عَلَيْهِ وَاٰلِهٖ وَسَلَّم   was the epitome of all noble characteristics. Allah Almighty granted him the gratitude of Sayyiduna Nuh عَـلَيْـهِ الـسَّـلَام , the intimate friendship of Sayyiduna Ibrahim عَـلَيْـهِ الـسَّـلَام , the sincerity of Sayyiduna Musa عَـلَيْـهِ الـسَّـلَام , the veracity of the promise of Sayyiduna Ismail عَـلَيْـهِ الـسَّـلَام , the patience of Sayyiduna Ya’qoob and Sayyiduna Ayyub عَـلَيْـهِما الـسَّـلَام , the prayer of Sayyiduna Dawood عَـلَيْـهِ الـسَّـلَام , the humility of Sayyiduna Sulayman and Sayyiduna Isa عَـلَيْـهِما الـسَّـلَام , and the qualities of all the Prophets عَـلَـيْهِمُ السَّلَام . This is the station which has been granted to only the Holy Prophet صَلَّى الـلّٰـهُ عَلَيْهِ وَاٰلِهٖ وَسَلَّم , (Ruh Al-Bayan, (Al-Quran, 68:4), vol. 10, p. 106) .

A person’s character is truly tested when dealing with his staff or those less fortunate than him. Many people fail this test, falling prey to pride and conceit. But the supreme example left by the Holy Prophet صَلَّى الـلّٰـهُ عَلَيْهِ وَاٰلِهٖ وَسَلَّم  is a bastion of affection and kindness towards everyone.   

Sayyiduna Zayd b. Haritha رَضِىَ الـلّٰـهُ عَـنْهُ  was the slave of the Holy Prophet صَلَّى الـلّٰـهُ عَلَيْهِ وَاٰلِهٖ وَسَلَّم . When his father and uncle came to the Holy Prophet صَلَّى الـلّٰـهُ عَلَيْهِ وَاٰلِهٖ وَسَلَّم  to free him by paying ransom, the Holy Prophet صَلَّى الـلّٰـهُ عَلَيْهِ وَاٰلِهٖ وَسَلَّم  left it to Sayyiduna Zayd b. Haritha رَضِىَ الـلّٰـهُ عَـنْهُ   to decide whether he wanted to go with them or not. So Sayyiduna Zayd b. Haritha رَضِىَ الـلّٰـهُ عَـنْهُ  was called, and after he recognised his father and uncle, the Holy Prophet صَلَّى الـلّٰـهُ عَلَيْهِ وَاٰلِهٖ وَسَلَّم  said to him that it is up to you if you want to stay with me or go with them. Sayyiduna Zayd رَضِىَ الـلّٰـهُ عَـنْهُ  said: ‘How can I prioritise someone over you? You are in place of my father as well as my uncle.’ His father and uncle asked him: ‘Zayd! You prioritise slavery over freedom? You prioritise living as a slave instead of living with your father, uncle, and rest of the family?’ He answered: ‘Yes. I cannot prioritise anything over him due to what I have seen in him.’ The Holy Prophet صَلَّى الـلّٰـهُ عَلَيْهِ وَاٰلِهٖ وَسَلَّم   then remarked: ‘I have made him my son.’ His father and uncle were delighted and happily left him there,’ (Al-Isaabah, vol. 2, p. 495) .

Unparalleled forgiveness was central to the Prophet’s nature. Despite having the right to avenge himself on moral and ethical grounds, he صَلَّى الـلّٰـهُ عَلَيْهِ وَاٰلِهٖ وَسَلَّم  readily forgave those who wronged him. ‘After the Expedition of Badr, the beloved daughter of the Prophet صَلَّى الـلّٰـهُ عَلَيْهِ وَاٰلِهٖ وَسَلَّم , Sayyidatuna Zaynab رَضِیَ الـلّٰـهُ عَنْهَا  was sent to Madinah by her husband, Abul ‘Aas. When the Quraysh of Makkah found out about this, they pursued her, intercepting her at a place called Zi Tuwaa. Hibar b. al-Aswad struck her with a spear, causing her to fall of the camel and have a  miscarriage,’ (Seerat-e-Nabawiyyah li-Ibn Hishaam, p. 271) .

We know too well what the reaction of a father in this situation would be; and it would be largely justified.  Yet, our Merciful Prophet صَلَّى الـلّٰـهُ عَلَيْهِ وَاٰلِهٖ وَسَلَّم , driven by compassion, responded very differently.

Sayyiduna Jubayr b. Mut’im رَضِىَ الـلّٰـهُ عَـنْهُ  states:

I was sitting by the Holy Prophet صَلَّى الـلّٰـهُ عَلَيْهِ وَاٰلِهٖ وَسَلَّم  while returning from Ji’rana. All of a sudden, Hibar b. al-Aswad entered. The honourable Companions said: ‘Prophet of Allah صَلَّى الـلّٰـهُ عَلَيْهِ وَاٰلِهٖ وَسَلَّم ! He is Hibar b. Al-Aswad.’ The Prophet صَلَّى الـلّٰـهُ عَلَيْهِ وَاٰلِهٖ وَسَلَّم  responded: ‘I saw him.’ I got up to kill him but the Prophet صَلَّى الـلّٰـهُ عَلَيْهِ وَاٰلِهٖ وَسَلَّم  made him sit down. Coming close to the Prophet صَلَّى الـلّٰـهُ عَلَيْهِ وَاٰلِهٖ وَسَلَّم , Hibar said: ‘Prophet of Allah صَلَّى الـلّٰـهُ عَلَيْهِ وَاٰلِهٖ وَسَلَّم ! May peace be upon you. I bear witness that none is worthy of worship except Allah, and I bear witness that Muhammad صَلَّى الـلّٰـهُ عَلَيْهِ وَاٰلِهٖ وَسَلَّم  is the Messenger of Allah. Running away from you, I fled to many cities, thinking of going to non-Arab states, but then I recalled your kind-heartedness, how well you treat your relatives, and your hallmark of forgiving your enemies. Prophet of Allah صَلَّى الـلّٰـهُ عَلَيْهِ وَاٰلِهٖ وَسَلَّم ! We were polytheists. Allah Almighty guided us through you and granted us salvation from destruction. Please forgive me for my ignorance and every such thing of mine that reached you. I acknowledge all my ill-deeds and confess to all my sins.’ The Merciful Prophet صَلَّى الـلّٰـهُ عَلَيْهِ وَاٰلِهٖ وَسَلَّم  remarked: ‘I have forgiven you. Allah Almighty has favoured you by guiding you through Islam, and Islam erases all previous sins,’ (Al-Asabah, vol. 6, pp. 412, 413) .

Where in the history would we find such an exemplary character? How often do we see someone forgiving the others despite having the power and justification to take revenge? Such a display is seldom witnessed, but it can be frequently seen throughout the blessed life of the Holy Prophet صَلَّى الـلّٰـهُ عَلَيْهِ وَاٰلِهٖ وَسَلَّم . 

These were only a few examples and traits of the impeccable character of the Holy Prophet صَلَّى الـلّٰـهُ عَلَيْهِ وَاٰلِهٖ وَسَلَّم . Otherwise, the annals of history testify in the loudest voice to his lofty manners. We should reflect and internalise the impeccable character of the Holy Prophet صَلَّى الـلّٰـهُ عَلَيْهِ وَاٰلِهٖ وَسَلَّم , for that will lead to a prosperous life in this world and perpetual success in the Hereafter.

Dear Allah Almighty! For the sake of the flawless character of Your Beloved صَلَّى الـلّٰـهُ عَلَيْهِ وَاٰلِهٖ وَسَلَّم , beautify our character, and enable us to tread the path of success and salvation.

اٰمِیْن بِجَاہِ النَّبِیِّ الْاَمِیْن صَلَّی اللہ تَعَالٰی عَلَیْہِ وَاٰلہٖ وَسَلَّم

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Importance of Manners in Islam – According to Quran and Sunnah

Manners are a way of doing something or way of behavior, etiquette or it could be a person’s outward way of behaving toward others. The issue of good manners is very important In Islam; it is the basis of one’s success in his daily life through which someone could make a distinctive place in the Islamic community.  Dealing others with good manners means to put them at ease the way that Islam recommended us to deal with. It is not just the important part of our religion Islam but also makes our social life more pleasant. Conducting good manners is not easy because it takes time.

There is no one in a good manner than our beloved Prophet Muhammad (SAW). Allah Almighty said in Holy Quran:   “And indeed, you are of a great moral character ” (Quran, 68:4). A Muslim can’t be a true Muslim if he does his all kinds of worships, i.e. prayer, fast, zakat, pilgrimage etc. in the best way but neglects an important side of his worship i.e. Adab or good manners. A person who offers his daily prayers in mosques timely and in a proper way, but when it comes to dealing with other people in his daily life he is the worst person, cannot be considered a true Muslim.

Holy Prophet (SAW) said about good manners in one of His hadith in these words: “Nothing is weightier on the Scale of Deeds than one’s good manners” (Bukhari).  Allah Almighty made Him (PBUH) the best and perfect example for the people and sent him only for the purpose of perfecting good morals.  The virtues of good manners are seen in various other hadiths which points to the good character that is pleasing to Allah Almighty and His Messenger Prophet Muhammad (SAW). Prophet Muhammad (SAW) reminded in other hadith that: “The most beloved of Allah’s servants to Allah are those with the best manners.” (Al-Bukhari)

Good manners or Adab consists of spreading words of peace, reviving broken relationships between people, involves praying for other Muslim brothers and sisters, advising and calling each other to do good and to stop which is evil. Good manners are about respecting parents, elders, neighbors and showing love and compassion to the young ones. Visiting the sick and abstaining from evils such as backbiting and slandering also includes in good manners. Allah loves those who possess these great qualities.

If someone wants to achieve success it is by good manners that every success can be achieved in this life.  Good manners and sense of morality can prevent us from falling into sins. Allah Almighty says in Noble Quran:  “Indeed in the Messenger of Allah (Muhammad PUBH) you have a good example to follow for him who hopes in (the Meeting with) Allah and the Last Day and remembers Allah much”  (Quran, 33:21). So we all should ask Almighty Allah to make us follow the footsteps of the Prophet Muhammad (SAW) and deal with the people in a way that He (SAW) dealt with. Allah Almighty made it an essential part of the faith without which our faith cannot be completed. The Messenger of Allah (PBUH) says: “The believers most perfect in faith are those best in character.” (Tirmidhi)

In short, Manners are important to fulfill our faith and also in our social life. May Allah Almighty give us the strength to improve our manners and try to imitate them! Ameen

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Good Manners in Islam

Akhlaak/manners play an important role in Islam. It is essential for a Muslim that he/she clothes themselves with the Akhlaak shown to us by the beloved Prophet Sallallahu Alaihi Wasallam and his noble companions. There is no doubt that Akhlaak is one of the qualities of a believer, most importantly it is a trademark and quality of the master of the both worlds Muhammad sallallahu Alaihi Wasallam.

Sayyidna Anas Bin Malik Radiyallahu Anhu says: “Allah’s Apostle Sallallahu Alaihi Wasallam had the best manners amongst all the human beings” (Bukhari 6420 and Muslim 2309).

It is pivotal that we ask ourselves this question on a regular basis, that is our Akhlaak in accordance to what Rasulullah sallallahu Alaihi Wasallam has taught us or does it go against his blessed teachings. This answer can be shown by ones actions, by ones behaviour, whether it is in private or public.

Our Akhlaak in all stages of life should be in accordance with the Akhlaak of Rasulullah sallallahu Alaihi Wasallam. Akhlaak is not restricted to one particular avenue. It is for all stages of life.

Having good manners and Akhlaak is also a form Dawah. One may think that how is this so? One only has to trace back to the life of noble companions. They would travel far and wide across the globe, sometimes in the form of battles or sometimes in the form of seeking knowledge. Despite the power and authority they possessed they would never force upon a person to accept Islam as this goes against what the Holy Quran says. So what was that spark about them that blossomed into the hearts of those who set eyes on them, and would happily enter into the fold of Islam? Surely it was their manners and Akhlaak that they had inherited from the leader of the both worlds sallallahu Alaihi Wasallam that brought others into the fold of Islam.

It is unfortunate that we have portrayed Islam opposite to that which was portrayed by the blessed companions. Our manners are contrary to theirs.

Today, instead of speaking to one another in a polite and beautiful manner, we choose a harsh, aggressive tone. Instead of bringing a person closer to us and closer to Islam (as this is our main objective) we instead by using such aggressive tones which draw them further away from us and further away from deen. This was not the manners that were acquired by Rasulullah sallallahu Alaihi Wasallam.

Allah Subhanahu Wa Ta’ala mentions: “So, it is through mercy of Allah that you are gentle to them. Had you been rough and hardhearted, they would have dispersed from around you” (Surah Al Imran verse 159).

Sayyidna Abdullah Bin Amr Radiyallahu Anhu has narrated that the Prophet sallallahu Alaihi Wasallam was neither immodest nor did he use obscene language. He used to say, “The best among you are those who have the best manners “ (Musnad Ahmad).

We learn Rasulullah sallallahu Alaihi Wasallam was polite and very well mannered. How many of us can also say that we too share this blessed character of Rasulullah sallallahu Alaihi Wasallam?

A sign of a true Muslim is not to harm anyone at all; unfortunately we too have fallen into this category. Whether we intend it or not we cause difficulty to everyone, even to our own neighbours. Sometimes it is in the form of parking in front of their house or sometimes it is because we scream and shout in our houses, we make so much noise that it becomes a mean of us causing difficulty for them. These are practices which unfortunately have engulfed into our lives. We deem it to be acceptable to throw our litter on streets when dustbins are literally in front of us. How low have we Muslims fallen? Have we become so lazy and un-Islamic that we have forgotten how to keep our environments clean and tidy? Our environments should be treated in the same manner as we treat our homes. When people enter an environment and see it clean then the first thing they should think is that Muslims live here. The root of all these acts depends on ones characteristics. A Muslim who adopts good manners will never fall prey to these downfalls.

In conclusion, Akhlaak and manners holds a very important role in a life of a Muslim. Our Akhlaak should always be in accordance with that of Rasulullah sallallahu Alaihi Wasallam and his noble companions. Failure in this leaves the consequence of giving Islam and our Beloved prophet sallallahu Alaihi Wasallam a name which is not suitable and befitting. However, for those who adopt good manners great merit has been mentioned for them by the blessed tongue of Rasulullah sallallahu Alaihi Wasallam.

“Amr Bin Shuayb has narrated on the authority of his grandfather that he heard Rasulullah sallallahu Alaihi Wasallam say, “Shall I tell you who among you is dearest to me and who will be nearest to me on the day of resurrection? On hearing this, the companions kept quiet. He repeated these words twice or thrice. The companions submitted “O messenger of Allah, do tell us! “So he said, “He who is the best mannered among you will get this honour” (Adabul Mufrad p146)

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The 75 good manners (commandments) in the quran.

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Islamic Etiquette

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Human nature desires a society based on morals and manners which provides a stable and secure life leading to liberty and happiness for all people.

Muslims believe Prophet Muhammad had a character as a model for all humanity to follow. The Quran describes the Prophet as:

By an act of mercy from God, you O’ Prophet were gentle in your dealings with them – had you been harsh, or hard-hearted, they would have dispersed and left you – so pardon them and ask forgiveness for them. Consult with them about matters, then, when you have decided on a course of action, put your trust in God: God loves those who put their trust in Him? Quran 3:159

Following is list of 75 good manners that we can learn from the Glorious Quran, the Numbers in brackets refers to Sura or Chapter and Verse Numbers :

Don’t lie ( 22:30 ), don’t spy ( 49:12 ), don’t exult ( 28:76 ), don’t insult ( 49:11 ), don’t waste ( 17:26 ), feed the poor ( 22:36 ), don’t backbite ( 49:12 ), keep your oaths ( 5:89 ), don’t take bribes ( 27:36 ), honour your treaties ( 9:4 ), restrain your anger ( 3:134 ), don’t spread gossip ( 24:15 ), think good of others ( 24:12 ), be good to guests ( 51:24-27 ), don’t harm believers ( 33:58 ), don’t be rude to parents ( 17:23 ), turn away from ill speech ( 23:3 ), don’t make fun of others ( 49:11 ), walk in a humble manner ( 25:63 ), respond to evil with good ( 41:34 ), don’t say what you don’t do ( 62:2 ), keep your trusts & promises ( 23:8 ), don’t insult others’ false gods ( 6:108 ), don’t deceive people in trade ( 6:152 ), don’t take items without right ( 3:162 ), don’t ask unnecessary questions ( 5:101 ), don’t be miserly nor extravagant ( 25:67 ), don’t call others with bad names ( 49:11 ), don’t claim yourselves to be pure ( 53:32 ), speak nicely, even to the ignorant ( 25:63 ), don’t ask for repayment for favours ( 76:9 ), make room for others at gatherings ( 58:11 ), if enemy wants peace, then accept it ( 8:61 ), return a greeting in a better manner ( 4:86 ), don’t remind others of your favours ( 2:264 ), make peace between fighting groups ( 49:9 ), lower your voice and talk moderately ( 31:19 ), don’t let hatred cause you to be unjust ( 6:108 ), don’t ask too many favours from people ( 2:273 ), greet people when entering their home ( 24:27 ), be just, even against yourself & relatives ( 4:135 ), speak gently, even to leaders of disbelief ( 20:44 ), don’t criticize small contributions of others ( 9:79 ), don’t call the prophet how you call others’ ( 24:63 ), try to make peace between husband & wife ( 4:128 ), don’t call the prophet from outside his rooms ( 49:4 ), oppression/corruption is worse than killing ( 2:217 ), preach to others in a good and wise manner ( 16:125 ), don’t accuse others of immorality without proof ( 24:4 ), consider wives of the prophet like your mothers ( 33:6 ), don’t raise your voice above that of the prophet’s ( 49:2 ), don’t call someone a disbeliever without knowing ( 4:94 ), seek permission before entering someone’s room ( 24:59 ), know your enemies can become your close friends ( 41:34 ), don’t wrongly consume the wealth of the vulnerable ( 4:29 ), don’t turn your cheek away from people in arrogance ( 31:18 ), forgive others, as you would like allah to forgive you ( 24:22 ), seek prophet’s permission when leaving his gathering ( 24:62 ), don’t hold secret meetings for sin, rather do so for piety ( 58:9 ), don’t order others to do good while forgetting it yourself ( 2:44 ), be patient with your teacher & follow his instructions ( 18:67-69 ), don’t frown, turn away or neglect those who come to you ( 80:10 ), if unable to help a needy person, at least speak nice words ( 17:28 ), be lenient to those under you, and consult them in matters ( 3:159 ), verify information from a dubious source before acting upon it ( 49:6 ), don’t remain in the prophet’s home unnecessarily after a meal ( 33:53 ), those who can should continue to spend on those less fortunate ( 24:22 ), don’t enter homes without permission & return if refused entry ( 24:27-28 ), don’t sit with those who mock religion until they change the subject ( 4:140 ), say it’s not appropriate to talk of slander when it’s mentioned to you ( 24:16 ), if required to ask the prophet’s wives, then do so from behind a screen ( 33:53 ), divorce in an amicable manner instead of keeping & harming your wife ( 2:231 ), punish in an equivalent manner to how you were harmed or be patient ( 16:126 ), differences in color & language are signs of allah, not means of superiority ( 49:13 ), don’t take women by force, nor take back bridal gift without a valid reason & live with them in kindness ( 4:19 ), share this:, 209 comments.

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Ibn ʿAqīl al-Ḥanbalī’s Essay on Islamic Manners

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This book is a translation of Ibn ʿAqīl al-Ḥanbalī’s (d. 513/1119) essay on Islamic manners, Fuṣūl al-ādāb wa makārim al-akhlāq al-mashrūʿa. It presents a significant number of commendable etiquettes Muslims are required to observe for everyday living and dealings. Ibn ʿAqīl’s essay is considered to be the shortest, and the earliest extant work from the Ḥanbalī school on Islamic manners. The language employed in the translation has been kept simple, straightforward, and modern to make the work accessible to everyone. This bilingual edition, with its parallel Arabic text, will allow readers to access the original Arabic and hopefully help with vocabulary building, oracy, and future translations. In Islam, good manners (ādāb) are required and admired; and it’s developed through study and practice. It is hoped the translation, Ibn ʿAqīl al-Ḥanbalī’s essay on Islamic Manners becomes a means to refine manners better. Available here: https://daralarqam.bigcartel.com/product/essay-on-islamic-manners

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Manners in Islam

by Mohammad Akram Nadwi

Our manners are, after our skin, and then our clothes, the point of contact between us and the world, especially other people. It is an interface that should be looked after and kept in good order. Just as we care for our body’s cleanliness and good health, and just as we care that our clothes are clean and do not offend others or leave a bad impression, so also we should regard manners as something requiring regular attention and maintenance. In Islam, manners are not a superficial polish, nor a specialised routine for special occasions, nor a preserve of the upper classes. Rather, the same manners are commended for all Muslims, of high or low status, rich or poor, and for all occasions.

The basic rules are (1) that we strive to do no harm by the way we speak or eat or dress or do any business in the world, and (2) that we strive to do some good by the way we speak or eat or dress or do any business in the world. In both cases, sincerity is a requirement. In fact, since insincerity is a type of doing harm it is safest to avoid it by striving not to be too fussy, too pleasing or too charming, but to keep things at a steady, simple level, which can be sustained and which can be the same for most situations. You may ask: how can we know what this steady level is?

There is no rigid definition; it is relative to time and place and occasion. Nevertheless, we can apply a couple of test questions that, I find, always give a pretty good indication of what the level should be. First, I ask: am I behaving like this – dressing like this or speaking like this, etc. – because that is what the situation requires or just in order to impress? Second, I ask: am I behaving like this because I consider myself to be strong or weak in relation to the other person? Doing things just to impress other people is a tremendous drain on resources – time, energy and wealth – and most of the time it can be avoided. It cannot always be avoided, unfortunately. Under the rule of doing no harm, sometimes we have to go along with the manners of others, in order not to offend – but in these cases, we can keep our involvement to the minimum (I am thinking of elaborate weddings and expensive banquets). More serious is the issue of disparities in power: to behave differently just because someone is weaker or stronger than ourselves implies a weak understanding of our equality of being as creatures of the one-same and only Creator. Any position of superiority in respect of someone else is in reality an added burden of responsibility and should be considered as a moral test. Most of the time, we fail this test. We behave too timidly before social superiors, and fail to correct or challenge them when they are doing wrong – of course there are rules within Islamic manners about how to correct or challenge social superiors. On the other side, we behave too impatiently or unkindly to social inferiors, and fail to take sufficient account of their independent right to have their opinion, or their tastes, or their needs, just as we like to have ours.

Behind these failures in manners is a failure to understand correctly what is due from us to our Creator. I try to imagine myself in the situation of the Prophet Yusuf, `alayhi s-salam , alone in the well, with no-one to rely on except God. How he thinks and speaks then is how we should hope to maintain our good manners in relation to God. I try to imagine myself in his situation of powerlessness among strangers in a strange land, the temptation presented to him, and how he survives that, and how he behaves to his fellow-prisoners and then to the king. Precisely because he has a strong, clear hold on his duty to his Creator, his manners and his decisions are consistently impeccable, consistently wise, and, eventually, lead to the best outcome. Clarity and strength in our manners with respect to God is the only secure means, through the diverse trials of life, of inclining to forgive others and deserving forgiveness ourselves. The being inclined to forgive the mistakes of others, while constantly alert to our own need to be forgiven our mistakes, is the heart of good manners: without that heart, manners degenerate into routines and artifice, surface polish, a burden.

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Understanding the etiquettes of islam: a guide to practicing proper islamic manners.

In this fast-paced world, where social norms and behaviors are constantly evolving, it becomes crucial for us to revisit the age-old principles that guide our actions and interactions. This is especially true when it comes to matters of faith and spirituality. For Muslims around the globe, adhering to the etiquettes of Islam is not only a religious obligation but also a way of embodying their faith in everyday life.

Good manners hold immense importance in Islam, as they reflect an individual’s character and his or her relationship with both Allah and fellow human beings. Understanding this significance lays the foundation for practicing proper Islamic manners – a concept known as “Adab”.

So, let’s delve deeper into the core values, principles, and examples that define these etiquettes to better comprehend how we can incorporate them into our daily lives. Whether it’s through small gestures or meaningful interactions, embracing these teachings will undoubtedly lead us towards becoming better individuals within our communities.

Understanding the Importance of Good Manners in Islam

The Importance of Good Manners in Islam:

1. Reflecting Faith:

Good manners are considered an integral part of practicing Islam, as they reflect a person’s faith and devotion to Allah. It is believed that those who possess good manners have a deeper connection with their Creator.

2. Enhancing Relationships:

Islamic etiquettes emphasize the importance of treating others with kindness, respect, and compassion. By embodying these principles in our interactions, we can foster harmonious relationships within our families, communities, and society at large.

3. Strengthening Community Bonds:

The etiquettes of Islam encourage Muslims to be actively engaged members of their community. Through acts of kindness and consideration towards others, individuals contribute to the overall well-being and unity within their community.

4. Setting Examples for Others:

Practicing good manners not only benefits oneself but also serves as a source of inspiration for others around us. When we demonstrate respectful behavior in our daily lives, it encourages others to follow suit and promotes positive change within society.

5. Attaining Spiritual Rewards:

In Islam, every action performed with sincerity and according to the teachings holds spiritual significance. Engaging in polite conduct towards others brings blessings from Allah and earns rewards both in this life and the hereafter.

By understanding the profound importance that good manners hold in Islam, we gain insight into how they shape our character development as Muslims. These values pave the way for fulfilling relationships with fellow human beings while fostering personal growth on a spiritual level.

The Concept of Adab in Islam

Adab is a fundamental concept in Islam that encompasses proper etiquette, manners, and conduct. It goes beyond simple politeness and extends to all aspects of life. Adab is deeply rooted in Islamic teachings and serves as a guide for Muslims on how to behave ethically and respectfully.

Adab can be seen as an expression of gratitude towards Allah and a way to show reverence for His creations. It is believed that practicing good adab leads to spiritual growth, strengthens relationships, fosters unity within the community, and ultimately brings one closer to Allah.

In Islam, adab extends not only to interactions with fellow human beings but also includes respect for the environment, animals, and even inanimate objects. It emphasizes humility, patience, kindness, empathy, honesty, forgiveness, and sincerity.

Muslims are encouraged to practice adab in their daily lives through various actions such as saying “Bismillah” before starting any task or endeavoring to begin by reciting the Quran. They are also advised to use gentle words when speaking with others and avoid harsh language or gossip.

Furthermore, “Salaam” is commonly used as a greeting among Muslims which means “peace be upon you.” This greeting reflects the values of love peace, hospitality, and goodwill that should permeate their interactions with others.

By embodying these principles of adab both privately and publicly, Muslims strive towards creating harmony, respecting diversity, and maintaining strong bonds within their communities. Adab also encourages individuals to be mindful of their actions and intentions, recognizing that they are accountable for their deeds in the sight of Allah.

In summary, adab is an integral part of Islamic teachings that promotes a harmonious and ethical way of life. It serves as a reminder for Muslims to always strive towards being kind, respectful, and compassionate towards others, and to always maintain a strong connection with Allah. 

Core Values and Principles of the Etiquettes of Islam

Understanding the Core Values and Principles of the Etiquette of Islam is essential for every Muslim. These principles guide Muslims in their daily interactions and help create a harmonious society based on respect, compassion, and righteousness.

One of the core values in Islamic etiquette is sincerity. Muslims are taught to perform acts of kindness and good deeds solely for the sake of pleasing Allah, rather than seeking recognition or praise from others. This fosters humility and selflessness in individuals.

Honesty is highly valued in Islam. Muslims are encouraged to always speak the truth and be trustworthy in their dealings with others. Honesty promotes trustworthiness within communities and strengthens bonds between individuals.

Furthermore, patience plays an integral role in Islamic etiquette. Patience helps believers endure trials and tribulations with grace while maintaining a positive attitude. It teaches Muslims to control their anger or frustration when faced with challenging situations.

Respect for elders holds great significance as well. In Islam, showing reverence towards older individuals is considered honorable behavior. Younger generations are expected to display kindness, obedience, and care towards their elders as a way of upholding family values.

Forgiveness is another key principle within Islamic etiquette. Forgiving those who have wronged us enables us to let go of grudges or resentment that may hinder personal growth or relationships with others.

By embracing these core values and principles of Islamic etiquettes into our lives, we can foster unity within our communities while striving towards becoming better human beings guided by faith.

Examples of Proper Islamic Manners: From Daily Practices to Interpersonal Relationships

1. daily practices:.

– Greeting with As-Salamu Alaykum (peace be upon you) and responding with Wa-Alaykum As-Salam (and peace be upon you). – Saying Bismillah (in the name of Allah) before starting any activity, such as eating or entering a room. – Seeking forgiveness from Allah by saying Astaghfirullah (I seek forgiveness from Allah) for any mistakes or sins committed.

2. Personal Hygiene:

– Performing ablution (wudu) before prayer, which involves washing hands, face, arms, and feet. – Keeping oneself clean and maintaining good personal hygiene at all times.

3. Respectful Behavior:

– Speaking politely and using kind words when interacting with others. – Respecting elders by standing up to greet them and listening attentively when they speak.

4. Social Etiquettes:

– Being generous by giving charity and helping those in need. – Visiting the sick and offering prayers for their recovery.

5. Family Relations:

– Showing love, respect, and obedience towards parents. – Treating siblings kindly and resolving conflicts amicably.

Incorporating these etiquettes into our daily lives promotes harmony within ourselves as well as in our relationships with others. These practices reflect the core values of Islam: compassion, humility, patience, justice, honesty, and mercy.

By following these examples of proper Islamic manners, every individual can contribute to building a society that is characterized by kindness, respect, and empathy.

By practicing good manners based on Islamic principles we can create an environment where everyone feels valued, dignified, and loved.

How to Incorporate Islamic Etiquettes into Daily Life?

1. Start with Intention: Every action we take should be done to please Allah and follow His commandments. Before beginning any task, whether it’s eating, working, or interacting with others, make a conscious effort to have a pure intention.

2. Seek Knowledge: Learning about the etiquettes of Islam is essential in incorporating them into our daily lives. Attend Islamic classes or workshops that focus on teaching proper manners and conduct according to Islamic teachings. This will help us better understand how to apply these etiquettes in different situations.

3. Practice Gratitude: Expressing gratitude is an important aspect of Islamic manners. Take time each day to reflect on your blessings and thank Allah for them. Develop the habit of saying “Alhamdulillah” (Praise be to Allah) frequently throughout the day as a reminder of gratitude.

4. Be Mindful of Speech : The way we speak can greatly impact our relationships and interactions with others. Islam emphasizes speaking kindly and avoiding harmful speech such as gossip, backbiting, or lying. Strive to choose your words carefully and speak positively at all times.

5. Establish Routine Acts of Worship:  Incorporating routine acts of worship like praying five times a day, reciting the Quran regularly, giving charity, and fasting during Ramadan helps purify our hearts and strengthens our connection with Allah. These acts not only enhance our spirituality but also promote good manners by instilling self-discipline, patience, and compassion within us.

By consciously implementing these practices in our daily lives consistently over time, the etiquettes of Islam become ingrained habits that shape character and improve relationships with both Allah and fellow human beings.

Resala Academy Offers Online Islamic Studies Classes

In today’s fast-paced world, finding time for traditional classroom-based learning can be a challenge. However, thanks to the advancements in technology, Resala Academy now offers online Islamic studies classes that provide a convenient and flexible way for individuals to deepen their knowledge of Islam.

At Resala Academy, students have access to a wide range of courses taught by experienced and qualified instructors. Whether you are a beginner looking for an introduction to Islamic principles or an advanced learner seeking in-depth knowledge on various topics such as Quranic studies or Hadith sciences, there is something for everyone.

The online platform allows students to learn at their own pace and from the comfort of their own homes. With 24/7 access to course materials, lectures, and interactive discussions, individuals can fit their studies around busy schedules without compromising on quality education.

One of the key advantages of enrolling in online Islamic studies classes at Resala Academy is the opportunity to connect with fellow learners from different parts of the world. Through virtual classrooms and discussion forums, students can engage in meaningful conversations about Islam with peers who share similar interests and perspectives.

Whether you are a student seeking personal growth or someone interested in gaining a deeper understanding of Islamic teachings, Resala Academy’s online courses offer a valuable opportunity for spiritual development within your time frame. Take advantage of this innovative approach to learning and embark on your journey toward strengthening your faith while expanding your knowledge base.

1. What are some common Islamic etiquettes that every Muslim should follow?

Some common Islamic etiquettes include saying “Bismillah” before starting any task, using the right hand for eating and drinking, being respectful towards elders, greeting others with a smile and Salam (peace), speaking softly and avoiding vulgar language, dressing modestly according to Islamic guidelines, and practicing honesty in all dealings.

2. How can I incorporate Islamic etiquettes into my daily life?

Incorporating Islamic etiquettes into daily life starts with having awareness and mindfulness of our actions. By consciously applying these manners in our interactions with family members, friends, colleagues, and strangers alike, we can create an atmosphere of kindness and respect around us.

3. Why is it important to practice proper manners in Islam?

Practicing proper manners is not only part of the Sunnah (the teachings and practices of Prophet Muhammad) but also a reflection of faith itself. It demonstrates one’s commitment to following the path set by Allah Almighty. Moreover, good manners contribute to fostering strong relationships within families and communities.

4. Are there specific rules for online behavior in Islam?

While there may not be explicit rules regarding online behavior mentioned in classical texts or scripture directly addressing social media platforms or internet usage as they exist today; however, general principles such as honesty in speech apply regardless of the medium used.

5. Where can I learn more about Islamic etiquette?

To deepen your understanding of Islamic etiquette further or gain knowledge on various aspects of Islam like Quranic studies or Hadiths (sayings/teachings attributed to Prophet Muhammad), websites like Resala Academy offer comprehensive online courses taught by qualified scholars who provide guidance based on authentic sources.

Understanding and practicing proper Islamic manners is not only a fundamental aspect of being a Muslim but also plays a crucial role in fostering unity, harmony, and peace within the community. The etiquettes of Islam encompass all aspects of life, from daily practices to interpersonal relationships.

By embodying the core values and principles of Islam such as kindness, humility, respect, honesty, and patience, we can create an environment that promotes love and compassion towards one another. Through small acts like greeting with salaam (peace), smiling at others, offering help to those in need, showing gratitude for blessings received, and maintaining cleanliness both physically and spiritually – we can exemplify the teachings of Prophet Muhammad (pbuh) who was known for his impeccable manners.

It is important to remember that incorporating Islamic etiquettes into our daily lives requires consistent effort. By seeking knowledge through reputable sources such as Resala Academy’s online Islamic studies classes or consulting with knowledgeable scholars or mentors within our communities; we can deepen our understanding of these etiquettes and strive to implement them in every facet of our lives.

Let us aspire to be ambassadors of good character by upholding the ethics taught by Islam. By doing so, we contribute not only to our personal spiritual growth but also foster an atmosphere where everyone feels valued and respected.

So let us begin this journey towards practicing proper Islamic manners today – making a conscious effort each day to improve ourselves while spreading peace and positivity among those around us. Together, let’s build bridges between hearts based on love for Allah (SWT) – transcending barriers created by differences in culture or background – and uniting under the banner of Islam!

May Allah (SWT) guide us all on this path towards righteousness!

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Mind Your Manners

Advice for muslim youth.

Islam places great emphasis on manners and on the proper way to deal with others, regardless of age, sex, colour, religion, or creed.

Relations between people are very important in Islam, and maintaining good dealings with others should be a main priority for all practicing Muslims of all ages.

4 Lessons From Prophet Muhammad's Perfect Character

The importance of this is illustrated in the hadith by Prophet Muhammad (PBUH), who summarised the goal of his entire message into the perfection of the best of manners, where he cited:

“I have been sent to perfect the best of manners. The Prophet (PBUH) was sent for the mercy of mankind, for the goodness of mankind, and for the guidance of mankind”.

Regarding this, Allah Almighty says:

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“And We have sent you (O Muhammad): not but as a mercy for the ‘Âlamîn (mankind, jinn and all that exists)”. (21:107)

Good manners apply to everyone because they cover areas of universal understanding.

They must remain with us and shall forever remain so, as they apply to all social conduct in all areas of society.

These manners should become a day-to-day practice where we show people respect, act with kindness, avoid unsuitable behaviour, use appropriate language, make others comfortable, and otherwise make reasonable efforts to not offend others.

For Young Muslims, Make It a Habit

The following guidelines and tips are for our young readers and also serve as a reminder to myself.

It is a reminder of why it is so important to respect our parents and elders for what they have to impart to us that will help ease our journey through life.

Parents and elders should always be respected, as you want them to respect you.

Remember, this is part of our faith, and this leads to good morals and manners, which in turn reinforce this faith.

These good morals and manners should be observed in one’s personal life as well as in one’s relationships with others.

Be Kind to Your Parents

Islam has raised the importance of kindness to parents to the highest possible level. In numerous verses of the holy Qur’an, kindness to parents is mentioned immediately after belief in God.

Compassion for parents is obligatory. It means:

• To be humble with them,
• To speak to them politely,
• To look at them with love and respect,
• To speak in a tone that does not exceed theirs unless they are hard of hearing,
• To give them complete access to your own wealth,
• And offer them the best of your food and drinks.

Bear in mind that you were once weak and helpless, and they raised you to be the good Muslim you are today.

Always respect your parents’ wisdom, knowledge, grace, and fortitude. We need to understand that they have done the best they could.

They have nurtured and made us, and now it’s time to do the same for them.

We should try our utmost to avoid upsetting them and should seek their pleasure as much as possible.

After all, pleasing one’s parents is one of the most virtuous acts.

Allah says:

“And your lord has commanded that you shall not serve (any) but him, and goodness to your parents. If either or both of them reach old age with you, say not to them (so much as) “ugh” nor chide them, and speak to them a generous word.” [17: 23]

This should also be applied to any elders you deal with. Recognise the status of the elderly and give them due respect.

When walking with them, walk slightly behind them and let them enter and exit first.

Respect the Elders

When you meet them, greet them properly and respectfully. Do it with grace, not just because the person is older than you. Do it because they matter as human beings.

Those of Good Character Have Good Imaan

You’ll find your attitude shifts a great deal when thinking this way.

When you discuss something with the elderly, let them speak first and listen to them attentively and graciously; talk directly to them, not around them.

If the conversation involves debate, you should remain polite, calm, and gentle.

Always keep in mind that they are more experienced and wise, and ensure that you speak to them in a low tone.

When you address them, never forget to remain respectful. It doesn’t take much to please both your elders, and the rewards are guaranteed to be endless.

Remember, one day it will be you the elder. How would you like to be treated?

On reflection, are you treating your parents and the elderly people in your life the way you would like to be treated? If not, now is the time to begin.

Lastly, smile and be gracious when in the company of your parents and older people.

Your own life will be enriched simply by being open to including them in it.

It is reported that the Prophet Muhammad (peace and blessings be upon him) said:

“Whoever does not respect our elders, is not compassionate to our youth, and does not give our scholars due honour is not of us”.

He also said:

“The most beloved of God’s servants are those with the best manners.”

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Good Manners in Islam: Quotes from Quran and Hadiths

Islam asks people to inculcate good manners and refrain from shameful deeds in all walks of life.

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What is virtue in islam, who are righteous, don’t conspire, be reasonable and rational, don’t be arrogant & boastful, don’t commit injustice, good and evil are not equal, wrongdoers are destructive allies, don’t harbor suspicion, dress properly, honor kinship ties, conduct affairs by mutual consultations, who is best amongst people, prefer good company, don’t show-off, criteria of good or bad, be thankful, help the oppressed, praise allah, have good intentions, copying others, promote good traditions, feed poor people, greeting others, be truthful, overcome anger, feed poor, visit sick, and free slaves, gender roles, obey prophet (pbuh), respect neighbours, gathering rules, vowing is forbidden, don’t quarrel, don’t wish for death, be trustworthy, pay your debts, what allah has forbidden, guardianship and responsibility, don’t cheat in business, look after poor and widow, spend on family, treat animals with kindness, don’t criticize the food, speak clearly, refrain from doubtful matters, don’t innovate in religion, don’t be miserly or extravagant, travel in groups, don’t be devil’s advocate, don’t make false accusations.

Islam diligently focuses on the aspect of imbibing good manners, character, and virtues.

Additionally, it enjoins us to cultivate a temperament of rationality, hope, and optimism in all walks of life. Prophet Muhammad (PBUH) asked people to make Islam beautiful with their graceful conduct and helping attitude.

A person once inquired the Prophet (PBUH) about Islam. The Prophet (PBUH) replied that Islam is the act of speaking kind words and feeding people. Later, when asked again about Islam, he told that Islam is also the act of being patient and forgiving.

In several of its verses, Quran asks people to inculcate good manners and refrain from all kinds of sinful and unjust deeds. 

Read this to learn more about Good manners in Islam and its insistence on imbibing good virtues and character.

Virtue does not consist in whether you face the East or the West;  virtue means  believing in God, the Last Day, the angels, the Book, and the prophets; the virtuous are those who, despite their love for it, give away their wealth to their relatives and to orphans and the very poor, and to travelers and those who ask for charity, and to set slaves free, and who attend to their prayers and pay the alms, and who keep their pledges when they make them, and show patience in hardship and adversity, and in times of distress. Such are the true believers, and such are the God-fearing . Al-Quran 2:177 

Verily Man is in loss, except such as have faith, and do righteous deeds, and (join together) in the mutual teaching of truth, and of patience and constancy . Al-Quran 103:2-3 

O ye who believe! When ye hold secret counsel, do it not for iniquity and hostility, and disobedience to the Prophet; but  do it for righteousness and self-restraint ; and fear Allah, to Whom you shall be brought back . Al-Quran 58:9 

Verily, with every difficulty there is a relief.  Therefore, when thou art free,  still labor hard . Al-Quran 94:7-8 

It is prescribed, when death approaches any of you, if he leaves any goods that he makes a bequest to parents and next of kin,  according to reasonable usage ; this is due from the Allah-fearing . Al-Quran 2:180

Worship Allah ˹alone˺ and associate none with Him. And be kind to parents, relatives, orphans, the poor, near and distant neighbours, close friends, ˹needy˺ travellers, and those ˹bondspeople˺ in your possession. Surely Allah does not like whoever is arrogant, boastful. Holy Quran 4:36

Have you ˹O Prophet˺ not seen those who ˹falsely˺ elevate themselves? It is Allah who elevates whoever He wills. And none will be wronged ˹even by the width of˺ the thread of a date stone. Holy Quran 4:49

Recite what is sent of the Book by inspiration to thee, and establish regular Prayer: for Prayer restrains from shameful and unjust deeds, and remembrance of Allah is the greatest (thing in life) without a doubt. And Allah knows the (deeds) that ye do. Holy Quran 29:45

Eschew all sin, open or secret: those who earn sin will get due recompense for their “earnings.” Holy Quran 6:120 

Nor can goodness and Evil be equal. Repel (Evil) with what is better:  Then will he between whom and thee was hatred become as it were thy friend and intimate ! Al-Quran 41:34

This is how We make the wrongdoers ˹destructive˺ allies of one another because of their misdeeds . 6:129

O ye who believe! Avoid suspicion as much (as possible): for suspicion in some cases is a sin: And spy not on each other behind their backs. Would any of you like to eat the flesh of his dead brother? Nay, ye would abhor it… But fear Allah: For Allah is Oft-Returning, Most Merciful . Al-Quran 49:12 

O ye Children of Adam! We have bestowed raiment upon you to cover your shame, as well as to be an adornment to you. But the raiment of righteousness,- that is the best. Such are among the Signs of Allah, that they may receive admonition ! Al-Quran 7:26

Invite (all) to the Way of thy Lord with wisdom and beautiful preaching; and argue with them in ways that are best and most gracious: for thy Lord knoweth best, who have strayed from His Path, and who receive guidance . Al-Quran 16:125

Al-Quran 42:23 It is that of which Allah gives good tidings to His servants who believe and do righteous deeds. Say, [O Muhammad], “I do not ask you for this message any payment [but] only good will through kinship.” And whoever commits a good deed – We will increase for him good therein. Indeed, Allah is Forgiving and Appreciative.

Sahih al-Bukhari Vol. 8, Book 76, Hadith 541: Narrated Abu Huraira: Allah’s Messenger said, “ Whoever has wronged his brother, should ask for his pardon (before his death), as (in the Hereafter) there will be neither a Dinar nor a Dirham. (He should secure pardon in this life) before some of his good deeds are taken and paid to his brother, or, if he has done no good deeds, some of the bad deeds of his brother are taken to be loaded on him (in the Hereafter) .

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Those who hearken to their Lord, and establish regular Prayer; who (conduct) their affairs by mutual Consultation ; who spend out of what We bestow on them for Sustenance; And those who, when an oppressive wrong is inflicted on them, (are not cowed but) help and defend themselves. The recompense for an injury is an injury equal thereto (in degree): but if a person forgives and makes reconciliation , his reward is due from Allah: for (Allah) loveth not those who do wrong. But indeed if any do help and defend themselves after a wrong (done) to them, against such there is no cause of blame. The blame is only against those who oppress men and wrong-doing and insolently transgress beyond bounds through the land, defying right and justice: for such there will be a penalty grievous . But indeed if anyone shows patience and forgive, that would truly be an exercise of courageous will and resolution in the conduct of affairs. Al-Quran 42:38-43

Sahih al-Bukhari Vol 8, Book 73, No. 56: Narrated Masruq-‘ Abdullah bin ‘Amr added,   Allah’s Apostle said, ‘The best among you are those who have the best manners and character .”

Sunan Abi Dawud 4799 Narrated AbudDarda’: The Prophet (ﷺ) said: There is nothing heavier than good character put in the scale of a believer on the Day of Resurrection.

Sunan Abi Dawud 4682 Narrated Abu Hurayrah: The Prophet (ﷺ) said: The most perfect believer in respect of faith is he who is best of them in manners.

Jami` at-Tirmidhi 1162 Abu Hurairah narrated that The Messenger of Allah said: “The most complete of the believers in faith, is the one with the best character among them. And the best of you are those who are best to your women.”

Mishkat al-Masabih 3263 ‘A’isha reported God’s Messenger as saying, “Among the believers who show most perfect faith are those who have the best disposition and are kindest to their families.” Tirmidhi transmitted it.

And whoever obeys Allah and the Messenger will be in the company of those blessed by Allah: the prophets, the people of truth, the martyrs, and the righteous—what honourable company! Holy Quran 4:69

Mishkat-ul Masabeeh 5813-  Sahabas (r) reported that Prophet was a shy person. When he would see something unpleasant or shameful, we could sense the severe unease on his face .

Sunan Abi Dawud 4795 Abd Allah b. ‘Umar said: The Prophet (ﷺ) passed by a man of the Ansar when he was giving his brother a warning against modesty. The Apostle of Allah (ﷺ) said: Leave him alone, for modesty is a part of faith.

Sunan Abi Dawud 4797 Abu Mas`ud reported the Messenger of Allah (ﷺ) as saying: One of the things people have learned from the words of the earliest prophecy is: If you have no shame, do what you like.

Sunan Abi Dawud 4807 Abd Allah b. Mughaffal reported the Messenger of Allah (ﷺ) as saying: Allah is gentle, likes gentleness, and gives for gentleness what he does not give for harshness.

Sunan Abi Dawud 4809 Narrated Jarir: The Prophet (ﷺ) said: He who is deprived of gentleness is deprived of good.

Mishkat-ul Masabeeh 5331-  If someone prays, fasts, or indulges in philanthropic activities and charity for the sake of show-off, then it’s akin to hypocrisy and blasphemy . 

And who is better in faith than those who ˹fully˺ submit themselves to Allah, do good, and follow the Way of Abraham, the upright? Allah chose Abraham as a close friend. 4:125

Mishkat-ul Masabeeh 4988- Ibn Masood (r) reported that a person once asked Prophet (PBUH) how he can know whether he is a good or a bad person. Prophet replied- “ When you hear your neighbor saying good about you, you are good and if says otherwise, you are bad .”

  Sunan Abi Dawud 4811 Narrated Abu Hurayrah: The Prophet (ﷺ) said: He who does not thank the people is not thankful to Allah.

Sahih Muslim-  Whosoever of you sees an evil, let him change it with his hand;  and if he is not able to do so, then let him change it with his tongue; and if he is not able to do so, then with his heart- and that is the weakest form of faith .

Sunan Abi Dawud 4817 Narrated Umar ibn al-Khattab: The Prophet (ﷺ) said: the same occasion: Help the oppressed (sorrowful) and guide those who have lost their way.

Sunan Abi Dawud 4840 Narrated AbuHurayrah: The Prophet (ﷺ) said: Every important matter which is not begun by an expression of praise to Allah is maimed.

Riyadh-al-saliheen Vol 1, Hadith 7-  Allah does not look at your bodies nor your forms but He looks at your hearts and your actions .

Sahih Bukhari 73- Prophet (s) said- “ Do not wish to be like anyone except in two cases. (The first is) A person, whom Allah has given wealth and he spends it righteously; (the second is) the one whom Allah has given wisdom and he acts according to it and teaches it to others .”

Jami`at-Tirmidhi 2675 Narrated Ibn Jarir bin ‘Abdullah: from his father that the Messenger of Allah (ﷺ) said: “ Whoever starts a good tradition which is followed, then for him is a reward, and the likes of their rewards of whoever follows him, there being nothing diminished from their rewards. And whoever starts a bad tradition which is followed, then for him is the sin, and the likes of the sins of whoever follows him, there being nothing diminished from their sins.”

Sahih Bukhari Volume 1, Book 2, Number 12: A man asked the Prophet, “What sort of deeds or qualities of Islam are good?” The Prophet replied, ‘ To feed (the poor) and greet those whom you know and those whom you do not Know .’ 

Sahih al-Bukhari, Vol 8, Book 74, Number 250: Narrated Abu Huraira: The Prophet said, “ The young should greet the old, the passer-by should greet the sitting one, and the small group of persons should greet the large group of persons .”

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Sahih Bukhari Volume 8, Book 73, Number 116-Allah’s Apostle said- “ Truthfulness leads to righteousness, and righteousness leads to Paradise . And a man keeps on telling the truth until he becomes a truthful person. Falsehood leads to Al Fajur (i.e. wickedness, evil-doing), and Al Fajur (wickedness) leads to the (Hell) Fire, and a man may keep on telling lies till he is written before Allah, a liar. ”

Sahih Bukhari Volume 8, Book 73, Number 83:  Narrated Abu Huraira: The Prophet said, “ Whoever does not give up false statements (i.e. telling lies), and evil deeds, and speaking bad words to others, Allah is not in need of his (fasting) leaving his food and drink .”

• Sahih Bukhari Volume 8, Book 73, Number 135:  Narrated Abu Huraira: Allah’s Apostle said, “ The strong is not the one who overcomes the people by his strength, but the strong is the one who controls himself while in anger .” 
• Sunan Abi Dawud 4779 Abd Allah (b. Mas`ud) reported the Messenger of Allah (ﷺ) as saying: Whom do you consider a wrestler among you? The people replied: (the man) whom the men cannot defeat in wrestling. He said: No, it is he who controls himself when he is angry.

Sahih al-Bukhari Vol 7, Book 65, Number 286, Narrated Abu Musa Al-Ash’ari: The Prophet said, “ Give food to the hungry, pay a visit to the sick and release (set free) the one in captivity (by paying his ransom) .”

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Sahih al-Bukhari Vol 7, Book 72, Number 773, Narrated Ibn ‘Abbas:  Allah’s Apostle cursed those men who are in the similitude (assume the manners) of women and those women who are in the similitude (assume the manners) of men .

O believers! Obey Allah and obey the Messenger and those in authority among you. Should you disagree on anything, then refer it to Allah and His Messenger, if you ˹truly˺ believe in Allah and the Last Day. This is the best and fairest resolution. 4:59

Sahih al-Bukhari Vol 8, Book 73, Number 10: Narrated Abu Sufyan:  That Emperor Heraclius sent for me and asked, “What did the Prophet order you to do?” I replied,  “ He orders us to offer prayers; to give alms; to be chaste, and to keep good relations with our relatives. “

Sahih al-Bukhari Vol 8, Book 73, Number 43, Narrated Aisha:  The Prophet said, “ Gabriel continued to recommend me to treat the neighbors in a kind and polite manner, so much so that I thought that he would order me to make them (my) heirs .”

Sahih al-Bukhari Vol 8, Book 74, Number 286, The Prophet said, “ A man should not make another man get up from his (the latter’s) seat (in a gathering) in order to sit there .”

Sunan Abi Dawud 4851 Abd Allah (b. Mas`ud) reported the Messenger of Allah (ﷺ) as saying: Two persons should not talk privately ignoring the third, for that will grieve him.

Sunan Abi Dawud 4844 Narrated Abdullah ibn Amr ibn al-‘As: The Messenger of Allah (ﷺ) said: One should not sit between two men except with their permission.

Sahih al-Bukhari, Vol. 8, Book 77, Hadith 605: Narrated Ibn Umar:  The Prophet forbade vowing and said, “In fact, vowing does not prevent anything, but it makes a miser to spend his property .”

Sahih al-Bukhari, Vol. 9, Book 89, Hadith 298, Narrated `Aisha: Allah’s Messenger (s) said, “ The most hated person in the sight of Allah, is the most quarrelsome person. “

Sahih al-Bukhari, Vol. 9, Book 90, Hadith 341,  Narrated Saad bin Ubaid:  (the Maula of `Abdur-Rahman bin Azhar) Allah’s Messenger (s) said, “None of you should long for death, for if he is a good man, he may increase his good deeds, and if he is an evil-doer, he may stop the evil deeds and repent.”

Sahih al-Bukhari, Vol. 9, Book 91, Hadith 361: Narrated Anas – The Prophet (PBUH) said, “For every nation, there is an Amin (honest, trustworthy person), and the Amin of this nation is Abu ‘Ubaida . “

Sahih Bukhari, Vol. 9, Book 92, Hadith 382,  Narrated `Abdullah:   The best talk (speech) is Allah’s Book ‘Qur’an), and the best way is the way of Muhammad, and the worst matters are the heresies (those new things which are introduced into the religion); and whatever you have been promised will surely come to pass, and you cannot escape (it) .

Sahih al-Bukhari, Volume 3, Book 41, Number 578, Narrated Abu Huraira, “The Prophet owed a camel of a certain age to a man who came to demand it back. The Prophet ordered his companions to give him. They looked for a camel of the same age but found nothing but a camel one year older. The Prophet told them to give it to him. The man said, “You have paid me in full, and may Allah pay you in full.” The Prophet said, “ The best amongst you is he who pays his debts in the most handsome manner. “

Sahih al-Bukhari Volume 3, Book 41, Number 591, Narrated Al-Mughira bin Shu’ba: The Prophet said, “ Allah has forbidden for you-

• To be undutiful to your mothers,
• To bury your daughters alive,
• To not to pay for the rights of the others (e.g. charity, etc.) and
• To beg of men (begging).

And Allah has hated for you-

• Vain, useless talk, or that you talk too much about others,
• To ask too many questions, (in disputed religious matters), and
• To waste the wealth by extravagance.”

Sahih al-Bukhari Volume 3, Book 41, Number 592, I heard Allah’s Apostle saying, “ Everyone of you is a guardian, and responsible for what is in his custody. The ruler is a guardian of his subjects and responsible for them; a husband is a guardian of his family and is responsible for it; a lady is a guardian of her husband’s house and is responsible for it , and a servant is a guardian of his master’s property and is responsible for it. ” I heard that from Allah’s Apostle and I think that the Prophet also said, “ A man is a guardian of his father’s property and is responsible for it, so all of you are guardians and responsible for your wards and things under your care .”

Sahih al-Bukhari, Volume 3, Book 41, Number 597, Narrated Ibn ‘Umar: A man was often cheated in buying. The Prophet said to him, “When you buy something, say (to the seller), No cheating.” The man used to say so thenceforward .

Sahih Bukhari, Volume 7, Book 64, Number 265:  Narrated Abu Huraira: The Prophet said, “ The one who looks after a widow or a poor person is like a Mujahid (warrior) who fights for Allah’s Cause, or like him who performs prayers all the night and fasts all the day.” 

Sahih al-Bukhari, Volume 7, Book 64, Number 263: Narrated Abu Mas’ud Al-Ansari: The Prophet said, “ When a Muslim spends something on his family intending to receive Allah’s re- ward it is regarded as Sadaqa for him. ” 

Sahih Bukhari, Volume 4, Book 56, Number 673: Narrated Abu Huraira: The Prophet said, “ While a dog was going round a well and was about to die of thirst, an Israeli prostitute saw it and took off her shoe and watered it. So Allah forgave her because of that good deed. ” 

Sahih Bukhari, Volume 4, Book 56, Number 764: Narrated Abu Huraira:  The Prophet never criticized any food (presented to him), but he would eat it if he liked it; otherwise, he would leave it (without expressing his dislike) . 

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Sahih Bukhari, Volume 4, Book 56, Number 768: Narrated ‘Aisha:  The Prophet used to talk so clearly that if somebody wanted to count the number of his words, he could do so . Narrated Urwa bin Az-Zubair: ‘Aisha said (to me), “Don’t you wonder at Abu so-and-so who came and sat by my dwelling and started relating the traditions of Allah’s Apostle intending to let me hear that, while I was performing an optional prayer. He left before I finished my optional prayer. Had I found him still there. I would have said to him, ‘ Allah’s Apostle never talked so quickly and vaguely as you do .”

Sahih Bukhari, Volume 3, Book 34, Number 267: Narrated An-Nu’man bin Bashir: The Prophet said “ Both legal and illegal things are obvious, and in between them are (suspicious) doubtful matters . So whoever forsakes those doubtful things lest he may commit a sin, will definitely avoid what is clearly illegal; and whoever indulges in these (suspicious) doubtful things bravely, is likely to commit what is clearly illegal. Sins are Allah’s Hima (i.e. private pasture) and whoever pastures (his sheep) near it, is likely to get in it at any moment. ” 

Sahih Bukhari, Vol. 9, Book 92, Hadith 382, Narrated `Abdullah:  The best talk (speech) is Allah’s Book ‘Qur’an), and the best way is the way of Muhammad, and the worst matters are the heresies (those new things which are introduced into the religion); and whatever you have been promised will surely come to pass, and you cannot escape (it) .

Those who are stingy, promote stinginess among people, and withhold Allah’s bounties. We have prepared for the disbelievers a humiliating punishment. 4:37

Likewise for those who spend their wealth to show off and do not believe in Allah or the Last Day. And whoever takes Satan as an associate—what an evil associate they have! 4:38

O believers! Take your precautions and go forth either in groups or together. 4:71

Indeed, We have sent down the Book to you ˹O Prophet˺ in truth to judge between people by means of what Allah has shown you. So do not be an advocate for the deceitful. 4:105

Do not advocate for those who wrong themselves. 1  Surely Allah does not like those who are deceitful, sinful. 4:107

And whoever commits an evil or sinful deed then blames it on an innocent person, they will definitely bear the guilt of slander and blatant sin. 4:112

The Muslim has to pay attention to good manners and modesty when he mixes with people

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What is the ruling on deliberately passing wind loudly in front of people?.

Praise be to Allah.

Undoubtedly feeling embarrassed with regard to things that people usually feel embarrassed about and try to avoid is something that is required, and paying attention to people’s customs and what they regard as good or bad is part of good manners; whatever people customarily regard as disliked is blameworthy, and whatever people customarily regard as offensive is offensive – so long as Islam does not teach anything to the contrary. 

Al-Bukhaari (3484) narrated that Abu Mas‘ood (may Allah be pleased with him) said: The Prophet (blessings and peace of Allah be upon him) said: “Among the words of the earlier Prophets that still remain with people are: If you feel no shame, then do as you wish.” 

Al-Haafiz said: The words “then do as you wish” appear in the imperative (a command) but what is meant is a threat, i.e., do as you wish and Allah will requite you. 

Or the meaning may be: look at what you want to do; if it is something that one would not feel ashamed of, then do it, but if it is something that one would feel ashamed of, then do not do it. End quote. 

A Bedouin came to ‘Umar (may Allah be pleased with him) and said: O Ameer al-Mu’mineen, teach me the religion. He said: (It is) to bear witness that there is no God but Allah and that Muhammad is the Messenger of Allah, to establish prayer, to pay zakaah, to perform pilgrimage to the House (the Ka‘bah) and to fast Ramadan; be open and do not be secretive; beware of doing everything that one may feel ashamed of.

Sharh Usool I‘tiqaad Ahl as-Sunnah by al-Laalkaa’i (1/333); Shu‘ab al-Eemaan, 3976 

At-Tabaraani narrated in al-Mu‘jam al-Kabeer (312) from ‘Ikrimah ibn Khaalid that Sa‘d ibn Abi Waqqaas (may Allah be pleased with him) said to his son, when he was dying: O my son, you will never meet anyone more sincere towards you than me. When you want to pray, do your wudoo’ properly, then pray as if you think you will not pray again. Beware of greed, for it is akin to poverty, and you should have a lack of interest (in worldly matters) for it is richness. Beware of doing or saying anything for which you have to apologise. (If you heed this advice), then do what you like. 

A wise man said: Beware of what you may have to apologise for and what you may feel ashamed of being mentioned, for the only thing you have to apologise for is sin and the only thing you have to feel ashamed of is abhorrent actions. 

Makaarim al-Akhlaaq by al-Kharaa’iti, 1/484 

No doubt deliberately passing wind in front of people without any excuse is contrary to modesty and decency. It is a kind of bad manners, the like of which no one does except foolish people. It was narrated from one of the salaf that this action was one of the evils that the people of Loot (peace be upon him) did. 

Allah, may He be glorified and exalted, said (interpretation of the meaning):

“And (remember) Lout (Lot), when he said to his people: ‘You commit Al-Fahishah (sodomy, the worst sin) which none has preceded you in (committing) it in the Alameen (mankind and jinns).

‘Verily, you do sodomy with men, and rob the wayfarer (travellers, etc.)! And practise Al-Munkar (disbelief and polytheism and every kind of evil wicked deed) in your meetings.’”

[al-‘Ankaboot 29:28-29]. 

Ash-Shawkaani said in Fath al-Qadeer (4/285): 

There was a difference of opinion concerning the munkar (evil actions) that they did. It was said that they used to pelt people with stones and show no respect to strangers. And it was said that they used to break wind in their gatherings with no control. And it was said that there was no reason not to believe that they used to do all of these evil actions. Az-Zajjaaj said: In this there is an indication that it is not appropriate for people to get together for the purpose of doing evil deeds or mocking others. End quote. 

It was narrated that Yazeed ibn Bakr al-Laythi said: al-Qaasim ibn Muhammad was asked about the words of Allah, “And practise Al-Munkar (disbelief and polytheism and every kind of evil wicked deed) in your meetings” – what was that munkar (evil)? He said: They used to break wind in their gatherings with no control; one of them would break wind in the direction of another. 

Tafseer Ibn Abi Haatim, 11/425 

A similar report was narrated from ‘Aa’ishah, Ibn ‘Abbaas, al-Qaasim ibn Abi Barzah and others. 

See: Tafseer Ibn Katheer, 6/276; Tafseer at-Tabari, 20/29. al-Jaami‘ li Ahkaam al-Qur’aan, 13/342 

One of the reports which indicate that passing wind is something that one should feel embarrassed about is that which was narrated by Abu Dawood (1114) from ‘Aa’ishah (may Allah be pleased with her) who said: The Prophet (blessings and peace of Allah be upon him) said: “If one of you breaks wind during his prayer, let him hold his nose and leave.” Classed as saheeh by al-Albaani in Saheeh Abi Dawood. 

It says in ‘Awn al-Ma‘bood, 3/326: 

“Let him hold his nose”– al-Khattaabi said: He instructed him to hold his nose so that people would think that he has a nosebleed. This comes under the heading of good manners in concealing a shameful matter, hiding that which is offensive and giving the impression that what has happened is something different. It does not come under the heading of showing off or lying; rather it is a kind of euphemism, observing decency and seeking to protect oneself from people’s criticism. 

This is how people customarily behaved. 

Al-Madaa’ini said: 

One day Ash‘ab sat beside Marwaan ibn Abaan ibn ‘Uthmaan, and there came out of Marwan wind that made a sound. So Ash‘ab got up and left, so that the people would think that he was the one who had passed wind. When Marwan went home, Ash‘ab came to him and said to him: Pay me back. Marwaan said: What for? He said: Pay me back for the wind that I took responsibility for instead of you, otherwise I will embarrass you (by telling people what really happened). And he did not leave him alone until he had settled the matter by taking something from him in return. End quote. 

Nihaayat al-Arab fi Funoon al-Adab, p. 393 

Rather the lack of shame concerning such things is known among nations other than the Muslim ummah. 

Ar-Raaghib said in Muhaadiraat al-Udaba’, 1/445: 

The Indians claimed that holding back wind could cause serious illness and that releasing it spares one from illness, and that it is the greatest remedy. On the day of their gatherings and festivals they do not refrain from passing wind and they do not conceal the passing of gas silently. And they do not see anything wrong with that or regard it as funny. End quote. 

Al-Bukhaari (4942) and Muslim (2855) narrated from ‘Abdullah ibn Zam‘ah (may Allah be pleased with him) that the Prophet (blessings and peace of Allah be upon him) admonished them for laughing at the passing of wind and said: “Why does one of you laugh at what he does?”  

An-Nawawi (may Allah have mercy on him) said: 

This indicates that it is not allowed to laugh when one hears someone else break wind. Rather he should ignore it and carry on with whatever he was doing, without paying any attention to it or anything else, and pretend that he did not hear anything. This is good manners and proper conduct with others. End quote. 

The scholars of the Standing Committee for Issuing Fatwas were asked: 

Nowadays, unfortunately, it happens that people get together and they do not refrain from passing wind, and they laugh at it as if they find it funny. If they are told to stop doing this blameworthy action, they say, it is better than burping, and so on, and that there is no evidence to suggest that it is not allowed. How should we respond to them? May Allah reward you. 

They replied: 

It is not permissible to break wind deliberately or to laugh at that, because it is contrary to decency and dignified manners. That is not like burping, because burping usually happens involuntarily and people do not laugh at it. But if a person passes wind naturally, without doing it deliberately, there is nothing wrong with that and it is not permissible to laugh at it, because it is proven that ‘Abdullah ibn Zam‘ah said: The Prophet (blessings and peace of Allah be upon him) forbade laughing at what comes out of one naturally. Narrated by al-Bukhaari. End quote. 

Fataawa al-Lajnah ad-Daa’imah, 26/222 

With regard to passing wind – even if it makes noise – because of an excuse, such as if one has no control over his flatulence, or a disease in the colon, or one cannot hold it in, then there is nothing wrong with that and it is not permissible for people to laugh at what he does, because of the hadeeth quoted above. 

Rather the issue has to do with the one who does that deliberately, to make his friends laugh, and does not care about what people think or feel embarrassed in front of them, this is what is blameworthy. 

And Allah knows best.

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Manners In Islam

Good manners are an important part of the Islamic faith. Prophet Muhammad (SAW) said, "The best among you are the best in moral character." (Sahih Al Bukhari)

The Prophet (SAW) is the perfect example of best character and morals for humankind. Allah Almighty says in the Quran in Surah Al-Ahzab (Chapter 33, verse 21):

لَّقَدْ كَانَ لَكُمْ فِى رَسُولِ ٱللَّهِ أُسْوَةٌ حَسَنَةٌۭ لِّمَن كَانَ يَرْجُوا۟ ٱللَّهَ وَٱلْيَوْمَ ٱلْـَٔاخِرَ وَذَكَرَ ٱللَّهَ كَثِيرًۭا ٢١

Indeed, in the Messenger of Allah, you have an excellent example for whoever has hope in Allah and the Last Day and remembers Allah often.

The Quran and Sunnah of the Prophet Muhammad (SAW) teach us to:

Show kindness to others.

Be forgiving.

Treat others with respect.

Don't lie, no matter how difficult telling the truth is.

Do not backbite or gossip about others.

Control your anger. Do not say bad words to others, no matter how angry or upset you are.

Always speak pleasantly and politely, and do not scream or shout at others.

Be kind and gentle with animals. Do not hurt or abuse them.

Help others in their time of need.

Don't waste food or resources.

Always be humble and show humility, no matter how great your achievements are.

Don't call others bad names or make fun of their names or other attributes.

Always be respectful of your teachers.

Be just and fair in any argument or dispute.

Always keep yourself and your home clean.

Always keep your promises to others.

Do not insult or be rude to others, especially your parents.

Always be kind and respectful towards elders, especially parents.

Be good and welcoming to guests.

Don't make fun of others or bully them.

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